Existential Anxiety: What It Is and How To Cope

You’ve just gone through a major life change. You didn’t really see it coming, and you’re flooded with intense emotions as you try to process it. You suddenly find yourself questioning your very existence, and you’re anxious thinking about your future and purpose. What’s going on? 

In this post, we’ll gain insight into existential anxiety — what it is, what causes it, and how we can cope with it in a healthy, effective way. Let’s dive in!

What Is Existential Anxiety?

Simply put, existential anxiety is a type of anxiety that arises from thinking about yourself, your life, or your existence. It can cause intense discomfort, distress, and unease, as well as all-encompassing doubts about your purpose and future. 

One hallmark of existential anxiety is examining the meaning of a general worry or thought, which can turn into angst about the meaning of life itself. It’s not uncommon for people struggling with existential anxiety to become consumed by questions such as “Why am I here?” “How did I come to be?” and “What is my purpose in life?”

According to experts, there are four main concepts at the root of existential anxiety:

1. The inevitability of death
2. Meaninglessness
3. Isolation
4. Freedom and responsibility 

Although existential anxiety is a normal part of the human experience, in extreme cases it can cause prolonged distress and negatively affect our health and well-being. However, when properly addressed, it can be a catalyst for growth and change.

What Causes Existential Anxiety?

Existential anxiety can emerge from a variety of sources. For instance, major life events or changes can trigger a person to rethink their values, beliefs, and goals, causing them to worry about their future. 

Experts believe 5 main things can trigger existential anxiety: 

1. The death of a loved one. Losing a loved one can be a difficult, painful experience, no matter how much time we have to prepare. The grieving process often entails evaluating our own place in the universe. This can trigger existential anxiety as we consider what we want our own legacy to be.
2. Big life changes. We might experience existential anxiety during big life changes, such as weddings, babies, new houses, or moving to a new area. These disrupt our established patterns and routines, and they can cause us to reevaluate our values and priorities. 
3. Aging. Aging can trigger existential anxiety since it causes us to reflect on our past and wonder about our future. If our lives haven’t gone as planned, or if we feel we haven’t lived up to our potential, we might be overcome with despair, regret, or a feeling of hopelessness.
4. Losing a job or feeling stuck in a career. Losing a job or feeling stuck in a career you don’t like can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. We might have to confront underlying questions about our direction, goal, accomplishments and desires.
5. World events. Things like terrorism, pandemics (such as COVID), climate change, and catastrophes can create existential anxiety, even if we’re not directly affected. They remind us of life’s fragility and how little control we actually have.

This list is by no means exhaustive! While these are some of the more common triggers for existential anxiety, people may still experience it in different contexts and settings.

What Are the Health Risks of Existential Anxiety?

It’s important to understand existential anxiety because, left unchecked, it can wreak havoc on our mental and physical health. If we ignore it, suppress it, or avoid it, existential anxiety can disrupt our quality of life and negatively affect our well-being. 

These are some of the health risks associated with existential anxiety:

• Depression
• Anxiety disorders
• Relationship problems
• Insecurity
• Sense of pointlessness and lack of motivation
• Hopelessness
• Discouragement with life
• Emptiness
• Feeling overwhelmed
• Lack of positive contributions to society 

In extreme cases, existential anxiety can lead to suicide. This is why it’s so important to recognize the signs and symptoms — and to reach out for help when we need to.

The Upside of Existential Anxiety

So what about the benefits of existential anxiety — are there any? Yes! Existential anxiety isn’t all negative — as long as we manage it properly (more to come on that, below). Even though it’s distressing and uncomfortable, it can actually create positive outcomes. In fact, it can help us develop perspective, a sense of direction, and come to terms with our mortality so we can live a fulfilling life. 

Experts suggest that existential anxiety can also relieve boredom and motivate us to grow and change. Sometimes, a bit of tension helps move us forward. Furthermore, confronting our existential anxiety can bring us greater self-awareness, self-actualization, and a sense of purpose.

8 Tips for Coping With Existential Anxiety

As we’ve noted, it’s vital to cope with existential anxiety so it doesn’t wreak havoc on our well-being. While we can’t expect our angst to disappear entirely, we can develop tools to help us manage it in a healthy, productive way. Here are 8 tips: 

1. Accept the uncertainty. A lot of existential anxiety comes from feeling a sense of uncertainty — about your life, your future, or yourself. Sometimes we try to resist this uncertainty, but that only makes it worse. Instead, try embracing it and loosening the need for control. There’s a great sense of freedom that comes from “surrendering” to the unknown.
2. Reflect on your anxiety. Try to get to the root of your anxiety. You can do this by paying attention to your anxious thoughts and feelings and looking for any patterns. For instance, track the times when you’re feeling overly anxious and times when you feel a bit more at peace. What are you doing, and how can you create more experiences that you enjoy?
3. Break things down. One problem with existential anxiety is that it can make us feel overwhelmed by everything all at the same time. We can’t expect to tackle our issues all at once, so try breaking them up into smaller chunks. For instance, choose one aspect of your life that is bothering you and then identify small action steps to help you move forward.
4. Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness can help us combat existential anxiety by keeping us focused on the present moment rather than ruminating over problems or worries. We can practice mindfulness by bringing attention to our bodily sensations and feelings, and accepting them without judgment. Even just focusing on your breath can help ground you in the here and now. 
5. Keep a gratitude journal. There’s something about writing down the things we’re thankful for that has a peaceful and calming effect. It also trains our mind to look for all the good in our life, which boosts our mood and outlook. They don’t have to be big, giant things — consider the small things, like a beautiful flower or a hot cup of coffee. 
6. Identify your strengths. Take some time to consider your strengths. We all have unique qualities that make us who we are, and tapping into them can lead to a sense of fulfillment in life. If you don’t know your strengths, try taking a strengths survey or personality test to learn more about yourself.
7. Try new activities. Sometimes the best thing we can do to get out of a funk or overcome anxious feelings is to try something new. Consider exploring new hobbies or activities, which can help us discover a new passion or find a new sense of purpose. This might include taking a cooking class, joining a volunteer organization, or signing up for a new exercise class. 
8. Talk to a therapist. If your symptoms are getting worse and you just can’t seem to get a grip, seek the help of a professional. A therapist or counselor can help us explore our anxiety in a safe environment, and offer strategies to help us manage it effectively. Remember: existential anxiety is a universal human experience, and there’s nothing wrong with getting help  — we aren’t meant to struggle alone!

The only way to decrease existential anxiety is to confront it, explore it, and accept it as part of the human experience. As the famous psychologist Carl Jung once said, “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.”

The Bottom Line

Existential anxiety can be very uncomfortable, causing us to question ourselves, our future, and our purpose. But it can also help usher us into a more fulfilling life if we learn to accept it and manage it properly. If we’re trying to numb our anxiety or feelings with alcohol, our existential anxiety will likely worsen. Instead, we can benefit from confronting it head on and seeking outside help if necessary.

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