If you’re wondering how to talk to an alcoholic in denial, you’re not alone. Do alcoholics know they are alcoholics? And what can you do to help? Learn all about it in our latest blog.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
It might start small. Maybe they seem to be going out every weekend. Then the weekend starts on Thursday, then Wednesday. First, the reasons to drink might sound more like reasons to celebrate. (“It’s trivia night! It’s Margarita Wednesday at the bar!”) Then excuses and justifications start coming up. (“It was a work event — I had to drink, or I’d stand out.” “A friend was in town this Tuesday, she dragged me to this bar, I wasn’t even planning to go.” “I had a rough lunch with the in-laws, that calls for a margarita, doesn’t it?”) Then come the hurtful comments, the wine breath in the middle of the afternoon, the bottles you happen to see sticking out of the hamper or hear as they clink in their backpack.
The problem? They say they’re fine. That they’re in control. That it was a one-time thing. Whatever the situation is, though, you know it’s only going to get worse. But what can you do? You take your questions to Google, searching “how to talk to an alcoholic in denial,” “do alcoholics know they are alcoholics,” and so forth. Until you’re thoroughly confused. Everyone has something different to say about alcoholism denial, and you’re no closer to getting an actual answer. Let’s clear it up, shall we?
First things first: let’s take a step back and see what we’re dealing with. Most of us will come into contact with the negative effects of alcohol on someone close to us, and some of us might even struggle with it ourselves. Alcohol has a sneaky way of taking over — not just our evenings, but months, years, and decades of our lives.
Here’s how Annie Grace describes it in This Naked Mind: “Alcohol erases a bit of you every time you drink it. It can even erase entire nights when you are on a binge. Alcohol does not relieve stress; it erases your senses and your ability to think. Alcohol ultimately erases your self.”
But why does alcohol hold such power over some of us? And what does being an “alcoholic” actually mean? Let’s take a deeper look.
Alcoholism — better known as alcohol use disorder (AUD) in the medical community — refers to a physical dependence on alcohol that sets in after a period of misuse. It can take years (or even decades) to develop, and some of us might be more vulnerable than others for reasons that have to do with genetics, social circumstances, or emotional tendencies. Ultimately, however, nobody is immune: alcohol is an addictive substance that causes shifts in brain chemistry, making it increasingly difficult to take a step back.
The change can be gradual, and it can be hard to pinpoint when problem drinking changes into misuse and dependence. Sometimes it might be more obvious from the outside perspective, but usually the person sliding into alcohol
Understanding the nature of alcoholism as a chronic disease can help us approach our loved one with empathy and patience. Organizations like the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism provide resources that can help deepen your understanding. Also, check out “Alcoholism: Genetic Disease or Lifestyle Choice? Debunking Myths” and “I Drink Every Night. Am I an Alcoholic?” to learn more.)
And denial? Well, unfortunately denial comes with the territory. In fact, it’s the running theme in most lists outlining the typical symptoms of AUD and shows up as a symptom in about 30% to over 50% of those with AUD or another substance use disorder (SUD).
Here’s how denial might show up:
The way these signs show up might be different from one person to the next, but the overall trend is clear: things are getting worse, and they’re getting worse quickly. Faced with this realization, we might find ourselves feeling desperate for a lifeline. But what can we do?
If you’re wondering how to talk to an alcoholic in denial, you’re not alone. Thousands of others have been in the difficult position you’re in today. And while the road ahead might be a long one, rest assured that recovery is possible! In the meantime, there are several tangible ways you can help your loved one start their journey.
First and foremost: it’s important to make our loved one feel safe to talk about what’s happening in a nonjudgmental environment. While it might seem as if they are oblivious to the problem, chances are there’s already an internal struggle going on inside them. Sometimes all it takes is an opportunity to let it out and reveal what’s going on to someone they trust.
To help them share their experience, be prepared to listen more than you talk. Don’t worry that you’re not “doing enough,” and don’t get overly involved in planning their path to recovery — there will be time for that in the future. The journey has to start with an active decision on their part, and this might take some time. Be patient, be there, and simply listen. Allowing your loved one to express their thoughts and feelings without interruption can foster openness and reduce defensiveness.
When you do talk, try to use "I" statements to express your concerns without sounding accusatory. For example, say, "I feel worried about how much you're drinking, and I care about your health," instead of "You're always drinking too much!"
(Want to dig deeper? Check out “How To Help a Friend Who Is Struggling With Alcohol Misuse” and “Supporting a Loved One: How To Help an Alcoholic on the Path to Recovery.)
It can be difficult to tell where the line between being empathic and enabling is, but it’s an important one. Enabling can take many forms, but the bottom line is that it can unintentionally prolong both the denial and the addiction. Here are some examples:
Difficult as it may be, it’s crucial to set boundaries in these situations. If possible, talk to your friend or loved one when they’re sober to make sure you’re on the same page. Be clear about what the boundaries are, and then make sure to stick to them. For example, you might decide not to be around them when they are drinking, not to cover for them when it comes to explaining their behavior to others, or not to take over their responsibilities at work or at home. (To learn more, take a look at “What Does It Mean Enabling an Alcoholic?”)
They get more and more rare, but they happen. Try to catch them before they close, as they’re precious moments when your loved one might be more receptive to help.
Sometimes windows of opportunity open during moments of clarity, when the horror of the situation suddenly hits home. Other times they might come up during times when it becomes impossible to ignore the effects that alcohol is having on your loved one’s life — for example, right after losing a job or a partner. Be gentle, but be present. If they’re going to be receptive to help and honest advice, this is the time.
The window is open? Hooray! Let’s grab the opportunity.
Gently suggest the idea of seeking help from a professional, such as a therapist or a doctor. Print out the information or write it down clearly. Remember, for someone who is under the influence a good part of the day, simple things become a challenge. (It’s not a dig, it’s just the reality of the situation.)
Don’t be discouraged or take it personally if they stash it in the back of the closet, throw it in the wastebasket, or even tell you off. Chances are, they’ll fish it out of the trash when you leave and might at least look it over and stow it away for future reference (trust us, it’s been known to happen!). When the moment is right, this information could be lifesaving.
If they do decide to take you up on the offer, do what you can to make it possible. Make calls to detox centers, get in touch with members of groups, and drive them to appointments if you can. Help is there and it’s available, but logistics can sometimes get in the way, especially with the fog of AUD making daily tasks difficult. You’re doing an amazing job, and every little bit helps — don’t underestimate the power of these “small” gestures!
Last but certainly not least, if you’ve been where your loved one is yourself, share your story. There’s absolutely nothing as valuable as knowing that someone who has been caught in the same trap has found a way out. Don’t share details if you don’t want to, but please share the hope. It can be a lifeline.
Finally, don’t lose hope in the process, daunting as it may be. As Russell Brand writes in Recovery: Freedom from Our Addiction, “You need only allow gentle hope to enter your heart. Exhale and allow hope, and give yourself some time. This is a process of change that requires a good deal of self-compassion, which is neither stagnant nor permissive. We can just start by being a little kinder to ourselves and open to the possibility that life doesn’t have to be bloody awful.” Trust the millions who’ve been where you are and found a light at the end of the tunnel.
It might start small. Maybe they seem to be going out every weekend. Then the weekend starts on Thursday, then Wednesday. First, the reasons to drink might sound more like reasons to celebrate. (“It’s trivia night! It’s Margarita Wednesday at the bar!”) Then excuses and justifications start coming up. (“It was a work event — I had to drink, or I’d stand out.” “A friend was in town this Tuesday, she dragged me to this bar, I wasn’t even planning to go.” “I had a rough lunch with the in-laws, that calls for a margarita, doesn’t it?”) Then come the hurtful comments, the wine breath in the middle of the afternoon, the bottles you happen to see sticking out of the hamper or hear as they clink in their backpack.
The problem? They say they’re fine. That they’re in control. That it was a one-time thing. Whatever the situation is, though, you know it’s only going to get worse. But what can you do? You take your questions to Google, searching “how to talk to an alcoholic in denial,” “do alcoholics know they are alcoholics,” and so forth. Until you’re thoroughly confused. Everyone has something different to say about alcoholism denial, and you’re no closer to getting an actual answer. Let’s clear it up, shall we?
First things first: let’s take a step back and see what we’re dealing with. Most of us will come into contact with the negative effects of alcohol on someone close to us, and some of us might even struggle with it ourselves. Alcohol has a sneaky way of taking over — not just our evenings, but months, years, and decades of our lives.
Here’s how Annie Grace describes it in This Naked Mind: “Alcohol erases a bit of you every time you drink it. It can even erase entire nights when you are on a binge. Alcohol does not relieve stress; it erases your senses and your ability to think. Alcohol ultimately erases your self.”
But why does alcohol hold such power over some of us? And what does being an “alcoholic” actually mean? Let’s take a deeper look.
Alcoholism — better known as alcohol use disorder (AUD) in the medical community — refers to a physical dependence on alcohol that sets in after a period of misuse. It can take years (or even decades) to develop, and some of us might be more vulnerable than others for reasons that have to do with genetics, social circumstances, or emotional tendencies. Ultimately, however, nobody is immune: alcohol is an addictive substance that causes shifts in brain chemistry, making it increasingly difficult to take a step back.
The change can be gradual, and it can be hard to pinpoint when problem drinking changes into misuse and dependence. Sometimes it might be more obvious from the outside perspective, but usually the person sliding into alcohol
Understanding the nature of alcoholism as a chronic disease can help us approach our loved one with empathy and patience. Organizations like the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism provide resources that can help deepen your understanding. Also, check out “Alcoholism: Genetic Disease or Lifestyle Choice? Debunking Myths” and “I Drink Every Night. Am I an Alcoholic?” to learn more.)
And denial? Well, unfortunately denial comes with the territory. In fact, it’s the running theme in most lists outlining the typical symptoms of AUD and shows up as a symptom in about 30% to over 50% of those with AUD or another substance use disorder (SUD).
Here’s how denial might show up:
The way these signs show up might be different from one person to the next, but the overall trend is clear: things are getting worse, and they’re getting worse quickly. Faced with this realization, we might find ourselves feeling desperate for a lifeline. But what can we do?
If you’re wondering how to talk to an alcoholic in denial, you’re not alone. Thousands of others have been in the difficult position you’re in today. And while the road ahead might be a long one, rest assured that recovery is possible! In the meantime, there are several tangible ways you can help your loved one start their journey.
First and foremost: it’s important to make our loved one feel safe to talk about what’s happening in a nonjudgmental environment. While it might seem as if they are oblivious to the problem, chances are there’s already an internal struggle going on inside them. Sometimes all it takes is an opportunity to let it out and reveal what’s going on to someone they trust.
To help them share their experience, be prepared to listen more than you talk. Don’t worry that you’re not “doing enough,” and don’t get overly involved in planning their path to recovery — there will be time for that in the future. The journey has to start with an active decision on their part, and this might take some time. Be patient, be there, and simply listen. Allowing your loved one to express their thoughts and feelings without interruption can foster openness and reduce defensiveness.
When you do talk, try to use "I" statements to express your concerns without sounding accusatory. For example, say, "I feel worried about how much you're drinking, and I care about your health," instead of "You're always drinking too much!"
(Want to dig deeper? Check out “How To Help a Friend Who Is Struggling With Alcohol Misuse” and “Supporting a Loved One: How To Help an Alcoholic on the Path to Recovery.)
It can be difficult to tell where the line between being empathic and enabling is, but it’s an important one. Enabling can take many forms, but the bottom line is that it can unintentionally prolong both the denial and the addiction. Here are some examples:
Difficult as it may be, it’s crucial to set boundaries in these situations. If possible, talk to your friend or loved one when they’re sober to make sure you’re on the same page. Be clear about what the boundaries are, and then make sure to stick to them. For example, you might decide not to be around them when they are drinking, not to cover for them when it comes to explaining their behavior to others, or not to take over their responsibilities at work or at home. (To learn more, take a look at “What Does It Mean Enabling an Alcoholic?”)
They get more and more rare, but they happen. Try to catch them before they close, as they’re precious moments when your loved one might be more receptive to help.
Sometimes windows of opportunity open during moments of clarity, when the horror of the situation suddenly hits home. Other times they might come up during times when it becomes impossible to ignore the effects that alcohol is having on your loved one’s life — for example, right after losing a job or a partner. Be gentle, but be present. If they’re going to be receptive to help and honest advice, this is the time.
The window is open? Hooray! Let’s grab the opportunity.
Gently suggest the idea of seeking help from a professional, such as a therapist or a doctor. Print out the information or write it down clearly. Remember, for someone who is under the influence a good part of the day, simple things become a challenge. (It’s not a dig, it’s just the reality of the situation.)
Don’t be discouraged or take it personally if they stash it in the back of the closet, throw it in the wastebasket, or even tell you off. Chances are, they’ll fish it out of the trash when you leave and might at least look it over and stow it away for future reference (trust us, it’s been known to happen!). When the moment is right, this information could be lifesaving.
If they do decide to take you up on the offer, do what you can to make it possible. Make calls to detox centers, get in touch with members of groups, and drive them to appointments if you can. Help is there and it’s available, but logistics can sometimes get in the way, especially with the fog of AUD making daily tasks difficult. You’re doing an amazing job, and every little bit helps — don’t underestimate the power of these “small” gestures!
Last but certainly not least, if you’ve been where your loved one is yourself, share your story. There’s absolutely nothing as valuable as knowing that someone who has been caught in the same trap has found a way out. Don’t share details if you don’t want to, but please share the hope. It can be a lifeline.
Finally, don’t lose hope in the process, daunting as it may be. As Russell Brand writes in Recovery: Freedom from Our Addiction, “You need only allow gentle hope to enter your heart. Exhale and allow hope, and give yourself some time. This is a process of change that requires a good deal of self-compassion, which is neither stagnant nor permissive. We can just start by being a little kinder to ourselves and open to the possibility that life doesn’t have to be bloody awful.” Trust the millions who’ve been where you are and found a light at the end of the tunnel.
Alcohol is a depressant that slows down brain function and affects mood, motor skills, and mental health. Learn more about its impact and make informed choices today!
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Alcohol is a widely consumed beverage that has significant effects on the mind and body. Despite its popularity, many people are unaware that alcohol is classified as a depressant. This article delves into what it means for alcohol to be a depressant, how it functions in this capacity, and how it compares to other depressants.
Depressants are a class of drugs that reduce the activity of the central nervous system (CNS). They are often prescribed to treat conditions such as anxiety, insomnia, and seizures. Common effects of depressants include sedation, muscle relaxation, and reduced anxiety. These substances work by enhancing the activity of gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), a neurotransmitter that inhibits brain activity.
Alcohol impacts the central nervous system by enhancing the effects of GABA, similar to other depressants. When you drink alcohol, GABA activity increases, leading to a slowing down of brain function. This results in the characteristic effects of alcohol consumption, such as impaired judgment, motor skills, and cognitive functions.
Alcohol shares several characteristics with other depressants but also has unique aspects that set it apart.
Understanding that alcohol is a depressant can help individuals make more informed choices about their drinking habits. The depressant effects of alcohol can have both short-term and long-term impacts on mental and physical health.
Building healthier drinking habits involves understanding the risks associated with alcohol and making conscious choices to moderate consumption.
Alcohol is classified as a depressant because it slows down the central nervous system, leading to decreased brain activity and relaxation.
Alcohol can exacerbate mental health conditions like depression and anxiety. Chronic use can lead to long-term cognitive impairments.
While alcohol and other depressants share similar risks, alcohol is more widely available and socially accepted, which can lead to higher rates of abuse and addiction.
It is generally not recommended to drink alcohol while taking antidepressants, as it can interfere with the medication's effectiveness and exacerbate side effects. For more details, see Should You Drink Alcohol While Taking Antidepressants?.
Long-term alcohol use can lead to liver disease, cardiovascular problems, mental health issues, and cognitive impairments.
Understanding alcohol as a depressant can help you make more informed choices about your drinking habits, ultimately leading to a healthier relationship with alcohol.
Alcohol is a widely consumed beverage that has significant effects on the mind and body. Despite its popularity, many people are unaware that alcohol is classified as a depressant. This article delves into what it means for alcohol to be a depressant, how it functions in this capacity, and how it compares to other depressants.
Depressants are a class of drugs that reduce the activity of the central nervous system (CNS). They are often prescribed to treat conditions such as anxiety, insomnia, and seizures. Common effects of depressants include sedation, muscle relaxation, and reduced anxiety. These substances work by enhancing the activity of gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA), a neurotransmitter that inhibits brain activity.
Alcohol impacts the central nervous system by enhancing the effects of GABA, similar to other depressants. When you drink alcohol, GABA activity increases, leading to a slowing down of brain function. This results in the characteristic effects of alcohol consumption, such as impaired judgment, motor skills, and cognitive functions.
Alcohol shares several characteristics with other depressants but also has unique aspects that set it apart.
Understanding that alcohol is a depressant can help individuals make more informed choices about their drinking habits. The depressant effects of alcohol can have both short-term and long-term impacts on mental and physical health.
Building healthier drinking habits involves understanding the risks associated with alcohol and making conscious choices to moderate consumption.
Alcohol is classified as a depressant because it slows down the central nervous system, leading to decreased brain activity and relaxation.
Alcohol can exacerbate mental health conditions like depression and anxiety. Chronic use can lead to long-term cognitive impairments.
While alcohol and other depressants share similar risks, alcohol is more widely available and socially accepted, which can lead to higher rates of abuse and addiction.
It is generally not recommended to drink alcohol while taking antidepressants, as it can interfere with the medication's effectiveness and exacerbate side effects. For more details, see Should You Drink Alcohol While Taking Antidepressants?.
Long-term alcohol use can lead to liver disease, cardiovascular problems, mental health issues, and cognitive impairments.
Understanding alcohol as a depressant can help you make more informed choices about your drinking habits, ultimately leading to a healthier relationship with alcohol.
Loving an addict can be challenging and heartbreaking, but there’s hope! Check out or blog for 15 inspirational addiction quotes for family and loved ones of those who are struggling.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Addiction often changes our loved ones into people we might no longer recognize. Sometimes the changes take years, sometimes months, or even a few weeks. Either way, you start noticing that your friend, partner, child, or even parent is slowly turning into someone you don’t recognize. Maybe they’re spending more time out (or in their room), maybe they’re canceling plans, lying, or even stealing from you. Recovery feels like it’s within reach (“If only they’d just stop!”) and yet so incredibly far — almost impossible — at the same time.
Rest assured, it’s possible. Many have recovered from addiction, and your loved one can, too! In the meantime, you can learn how to support your friend or family member while taking care of your own mental and physical health.
Loving an addict can be one of the most frustrating, exhausting, and heartbreaking experiences. As Emilie Pine puts it in Notes to Self,
“It is hard to love an addict. Not only practically difficult, in the picking up after them and the handling of those aspects of life they're not able for themselves, but metaphysically hard. It feels like bashing yourself against a wall, not just your head, but your whole self. It makes your heart hard. Caught between ultimatums (stop drinking) and radical acceptance (I love you no matter what) the person who loves the addict exhausts and renews their love on a daily basis.”
And yet, if that’s you — you’re certainly not alone. According to NIAAA’s 2022 National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH), as many as 29.5 million people ages 12 and older had alcohol use disorder (AUD) in the past year. Add to that the millions of cases of drug addiction, and the numbers are truly staggering.
If you’re in this boat, please don’t lose hope! Recovery is absolutely possible. In the meantime, be sure to take care of yourself. (For a deeper look at this subject, check out our blogs: Supporting a Loved One: How To Help an Alcoholic on the Path to Recovery and How To Help Your Teen With Alcohol Recovery.)
Hearing about others’ experiences can be incredibly helpful, and getting help and support for yourself in the process is also essential. Quotes can be an important part of this process by helping you reframe the situation, gain perspective, understand addiction, and know that recovery is possible.
Addiction is a paradox. It’s a lonely state to be in, and yet it affects everyone in the surrounding community in ways that can be hard to untangle. Here are some quotes to shed light on what makes addiction tick.
1. “Drinkers think they are trying to escape, but really they are trying to overcome a mental disorder they didn't know they had.” ― Matthew Perry, Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing
While people naturally look for the “why” behind addiction, the truth is that at a certain point, the psychological or environmental factors that may have triggered that first dose or first drink are largely irrelevant. Once addiction gets going, it’s a physical process driven by changes in brain chemistry.
Biologically, addiction sets in as a result of the brain’s reward system going haywire. Driven by dopamine, the reward neurochemical, it’s a cycle of dependence that sets in when we come to rely on substances (such as alcohol) that artificially trigger the reward circuit.
However, that doesn’t mean the brain can’t change — it absolutely can, thanks to the power of neuroplasticity. (To learn more, check out “How Alcohol Affects the Brain: A Look Into the Science.”)
2. “We’re all running from pain. Some of us take pills. Some of us couch surf while binge-watching Netflix. Some of us read romance novels. We’ll do almost anything to distract ourselves from ourselves. Yet all this trying to insulate ourselves from pain seems only to have made our pain worse.” ― Anna Lembke, Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence
Addiction seems a bit less foreign if we think of it in terms of degrees. We all have the potential to be “dopamine junkies,” chasing after things that make us feel good. It’s natural! However, for one reason or another (most likely a combination of genetics, life circumstances, and pure chance), some of us are a bit more sensitive to the effects and end up getting caught up in a devastating spiral.
3. “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” — Buddha
One of the main (and also most frustrating) things to understand about addiction is that we can’t fix it for someone else — they must do so by themselves. You can help by pointing your loved one in the right direction and offering tools and advice (especially if you’ve been there yourself at some point). However, in the end it’s their puzzle to solve.
Is it a solvable puzzle, however? Absolutely. The key lies in changing our relationship with alcohol or another drug: once we see through the illusion of pleasure it supposedly creates and the empty promises it never actually delivers on, quitting becomes simple. The great news? Once we reframe our understanding in this way, it’s almost impossible to “unsee” the new reality.
Family and friends can find it incredibly difficult to find balance in life when addiction is in the picture. How do we support our loved one without enabling them? Can we ever bring back the person we knew and loved who seems to be a shell of their former self?
While we can’t “make” someone recover, we can help ignite a spark of inspiration that could eventually lead to change. Here are some quotes about doing just that (as well as some about what to avoid).
4. “My identity shifted when I got into recovery. That’s who I am now, and it actually gives me greater pleasure to have that identity than to be a musician or anything else. It gives me a spiritual anchor.” — Eric Clapton
Our passions can be a lifeline in recovery. Encourage the addict you love to pursue what once made them happy. Whatever it was is still there, even if it’s been obscured by alcohol or drugs. That guitar they used to play but haven’t touched in years? Ask them to play you a song (just one, for a few minutes). A lot of times a few minutes of going back to what used to give us joy can serve as a “hook,” if not now then at some point in the future.
5. “I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.” ― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency
At the same time, don’t forget yourself in the process. What gives you joy? Is it music? Hiking? Making photo collages? Don’t let any emotional turmoil around you stop you from taking a few minutes each day to do something that brings you joy. It’s not selfish — it’s actually the opposite. It will keep you going and keep you from losing the connection to your authentic self.
6. “We rescue people from their responsibilities. We take care of people’s responsibilities for them. Later we get mad at them for what we’ve done. Then we feel used and sorry for ourselves. That is the pattern, the triangle.” ― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Another wise thought from Melody Beattie, this one gets to the heart of what happens when we don’t leave room for ourselves in the process of caring for an addict. It can feel like an impossible cycle to break: our loved one clearly can’t take care of their own basic needs, so we stock their fridge, pay their bills, walk their dog, and help drive them to appointments with medical professionals we hope they’ll listen to. And yet we also resent them for it.
How you find balance in this vicious cycle (or triangle, as Beattie calls it) is up to you. The key is to not overextend yourself — ask others for help, don’t blame yourself for not being Superman (or Superwoman). You already are a hero by being there for your loved one. But you’re also human.
Watching a parent struggle with addiction can be heartbreaking and confusing. After all, these are the people that are supposed to care for us — and yet, we often end up as the caretakers. Here are some thoughts others have shared that can help you cope.
7. “We are lovable. Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay.” ― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
First and foremost, when our parents struggle with addiction, it can feel as if we don’t matter — but we do. You matter, and you deserve to be loved and cared for.
8. “Our parents can show us a lot of things: they can show us how we are to be and what things we ought to strive for, or they can show us how not to be and what things we ought to stray from.” ― C. JoyBell C.
Reframing the situation as an important lesson (although, maybe not a welcome one) can help you be more at peace with it. Ideally, our parents serve as guides for how to behave and interact with the world, and it’s easy to feel that the world “owes” us something if they weren’t. But they might also show us what mistakes not to repeat — and there’s value in those lessons as well.
9. “Detaching does not mean we don’t care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy.” ― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Sometimes, there’s simply nothing we can do at the moment to change the situation. And difficult as it may be, it’s okay to take a step back. There’s always hope in the future, but in the meantime, it’s fine (and maybe even necessary) to close certain doors.
Unfortunately, sometimes no matter what we do, the outcome can be tragic. Many have lost loved ones to addiction. Here are some quotes to cope with loss.
10. “Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.” ― José N. Harris, Mi Vida: A Story of Faith, Hope and Love
The pain never completely goes away, and it’s never wrong to feel it. Try to see it as the evidence of love for the dear friend or family member who will always be with you in spirit.
11. “We are all the pieces of what we remember. We hold in ourselves the hopes and fears of those who love us. As long as there is love and memory, there is no true loss.” ― Cassandra Clare, City of Heavenly Fire
While it’s never wrong to feel our pain, it’s also never wrong to let it change and become a source of inspiration. The hardest experiences can transform into something meaningful with time.
12. “Life seems sometimes like nothing more than a series of losses, from beginning to end. That's the given. How you respond to those losses, what you make of what's left, that's the part you have to make up as you go.” ― Katharine Weber, The Music Lesson
Transcending pain is all about accepting the loss while making something meaningful out of the experience. For example, when (and if) you’re ready, you could be a lifeline for someone who is facing similar challenges.
Once dependence on a substance sets in, the addict’s personality and behaviors inevitably change. It can seem like all they want is to find their drug of choice — whether that’s a bottle of wine at the local store (or hidden in the hamper), a drug they bought from a seedy dealer, or even a prescription they lied about misusing. These quotes shed light on the situation.
13. “I have no power at all over people, places and things, and if I ever for a moment mistakenly believe that I do, and act as if I do, pain is on its way.” ― Russell Brand, Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions
While this quote refers to the experience of an addict (who has recovered and is now helping others do the same!), it’s equally relevant to the experience of family and loved ones. For better or worse, what happens outside of our control isn’t up to us.
14. “We don’t have to take things so personally. We take things to heart that we have no business taking to heart. For instance, saying ‘If you loved me you wouldn’t drink’ to an alcoholic makes as much sense as saying ‘If you loved me, you wouldn’t cough’ to someone who has pneumonia.” ― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Remember how we said that addiction is a physical process that gains momentum without our control? Understanding the nature of addiction — so painful to witness and experience firsthand — can ultimately help us.
15. “Sometimes, no matter how hard we try for someone and hope that they will get better in time — they never do. Abusive relationships shouldn’t have a key to your chambers of heart. Hold your key and keep it close. Don’t end up getting addicted to such pain or human beings — for that matter. You might not be Thor but they can surely be Loki and hold you prisoner to their trickster nature.” ― Sijdah Hussain, Red Sugar, No More
It’s easier said than done to point out that the actions of others are not up to us to control. There’s always that small glimmer of hope that maybe “this time will be different.” And sometimes it is!
But the truth is, even if the situation doesn’t change, you have another important life to protect — your own. And that’s not only an option, it’s actually your most important responsibility.
In the end, addiction leaves a mark on everyone who experiences it — whether firsthand or as a witness. But there’s hope! Thousands of people (many of them part of the Reframe community) have found the light of recovery at the end of the tunnel and are leading happier, healthier lives than they ever thought possible. We wish you the best of luck on your journey. Remember, the Reframe community is here to support you along the way.
Addiction often changes our loved ones into people we might no longer recognize. Sometimes the changes take years, sometimes months, or even a few weeks. Either way, you start noticing that your friend, partner, child, or even parent is slowly turning into someone you don’t recognize. Maybe they’re spending more time out (or in their room), maybe they’re canceling plans, lying, or even stealing from you. Recovery feels like it’s within reach (“If only they’d just stop!”) and yet so incredibly far — almost impossible — at the same time.
Rest assured, it’s possible. Many have recovered from addiction, and your loved one can, too! In the meantime, you can learn how to support your friend or family member while taking care of your own mental and physical health.
Loving an addict can be one of the most frustrating, exhausting, and heartbreaking experiences. As Emilie Pine puts it in Notes to Self,
“It is hard to love an addict. Not only practically difficult, in the picking up after them and the handling of those aspects of life they're not able for themselves, but metaphysically hard. It feels like bashing yourself against a wall, not just your head, but your whole self. It makes your heart hard. Caught between ultimatums (stop drinking) and radical acceptance (I love you no matter what) the person who loves the addict exhausts and renews their love on a daily basis.”
And yet, if that’s you — you’re certainly not alone. According to NIAAA’s 2022 National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH), as many as 29.5 million people ages 12 and older had alcohol use disorder (AUD) in the past year. Add to that the millions of cases of drug addiction, and the numbers are truly staggering.
If you’re in this boat, please don’t lose hope! Recovery is absolutely possible. In the meantime, be sure to take care of yourself. (For a deeper look at this subject, check out our blogs: Supporting a Loved One: How To Help an Alcoholic on the Path to Recovery and How To Help Your Teen With Alcohol Recovery.)
Hearing about others’ experiences can be incredibly helpful, and getting help and support for yourself in the process is also essential. Quotes can be an important part of this process by helping you reframe the situation, gain perspective, understand addiction, and know that recovery is possible.
Addiction is a paradox. It’s a lonely state to be in, and yet it affects everyone in the surrounding community in ways that can be hard to untangle. Here are some quotes to shed light on what makes addiction tick.
1. “Drinkers think they are trying to escape, but really they are trying to overcome a mental disorder they didn't know they had.” ― Matthew Perry, Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing
While people naturally look for the “why” behind addiction, the truth is that at a certain point, the psychological or environmental factors that may have triggered that first dose or first drink are largely irrelevant. Once addiction gets going, it’s a physical process driven by changes in brain chemistry.
Biologically, addiction sets in as a result of the brain’s reward system going haywire. Driven by dopamine, the reward neurochemical, it’s a cycle of dependence that sets in when we come to rely on substances (such as alcohol) that artificially trigger the reward circuit.
However, that doesn’t mean the brain can’t change — it absolutely can, thanks to the power of neuroplasticity. (To learn more, check out “How Alcohol Affects the Brain: A Look Into the Science.”)
2. “We’re all running from pain. Some of us take pills. Some of us couch surf while binge-watching Netflix. Some of us read romance novels. We’ll do almost anything to distract ourselves from ourselves. Yet all this trying to insulate ourselves from pain seems only to have made our pain worse.” ― Anna Lembke, Dopamine Nation: Finding Balance in the Age of Indulgence
Addiction seems a bit less foreign if we think of it in terms of degrees. We all have the potential to be “dopamine junkies,” chasing after things that make us feel good. It’s natural! However, for one reason or another (most likely a combination of genetics, life circumstances, and pure chance), some of us are a bit more sensitive to the effects and end up getting caught up in a devastating spiral.
3. “No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” — Buddha
One of the main (and also most frustrating) things to understand about addiction is that we can’t fix it for someone else — they must do so by themselves. You can help by pointing your loved one in the right direction and offering tools and advice (especially if you’ve been there yourself at some point). However, in the end it’s their puzzle to solve.
Is it a solvable puzzle, however? Absolutely. The key lies in changing our relationship with alcohol or another drug: once we see through the illusion of pleasure it supposedly creates and the empty promises it never actually delivers on, quitting becomes simple. The great news? Once we reframe our understanding in this way, it’s almost impossible to “unsee” the new reality.
Family and friends can find it incredibly difficult to find balance in life when addiction is in the picture. How do we support our loved one without enabling them? Can we ever bring back the person we knew and loved who seems to be a shell of their former self?
While we can’t “make” someone recover, we can help ignite a spark of inspiration that could eventually lead to change. Here are some quotes about doing just that (as well as some about what to avoid).
4. “My identity shifted when I got into recovery. That’s who I am now, and it actually gives me greater pleasure to have that identity than to be a musician or anything else. It gives me a spiritual anchor.” — Eric Clapton
Our passions can be a lifeline in recovery. Encourage the addict you love to pursue what once made them happy. Whatever it was is still there, even if it’s been obscured by alcohol or drugs. That guitar they used to play but haven’t touched in years? Ask them to play you a song (just one, for a few minutes). A lot of times a few minutes of going back to what used to give us joy can serve as a “hook,” if not now then at some point in the future.
5. “I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.” ― Melody Beattie, The Language of Letting Go: Daily Meditations on Codependency
At the same time, don’t forget yourself in the process. What gives you joy? Is it music? Hiking? Making photo collages? Don’t let any emotional turmoil around you stop you from taking a few minutes each day to do something that brings you joy. It’s not selfish — it’s actually the opposite. It will keep you going and keep you from losing the connection to your authentic self.
6. “We rescue people from their responsibilities. We take care of people’s responsibilities for them. Later we get mad at them for what we’ve done. Then we feel used and sorry for ourselves. That is the pattern, the triangle.” ― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Another wise thought from Melody Beattie, this one gets to the heart of what happens when we don’t leave room for ourselves in the process of caring for an addict. It can feel like an impossible cycle to break: our loved one clearly can’t take care of their own basic needs, so we stock their fridge, pay their bills, walk their dog, and help drive them to appointments with medical professionals we hope they’ll listen to. And yet we also resent them for it.
How you find balance in this vicious cycle (or triangle, as Beattie calls it) is up to you. The key is to not overextend yourself — ask others for help, don’t blame yourself for not being Superman (or Superwoman). You already are a hero by being there for your loved one. But you’re also human.
Watching a parent struggle with addiction can be heartbreaking and confusing. After all, these are the people that are supposed to care for us — and yet, we often end up as the caretakers. Here are some thoughts others have shared that can help you cope.
7. “We are lovable. Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay.” ― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
First and foremost, when our parents struggle with addiction, it can feel as if we don’t matter — but we do. You matter, and you deserve to be loved and cared for.
8. “Our parents can show us a lot of things: they can show us how we are to be and what things we ought to strive for, or they can show us how not to be and what things we ought to stray from.” ― C. JoyBell C.
Reframing the situation as an important lesson (although, maybe not a welcome one) can help you be more at peace with it. Ideally, our parents serve as guides for how to behave and interact with the world, and it’s easy to feel that the world “owes” us something if they weren’t. But they might also show us what mistakes not to repeat — and there’s value in those lessons as well.
9. “Detaching does not mean we don’t care. It means we learn to love, care, and be involved without going crazy.” ― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Sometimes, there’s simply nothing we can do at the moment to change the situation. And difficult as it may be, it’s okay to take a step back. There’s always hope in the future, but in the meantime, it’s fine (and maybe even necessary) to close certain doors.
Unfortunately, sometimes no matter what we do, the outcome can be tragic. Many have lost loved ones to addiction. Here are some quotes to cope with loss.
10. “Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.” ― José N. Harris, Mi Vida: A Story of Faith, Hope and Love
The pain never completely goes away, and it’s never wrong to feel it. Try to see it as the evidence of love for the dear friend or family member who will always be with you in spirit.
11. “We are all the pieces of what we remember. We hold in ourselves the hopes and fears of those who love us. As long as there is love and memory, there is no true loss.” ― Cassandra Clare, City of Heavenly Fire
While it’s never wrong to feel our pain, it’s also never wrong to let it change and become a source of inspiration. The hardest experiences can transform into something meaningful with time.
12. “Life seems sometimes like nothing more than a series of losses, from beginning to end. That's the given. How you respond to those losses, what you make of what's left, that's the part you have to make up as you go.” ― Katharine Weber, The Music Lesson
Transcending pain is all about accepting the loss while making something meaningful out of the experience. For example, when (and if) you’re ready, you could be a lifeline for someone who is facing similar challenges.
Once dependence on a substance sets in, the addict’s personality and behaviors inevitably change. It can seem like all they want is to find their drug of choice — whether that’s a bottle of wine at the local store (or hidden in the hamper), a drug they bought from a seedy dealer, or even a prescription they lied about misusing. These quotes shed light on the situation.
13. “I have no power at all over people, places and things, and if I ever for a moment mistakenly believe that I do, and act as if I do, pain is on its way.” ― Russell Brand, Recovery: Freedom from Our Addictions
While this quote refers to the experience of an addict (who has recovered and is now helping others do the same!), it’s equally relevant to the experience of family and loved ones. For better or worse, what happens outside of our control isn’t up to us.
14. “We don’t have to take things so personally. We take things to heart that we have no business taking to heart. For instance, saying ‘If you loved me you wouldn’t drink’ to an alcoholic makes as much sense as saying ‘If you loved me, you wouldn’t cough’ to someone who has pneumonia.” ― Melody Beattie, Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Remember how we said that addiction is a physical process that gains momentum without our control? Understanding the nature of addiction — so painful to witness and experience firsthand — can ultimately help us.
15. “Sometimes, no matter how hard we try for someone and hope that they will get better in time — they never do. Abusive relationships shouldn’t have a key to your chambers of heart. Hold your key and keep it close. Don’t end up getting addicted to such pain or human beings — for that matter. You might not be Thor but they can surely be Loki and hold you prisoner to their trickster nature.” ― Sijdah Hussain, Red Sugar, No More
It’s easier said than done to point out that the actions of others are not up to us to control. There’s always that small glimmer of hope that maybe “this time will be different.” And sometimes it is!
But the truth is, even if the situation doesn’t change, you have another important life to protect — your own. And that’s not only an option, it’s actually your most important responsibility.
In the end, addiction leaves a mark on everyone who experiences it — whether firsthand or as a witness. But there’s hope! Thousands of people (many of them part of the Reframe community) have found the light of recovery at the end of the tunnel and are leading happier, healthier lives than they ever thought possible. We wish you the best of luck on your journey. Remember, the Reframe community is here to support you along the way.
OCD and alcohol create a destructive cycle that’s not easy to break. Check out our latest blog to get the full breakdown of the science and learn better ways to manage OCD.
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Ever watch a neat freak madly cleaning up their apartment — say Monica on the TV series Friends? — and automatically think “obsessive-compulsive”? In real life, “neat freak” doesn’t come close: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, or OCD, is a serious, complex, and often debilitating mental health condition. Add alcohol into the equation and dealing OCD can get even trickier.
Anyone with OCD who reaches for a drink to decompress soon discovers alcohol has the opposite effect. Let’s take a closer look at the science behind OCD and alcohol and how they can fuel one another in a vicious cycle.
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a mental condition that is recognized in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5-TR), the official manual for the diagnosis of psychiatric disorders. Prior to the fifth edition, OCD was categorized as an anxiety disorder, but it now more accurately appears under its own category — “Obsessive-Compulsive and Related Disorders.”
The condition is characterized by recurring obsessions, compulsions, or both. The critical factor that determines diagnosis is that these obsessions and/or compulsions must significantly impact functioning: they must be time-consuming or cause clinically significant distress.
Obsessions are persistent, intrusive thoughts that cause anxiety. They can manifest in a variety of ways:
Compulsions are impulsive, repetitive behaviors that can be a response to an obsession or aimed at reducing distress from a dreaded situation. Some common compulsive behaviors include the following:
These obsessions and compulsions can torment those of us who experience them. It’s definitely not as lighthearted as wanting the dishes stacked nicely or the pillows arranged neatly. Obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors can prevent us from living a rich, full life. Also of concern are the coping mechanisms some of us develop to relieve symptoms — such as consuming alcohol.
Alcohol may seem like a good solution as it generally makes us feel calm and happy. Unfortunately, it can actually make things worse in the long run.
OCD causes unwanted thoughts and behaviors that can lead to distress and anxiety. Many of us with mental health conditions turn to drinking to self-medicate due to alcohol’s physical and mental effects. Unfortunately, OCD is often paired with other mental health conditions, which only amplifies this urge.
An analysis completed in 2010 outlines other conditions associated with OCD:
Alcohol’s depressant effects may temporarily blunt intrusive thoughts or negative emotions caused by OCD, but this relief doesn’t last long — in fact, it tends to rebound worse than before. While mental health disorders have a strong correlation with substance use, certain unique features of OCD create an even more complex pattern.
A common aspect of OCD is a higher likelihood of feelings of guilt. Those with OCD may replay or misconstrue a certain action or scenario that evokes a greater sense of wrongdoing or immorality. While everyone may experience feelings of guilt or regret at some point in their life (somehow always at night when we’re trying to fall asleep!), those of us with OCD can have excessive and irrational feelings of self-doubt and guilt.
Real-event OCD is a subtype that involves severe guilt and rumination that is not proportional to past actions or events. For example, those of us with real-event OCD may recall a mean comment directed at a classmate years ago and spiral into believing that we’re a horrible person who doesn’t deserve to have friends today.
Alcohol can also fuel shame and make us feel like we lack control, two major triggers for obsessive thoughts. These thoughts often lead to compulsive actions in an attempt to help alleviate our distress. In the case of drinking, the all-or-nothing thinking of OCD can cause us to drink more and more — creating a cycle of self-medicating and alcohol misuse.
OCD is linked to an increased risk for AUD and substance use disorder (SUD). Three reasons explain why:
Now that we’ve confirmed the cyclical relationship in which alcohol and OCD are connected, let’s delve deeper into how alcohol affects OCD.
Alcohol impacts our central nervous system, which is the processing center of all the signals that travel into and out of our brain. The resulting changes affect our mood, judgment, and impulse control — all important factors in OCD.
When we drink, alcohol’s depressant effects slow down messaging in our brain. For those with OCD, that can mean a brief interruption to intrusive thoughts. The alcohol stimulatory effects prompt the release of neurotransmitters, which temporarily improve our mood. However, the harmful effects of alcohol far outweigh those that seem beneficial.
Long term, drinking alcohol can increase anxiety, lower mood, and disrupt sleep, aggravating OCD symptoms. After consuming alcohol, OCD’s intrusive thoughts may increase and heighten the urge to engage in compulsive behaviors to ease distress.
Alcohol misuse and OCD are also shown to affect similar structures and molecules in our body. Abnormal levels of glutamine, an essential amino acid, are found in those with OCD and substance use disorder, although the relevance is still being studied. Both alcohol and OCD act on the prefrontal cortex — the part of the brain in charge of cognitive and behavioral control. When managing OCD, intentional responses are crucial to resisting urges, but alcohol’s inhibitory actions negatively impact this.
We’ve established that alcohol can negatively influence OCD, but let’s take a closer look at the specific risks.
Since alcohol targets the CNS and consequently affects OCD, drinking can lead to a number of negative results. To make more intentional drinking decisions, it is important to keep these consequences in mind:
OCD is a complex condition on its own, and the addition of managing alcohol consumption is no walk in the park. Let’s review some helpful tips for navigating our relationship with alcohol with the co-occurrence of OCD.
Getting stuck in the debilitating cycle of OCD and alcohol can feel hopeless. However, committing to these five actions can help us break the cycle:
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is a multifaceted mental health condition that is difficult to manage on its own — and much more so if alcohol enters the picture. It may seem tempting to have a drink now and then to buffer OCD. However, alcohol can be the trigger in a vicious cycle: we use alcohol to alleviate OCD symptoms, which then increase, so we try to relieve them with more alcohol... Breaking the cycle and developing a more positive relationship with alcohol is no easy feat, but as the wise American poet Robert Frost wrote, “The best way out is always through.”
Ever watch a neat freak madly cleaning up their apartment — say Monica on the TV series Friends? — and automatically think “obsessive-compulsive”? In real life, “neat freak” doesn’t come close: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, or OCD, is a serious, complex, and often debilitating mental health condition. Add alcohol into the equation and dealing OCD can get even trickier.
Anyone with OCD who reaches for a drink to decompress soon discovers alcohol has the opposite effect. Let’s take a closer look at the science behind OCD and alcohol and how they can fuel one another in a vicious cycle.
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a mental condition that is recognized in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5-TR), the official manual for the diagnosis of psychiatric disorders. Prior to the fifth edition, OCD was categorized as an anxiety disorder, but it now more accurately appears under its own category — “Obsessive-Compulsive and Related Disorders.”
The condition is characterized by recurring obsessions, compulsions, or both. The critical factor that determines diagnosis is that these obsessions and/or compulsions must significantly impact functioning: they must be time-consuming or cause clinically significant distress.
Obsessions are persistent, intrusive thoughts that cause anxiety. They can manifest in a variety of ways:
Compulsions are impulsive, repetitive behaviors that can be a response to an obsession or aimed at reducing distress from a dreaded situation. Some common compulsive behaviors include the following:
These obsessions and compulsions can torment those of us who experience them. It’s definitely not as lighthearted as wanting the dishes stacked nicely or the pillows arranged neatly. Obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors can prevent us from living a rich, full life. Also of concern are the coping mechanisms some of us develop to relieve symptoms — such as consuming alcohol.
Alcohol may seem like a good solution as it generally makes us feel calm and happy. Unfortunately, it can actually make things worse in the long run.
OCD causes unwanted thoughts and behaviors that can lead to distress and anxiety. Many of us with mental health conditions turn to drinking to self-medicate due to alcohol’s physical and mental effects. Unfortunately, OCD is often paired with other mental health conditions, which only amplifies this urge.
An analysis completed in 2010 outlines other conditions associated with OCD:
Alcohol’s depressant effects may temporarily blunt intrusive thoughts or negative emotions caused by OCD, but this relief doesn’t last long — in fact, it tends to rebound worse than before. While mental health disorders have a strong correlation with substance use, certain unique features of OCD create an even more complex pattern.
A common aspect of OCD is a higher likelihood of feelings of guilt. Those with OCD may replay or misconstrue a certain action or scenario that evokes a greater sense of wrongdoing or immorality. While everyone may experience feelings of guilt or regret at some point in their life (somehow always at night when we’re trying to fall asleep!), those of us with OCD can have excessive and irrational feelings of self-doubt and guilt.
Real-event OCD is a subtype that involves severe guilt and rumination that is not proportional to past actions or events. For example, those of us with real-event OCD may recall a mean comment directed at a classmate years ago and spiral into believing that we’re a horrible person who doesn’t deserve to have friends today.
Alcohol can also fuel shame and make us feel like we lack control, two major triggers for obsessive thoughts. These thoughts often lead to compulsive actions in an attempt to help alleviate our distress. In the case of drinking, the all-or-nothing thinking of OCD can cause us to drink more and more — creating a cycle of self-medicating and alcohol misuse.
OCD is linked to an increased risk for AUD and substance use disorder (SUD). Three reasons explain why:
Now that we’ve confirmed the cyclical relationship in which alcohol and OCD are connected, let’s delve deeper into how alcohol affects OCD.
Alcohol impacts our central nervous system, which is the processing center of all the signals that travel into and out of our brain. The resulting changes affect our mood, judgment, and impulse control — all important factors in OCD.
When we drink, alcohol’s depressant effects slow down messaging in our brain. For those with OCD, that can mean a brief interruption to intrusive thoughts. The alcohol stimulatory effects prompt the release of neurotransmitters, which temporarily improve our mood. However, the harmful effects of alcohol far outweigh those that seem beneficial.
Long term, drinking alcohol can increase anxiety, lower mood, and disrupt sleep, aggravating OCD symptoms. After consuming alcohol, OCD’s intrusive thoughts may increase and heighten the urge to engage in compulsive behaviors to ease distress.
Alcohol misuse and OCD are also shown to affect similar structures and molecules in our body. Abnormal levels of glutamine, an essential amino acid, are found in those with OCD and substance use disorder, although the relevance is still being studied. Both alcohol and OCD act on the prefrontal cortex — the part of the brain in charge of cognitive and behavioral control. When managing OCD, intentional responses are crucial to resisting urges, but alcohol’s inhibitory actions negatively impact this.
We’ve established that alcohol can negatively influence OCD, but let’s take a closer look at the specific risks.
Since alcohol targets the CNS and consequently affects OCD, drinking can lead to a number of negative results. To make more intentional drinking decisions, it is important to keep these consequences in mind:
OCD is a complex condition on its own, and the addition of managing alcohol consumption is no walk in the park. Let’s review some helpful tips for navigating our relationship with alcohol with the co-occurrence of OCD.
Getting stuck in the debilitating cycle of OCD and alcohol can feel hopeless. However, committing to these five actions can help us break the cycle:
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is a multifaceted mental health condition that is difficult to manage on its own — and much more so if alcohol enters the picture. It may seem tempting to have a drink now and then to buffer OCD. However, alcohol can be the trigger in a vicious cycle: we use alcohol to alleviate OCD symptoms, which then increase, so we try to relieve them with more alcohol... Breaking the cycle and developing a more positive relationship with alcohol is no easy feat, but as the wise American poet Robert Frost wrote, “The best way out is always through.”
Mixing mushrooms and alcohol is trouble waiting to happen. Find out the risks and how to stay safe in our latest blog.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
The Eagles’ classic song “Hotel California” sums up the way addiction lures us in and traps us. In the song, a weary traveler sees the alluring lights of the hotel and is welcomed in. Inside, others seem to be enjoying themselves: “How they dance in the courtyard / Sweet summer sweat / Some dance to remember / Some dance to forget.” And yet, this is no ordinary hotel. By the time the traveler wants to leave, he’s told “You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave.”
When we use substances to alter our reality, we are often looking for one of two basic things — stimulation and novelty (“some dance to remember”) or comfort and escape (“some dance to forget”). Stimulants (and sometimes hallucinogens) tend to fall into the first category, while depressants (such as alcohol) fall in the second.
But what happens when we mix them, trying to “dance to forget” while “dancing to remember,” so to speak? Specifically, what happens if we mix hallucinogens such as mushrooms and alcohol? In short — we get a much bigger mess than we would with either substance alone. We can find ourselves wrapped up in an altered reality that can quickly become confusing and even dangerous. Moreover, the physical interaction of alcohol and “shrooms” can put our health at risk. Why is drinking on shrooms so dangerous? Let’s take a closer look at the science behind the dangers of mixing shrooms and alcohol.
Both mushrooms — “shrooms” — and alcohol affect our brain, body, emotions, and perceptions. Let’s take a look at how each affects our reality.
When it comes to alcohol, we’re dealing with three neurotransmitters (chemical messengers in the brain). Each one plays a different role:
While alcohol remains a “socially acceptable” drug, it is, indeed, a drug, and comes with certain dangers, especially when we drink too much. It affects our body in three main ways:
Hallucinogens — and “magic mushrooms” in particular — take a slightly different route. Psilocybin is the active ingredient that gives these mushrooms their “magic.” Also known as mushies, blue meanies, golden tops, and liberty caps, “shrooms” grow all over the world in over 200 species of fungi.
Psilocybin belongs to the same group of psychedelics as the commonly known hallucinogen LSD and is structurally similar to DMT. At certain dosages, psilocybin and it’s fellow psychedelic drugs can alter our perception and cause feelings of detachment and euphoria.
Euphoria might sound pleasant, but shrooms have many adverse effects on the brain and body:
All of these effects are detrimental on their own. So what happens when we add alcohol to the mix?
Can you mix shrooms and alcohol? Science says it’s not a good idea. The psychological effects of mixing hallucinogens and alcohol range from mildly uncomfortable to downright dangerous:
The physical side of mixing hallucinogens and alcohol is also quite serious. Let’s take a look:
Given this concerning list of side effects, we can see that the risks far outweigh any potential benefits or enjoyment of using shrooms, LSD, DMT, and alcohol together (or independently!).
“Magic mushrooms” have been in the public eye recently due to their use in therapeutic settings. Anecdotally, some people swear by psychedelics as a way to cure everything from persistent pain to depression and, yes, even alcohol misuse itself.
While it might sound a bit too good to be true, these are not just the “shrooms talking” — there are studies to back up the claims.
Still, what’s right for one person might not be right for another, and health-related decisions have to always be made with the help of a qualified professional. What’s important to note, though, is that using hallucinogens by yourself can be dangerous — overdose, adverse effects, and the possibility of becoming dependent or trading in one substance for another (known as transfer addiction) are all potential risks. Moreover, it’s never a good idea to mix them with alcohol — no matter what the context might be.
Mixing “magic” mushrooms and alcohol is dangerous for both our body and our mind. The combination can wreak havoc on our brain and lead us to make potentially deadly decisions. In the end, even the most enjoyable “trips” can lead to a trip to the emergency room or the morgue.
The Eagles’ classic song “Hotel California” sums up the way addiction lures us in and traps us. In the song, a weary traveler sees the alluring lights of the hotel and is welcomed in. Inside, others seem to be enjoying themselves: “How they dance in the courtyard / Sweet summer sweat / Some dance to remember / Some dance to forget.” And yet, this is no ordinary hotel. By the time the traveler wants to leave, he’s told “You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave.”
When we use substances to alter our reality, we are often looking for one of two basic things — stimulation and novelty (“some dance to remember”) or comfort and escape (“some dance to forget”). Stimulants (and sometimes hallucinogens) tend to fall into the first category, while depressants (such as alcohol) fall in the second.
But what happens when we mix them, trying to “dance to forget” while “dancing to remember,” so to speak? Specifically, what happens if we mix hallucinogens such as mushrooms and alcohol? In short — we get a much bigger mess than we would with either substance alone. We can find ourselves wrapped up in an altered reality that can quickly become confusing and even dangerous. Moreover, the physical interaction of alcohol and “shrooms” can put our health at risk. Why is drinking on shrooms so dangerous? Let’s take a closer look at the science behind the dangers of mixing shrooms and alcohol.
Both mushrooms — “shrooms” — and alcohol affect our brain, body, emotions, and perceptions. Let’s take a look at how each affects our reality.
When it comes to alcohol, we’re dealing with three neurotransmitters (chemical messengers in the brain). Each one plays a different role:
While alcohol remains a “socially acceptable” drug, it is, indeed, a drug, and comes with certain dangers, especially when we drink too much. It affects our body in three main ways:
Hallucinogens — and “magic mushrooms” in particular — take a slightly different route. Psilocybin is the active ingredient that gives these mushrooms their “magic.” Also known as mushies, blue meanies, golden tops, and liberty caps, “shrooms” grow all over the world in over 200 species of fungi.
Psilocybin belongs to the same group of psychedelics as the commonly known hallucinogen LSD and is structurally similar to DMT. At certain dosages, psilocybin and it’s fellow psychedelic drugs can alter our perception and cause feelings of detachment and euphoria.
Euphoria might sound pleasant, but shrooms have many adverse effects on the brain and body:
All of these effects are detrimental on their own. So what happens when we add alcohol to the mix?
Can you mix shrooms and alcohol? Science says it’s not a good idea. The psychological effects of mixing hallucinogens and alcohol range from mildly uncomfortable to downright dangerous:
The physical side of mixing hallucinogens and alcohol is also quite serious. Let’s take a look:
Given this concerning list of side effects, we can see that the risks far outweigh any potential benefits or enjoyment of using shrooms, LSD, DMT, and alcohol together (or independently!).
“Magic mushrooms” have been in the public eye recently due to their use in therapeutic settings. Anecdotally, some people swear by psychedelics as a way to cure everything from persistent pain to depression and, yes, even alcohol misuse itself.
While it might sound a bit too good to be true, these are not just the “shrooms talking” — there are studies to back up the claims.
Still, what’s right for one person might not be right for another, and health-related decisions have to always be made with the help of a qualified professional. What’s important to note, though, is that using hallucinogens by yourself can be dangerous — overdose, adverse effects, and the possibility of becoming dependent or trading in one substance for another (known as transfer addiction) are all potential risks. Moreover, it’s never a good idea to mix them with alcohol — no matter what the context might be.
Mixing “magic” mushrooms and alcohol is dangerous for both our body and our mind. The combination can wreak havoc on our brain and lead us to make potentially deadly decisions. In the end, even the most enjoyable “trips” can lead to a trip to the emergency room or the morgue.
Explore how mindfulness and meditation can significantly aid in recovering from alcohol addiction by managing cravings and emotional triggers, offering a holistic approach to maintaining sobriety.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Alcohol addiction can be a formidable challenge to overcome, but integrating mindfulness and meditation practices can significantly enhance the recovery process. These techniques offer practical exercises and benefits that help manage cravings and emotional triggers, providing a holistic approach to quitting alcohol.
Mindfulness involves being present and fully engaged in the current moment without judgment. It allows individuals to observe their thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations as they arise, fostering a deeper understanding of their experiences. Meditation, on the other hand, is a practice that helps cultivate mindfulness. It typically involves focusing attention on a particular object, thought, or activity to train awareness and achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm state.
Addiction often stems from a cycle of emotional triggers and automatic responses. When faced with a trigger, the brain recalls positive experiences associated with alcohol, creating cravings that encourage drinking behavior. Mindfulness and meditation can disrupt this cycle by increasing awareness of these automatic responses and providing tools to manage them effectively.
Mindfulness and meditation offer powerful tools for those recovering from alcohol addiction. By increasing self-awareness, improving emotional regulation, and reducing cravings, these practices can significantly enhance the recovery process. Integrating mindfulness and meditation into daily life can provide a holistic approach to managing cravings and emotional triggers, supporting a healthier, alcohol-free lifestyle.
These articles provide additional insights into managing alcohol cravings, understanding the impact of toxic behaviors on relationships, and recognizing the dangers of binge drinking. They also offer practical advice on what to expect when you quit drinking, complementing the mindfulness and meditation practices discussed in this article.
Alcohol addiction can be a formidable challenge to overcome, but integrating mindfulness and meditation practices can significantly enhance the recovery process. These techniques offer practical exercises and benefits that help manage cravings and emotional triggers, providing a holistic approach to quitting alcohol.
Mindfulness involves being present and fully engaged in the current moment without judgment. It allows individuals to observe their thoughts, emotions, and bodily sensations as they arise, fostering a deeper understanding of their experiences. Meditation, on the other hand, is a practice that helps cultivate mindfulness. It typically involves focusing attention on a particular object, thought, or activity to train awareness and achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm state.
Addiction often stems from a cycle of emotional triggers and automatic responses. When faced with a trigger, the brain recalls positive experiences associated with alcohol, creating cravings that encourage drinking behavior. Mindfulness and meditation can disrupt this cycle by increasing awareness of these automatic responses and providing tools to manage them effectively.
Mindfulness and meditation offer powerful tools for those recovering from alcohol addiction. By increasing self-awareness, improving emotional regulation, and reducing cravings, these practices can significantly enhance the recovery process. Integrating mindfulness and meditation into daily life can provide a holistic approach to managing cravings and emotional triggers, supporting a healthier, alcohol-free lifestyle.
These articles provide additional insights into managing alcohol cravings, understanding the impact of toxic behaviors on relationships, and recognizing the dangers of binge drinking. They also offer practical advice on what to expect when you quit drinking, complementing the mindfulness and meditation practices discussed in this article.
Learn effective strategies to manage social anxiety without relying on alcohol, fostering emotional resilience and social confidence for a healthier, more fulfilling life.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Social anxiety is a common concern for many people, often leading them to rely on alcohol as a social lubricant. While alcohol can temporarily alleviate feelings of anxiety, it doesn't address the underlying issues and can lead to dependency. For those on the journey of reducing alcohol consumption, managing social anxiety without the crutch of alcohol can be challenging yet profoundly rewarding. This article explores effective strategies to navigate social situations, providing valuable insights into the psychological and emotional journey of reducing alcohol consumption.
Social anxiety disorder is characterized by an intense fear of social interactions and situations where one might be judged or scrutinized. It's one of the most common anxiety disorders, affecting millions worldwide. People with social anxiety often turn to alcohol as a means to cope, believing it helps them relax and be more sociable.
However, while alcohol may provide short-term relief, it can exacerbate anxiety in the long run. Alcohol can disrupt sleep patterns, deplete levels of serotonin (a neurotransmitter crucial for mood regulation), and increase the risk of developing an alcohol use disorder. Therefore, managing social anxiety while reducing alcohol consumption requires alternative strategies to foster emotional resilience and social confidence.
Anticipating social situations and preparing for them can significantly reduce anxiety. This preparation might include:
Mindfulness can be a powerful tool in managing social anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and meditation can help calm your mind and reduce physical symptoms of anxiety.
Set small, achievable goals for social interactions. For example, aim to stay at the event for a certain amount of time or engage in a set number of conversations. Gradual exposure to social situations can help desensitize anxiety responses over time.
Caffeine and sugar can exacerbate anxiety symptoms. Before attending social events, consider reducing your intake of these substances to help maintain a calmer disposition.
Having a non-alcoholic drink in hand can alleviate the pressure to consume alcohol and can help you feel more comfortable. Many social settings offer a variety of non-alcoholic beverages that look indistinguishable from alcoholic ones, so you won't feel out of place.
Bring a supportive friend along to social gatherings. Having someone you trust can provide a sense of security and make social interactions less daunting.
Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques can be incredibly effective in managing social anxiety. These techniques help reframe negative thoughts and reduce anxiety through behavioral adjustments.
If social anxiety is severely impacting your life, seeking help from a mental health professional can be invaluable. Therapists can provide tailored strategies and support to help manage anxiety and reduce alcohol consumption.
Reducing alcohol consumption while managing social anxiety is not merely about abstaining from alcohol; it’s an emotional and psychological journey. Here’s what this journey might look like:
At the onset, you may feel heightened anxiety as you face social situations without the crutch of alcohol. This period can be uncomfortable, and it’s essential to have strategies and support systems in place.
As you consistently employ the strategies mentioned, you'll begin building confidence. Successfully navigating social events without alcohol proves to yourself that you are capable, which can significantly reduce anxiety over time.
Reducing alcohol consumption often leads to emotional clarity and improved mental health. Without the numbing effects of alcohol, you might find yourself experiencing emotions more intensely. This can initially be challenging but ultimately leads to greater emotional resilience and stability.
As you engage more authentically with others, your social relationships may improve. Without the influence of alcohol, interactions can become more genuine and meaningful, fostering deeper connections.
Over time, the combination of reduced alcohol consumption and improved management of social anxiety can lead to enhanced overall well-being. Better sleep, improved mood, and a greater sense of control are just a few of the long-term benefits you may experience.
Managing social anxiety in situations where alcohol is present is a challenging but achievable goal. By preparing ahead, employing mindfulness techniques, setting realistic goals, and seeking support, you can navigate social interactions without relying on alcohol. The journey to reducing alcohol consumption while managing social anxiety is deeply personal and requires patience and persistence. Remember, the ultimate reward is a healthier, more fulfilling life enriched by genuine social connections and emotional resilience.
Social anxiety is a common concern for many people, often leading them to rely on alcohol as a social lubricant. While alcohol can temporarily alleviate feelings of anxiety, it doesn't address the underlying issues and can lead to dependency. For those on the journey of reducing alcohol consumption, managing social anxiety without the crutch of alcohol can be challenging yet profoundly rewarding. This article explores effective strategies to navigate social situations, providing valuable insights into the psychological and emotional journey of reducing alcohol consumption.
Social anxiety disorder is characterized by an intense fear of social interactions and situations where one might be judged or scrutinized. It's one of the most common anxiety disorders, affecting millions worldwide. People with social anxiety often turn to alcohol as a means to cope, believing it helps them relax and be more sociable.
However, while alcohol may provide short-term relief, it can exacerbate anxiety in the long run. Alcohol can disrupt sleep patterns, deplete levels of serotonin (a neurotransmitter crucial for mood regulation), and increase the risk of developing an alcohol use disorder. Therefore, managing social anxiety while reducing alcohol consumption requires alternative strategies to foster emotional resilience and social confidence.
Anticipating social situations and preparing for them can significantly reduce anxiety. This preparation might include:
Mindfulness can be a powerful tool in managing social anxiety. Techniques such as deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, and meditation can help calm your mind and reduce physical symptoms of anxiety.
Set small, achievable goals for social interactions. For example, aim to stay at the event for a certain amount of time or engage in a set number of conversations. Gradual exposure to social situations can help desensitize anxiety responses over time.
Caffeine and sugar can exacerbate anxiety symptoms. Before attending social events, consider reducing your intake of these substances to help maintain a calmer disposition.
Having a non-alcoholic drink in hand can alleviate the pressure to consume alcohol and can help you feel more comfortable. Many social settings offer a variety of non-alcoholic beverages that look indistinguishable from alcoholic ones, so you won't feel out of place.
Bring a supportive friend along to social gatherings. Having someone you trust can provide a sense of security and make social interactions less daunting.
Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques can be incredibly effective in managing social anxiety. These techniques help reframe negative thoughts and reduce anxiety through behavioral adjustments.
If social anxiety is severely impacting your life, seeking help from a mental health professional can be invaluable. Therapists can provide tailored strategies and support to help manage anxiety and reduce alcohol consumption.
Reducing alcohol consumption while managing social anxiety is not merely about abstaining from alcohol; it’s an emotional and psychological journey. Here’s what this journey might look like:
At the onset, you may feel heightened anxiety as you face social situations without the crutch of alcohol. This period can be uncomfortable, and it’s essential to have strategies and support systems in place.
As you consistently employ the strategies mentioned, you'll begin building confidence. Successfully navigating social events without alcohol proves to yourself that you are capable, which can significantly reduce anxiety over time.
Reducing alcohol consumption often leads to emotional clarity and improved mental health. Without the numbing effects of alcohol, you might find yourself experiencing emotions more intensely. This can initially be challenging but ultimately leads to greater emotional resilience and stability.
As you engage more authentically with others, your social relationships may improve. Without the influence of alcohol, interactions can become more genuine and meaningful, fostering deeper connections.
Over time, the combination of reduced alcohol consumption and improved management of social anxiety can lead to enhanced overall well-being. Better sleep, improved mood, and a greater sense of control are just a few of the long-term benefits you may experience.
Managing social anxiety in situations where alcohol is present is a challenging but achievable goal. By preparing ahead, employing mindfulness techniques, setting realistic goals, and seeking support, you can navigate social interactions without relying on alcohol. The journey to reducing alcohol consumption while managing social anxiety is deeply personal and requires patience and persistence. Remember, the ultimate reward is a healthier, more fulfilling life enriched by genuine social connections and emotional resilience.
"Living a sober life introduces challenges and rewards in personal relationships. This article explores the dynamics of sobriety, evolving friendships, and strategies for establishing healthier social habits."
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Living a sober life comes with a host of challenges and rewards, especially when it comes to maintaining and developing personal relationships. One of the most significant adjustments involves changing social habits. For those who have chosen sobriety, navigating the complex social world can be daunting but ultimately fulfilling. In this article, we will explore the dynamics of personal relationships in the context of sobriety and how changing social habits can support a healthier, more connected life.
Choosing to live a sober life profoundly impacts personal relationships. For many, socializing often involves drinking alcohol, and deciding to abstain can feel isolating. However, maintaining sobriety can also strengthen relationships by fostering deeper, more authentic connections.
When someone decides to become sober, the initial reactions from friends and family can vary. Some might be supportive and understanding, while others may struggle to comprehend the decision. This is often because social drinking is deeply ingrained in many cultures, and a sudden change can be jarring.
Strategies for Managing Initial Reactions:
As you navigate your new sober life, you may find that some friendships will change. Friends who primarily bonded with you over drinking might drift away, while others might appreciate the new dynamics of your relationship.
Tips for Evolving Friendships:
Changing social habits is crucial for maintaining sobriety. This involves finding new ways to socialize and enjoy life without alcohol. Here are some strategies for developing healthier social habits:
Understanding what triggers your urge to drink can help you avoid situations that jeopardize your sobriety.
Common Triggers:
Strategies:
Developing new social rituals that don’t revolve around alcohol can help you build a fulfilling social life.
Ideas for New Rituals:
A strong support network is vital for maintaining sobriety and cultivating healthy relationships.
Building Your Network:
While the transition to a sober life can be challenging, the benefits far outweigh the difficulties. Developing and maintaining personal relationships while living a sober life can lead to deeper connections, better overall health, and increased personal fulfillment.
Sobriety allows for more genuine interactions without the influence of alcohol. Conversations and relationships can become more authentic and meaningful.
Abstaining from alcohol has numerous health benefits, including enhanced mental clarity, better physical health, and increased energy levels. This improvement in health can positively impact your social life, making you more engaged and active in your relationships.
Living a sober life can lead to a greater sense of fulfillment and purpose. With a clear mind and body, you can pursue your passions and interests more effectively, enriching your personal and social life.
Understanding the dynamics of maintaining and developing personal relationships while living a sober life is essential for a fulfilling, healthy existence. By changing social habits, setting clear boundaries, and fostering genuine connections, you can navigate the complexities of sobriety and build a supportive, enriching social network. The journey may be challenging, but the rewards of deeper relationships, improved health, and personal fulfillment make it well worth the effort.
Living a sober life comes with a host of challenges and rewards, especially when it comes to maintaining and developing personal relationships. One of the most significant adjustments involves changing social habits. For those who have chosen sobriety, navigating the complex social world can be daunting but ultimately fulfilling. In this article, we will explore the dynamics of personal relationships in the context of sobriety and how changing social habits can support a healthier, more connected life.
Choosing to live a sober life profoundly impacts personal relationships. For many, socializing often involves drinking alcohol, and deciding to abstain can feel isolating. However, maintaining sobriety can also strengthen relationships by fostering deeper, more authentic connections.
When someone decides to become sober, the initial reactions from friends and family can vary. Some might be supportive and understanding, while others may struggle to comprehend the decision. This is often because social drinking is deeply ingrained in many cultures, and a sudden change can be jarring.
Strategies for Managing Initial Reactions:
As you navigate your new sober life, you may find that some friendships will change. Friends who primarily bonded with you over drinking might drift away, while others might appreciate the new dynamics of your relationship.
Tips for Evolving Friendships:
Changing social habits is crucial for maintaining sobriety. This involves finding new ways to socialize and enjoy life without alcohol. Here are some strategies for developing healthier social habits:
Understanding what triggers your urge to drink can help you avoid situations that jeopardize your sobriety.
Common Triggers:
Strategies:
Developing new social rituals that don’t revolve around alcohol can help you build a fulfilling social life.
Ideas for New Rituals:
A strong support network is vital for maintaining sobriety and cultivating healthy relationships.
Building Your Network:
While the transition to a sober life can be challenging, the benefits far outweigh the difficulties. Developing and maintaining personal relationships while living a sober life can lead to deeper connections, better overall health, and increased personal fulfillment.
Sobriety allows for more genuine interactions without the influence of alcohol. Conversations and relationships can become more authentic and meaningful.
Abstaining from alcohol has numerous health benefits, including enhanced mental clarity, better physical health, and increased energy levels. This improvement in health can positively impact your social life, making you more engaged and active in your relationships.
Living a sober life can lead to a greater sense of fulfillment and purpose. With a clear mind and body, you can pursue your passions and interests more effectively, enriching your personal and social life.
Understanding the dynamics of maintaining and developing personal relationships while living a sober life is essential for a fulfilling, healthy existence. By changing social habits, setting clear boundaries, and fostering genuine connections, you can navigate the complexities of sobriety and build a supportive, enriching social network. The journey may be challenging, but the rewards of deeper relationships, improved health, and personal fulfillment make it well worth the effort.
Effective strategies can help manage workplace stress without resorting to alcohol. Identify triggers, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and maintain a balanced work-life to support your sobriety journey.
Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people worldwide drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!
The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.
You’ll meet hundreds of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.
Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol.
And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).
The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!
Managing work and stress while maintaining sobriety can be challenging, but it is crucial for anyone striving to build healthier drinking habits. The workplace is often a significant source of stress, and many people may be tempted to use alcohol as a coping mechanism. However, there are effective strategies to manage stress without turning to alcohol.
Workplace stress is a common experience. Tight deadlines, high expectations, and workload pressure can create a stressful environment. For those in recovery, managing this stress without resorting to alcohol is vital. Understanding the sources and dynamics of your stress can be the first step toward effective management.
It’s essential to identify what specifically causes stress at your workplace. Common triggers can include:
Once you identify these triggers, you can begin to develop strategies to cope with them. To understand more about identifying triggers, you can read What Are My Triggers for Drinking?.
Instead of turning to alcohol to manage stress, consider adopting healthier coping strategies. Here are some effective methods:
Mindfulness and meditation are powerful tools for managing stress. These practices help you stay present and can reduce anxiety and stress levels. Simple techniques such as deep breathing exercises and progressive muscle relaxation can be incorporated into your daily routine.
For more insights, check out The Best Meditations To Relieve Stress.
Regular physical activity is one of the most effective ways to combat stress. Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural stress relievers. Even short breaks for a walk or stretching during the workday can make a significant difference.
To learn more, read Green Exercise: What It Is and How To Practice.
Having a support network is crucial in managing work stress while maintaining sobriety. This can include friends, family, or support groups who understand your journey and provide emotional support.
For more on building a support network, see Human Connection: The Science of Support Systems for Well-being and Recovery.
Effective time management can significantly reduce workplace stress.
For more time management tips, check out 10 Benefits of Time Management.
Maintaining a balance between work and personal life is crucial for reducing stress and supporting sobriety.
Setting clear boundaries between work and personal time can help prevent work from taking over your life.
Implementing self-care rituals can ensure you are taking care of your mental and physical health.
If workplace stress becomes overwhelming, seeking professional help can be a wise decision. Therapists and counselors can provide strategies and support to better manage your stress and maintain sobriety.
Managing workplace stress while maintaining sobriety is challenging but entirely possible with the right strategies. Identifying stress triggers, adopting healthy coping mechanisms, maintaining a work-life balance, and seeking support can all contribute to a healthier, alcohol-free lifestyle. By implementing these approaches, you can create a more harmonious and productive work environment and support your journey toward sobriety.
Identifying work stress triggers involves reflecting on your workday and noting moments of heightened anxiety or stress. Keeping a stress diary can help pin down specific situations or interactions that cause stress.
Quick stress-relief techniques include deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, short walks, and stretching at your desk. These methods can help you regain calmness during a stressful day.
Maintaining sobriety in such a culture involves setting personal boundaries, finding non-alcoholic alternatives, and seeking support from like-minded colleagues or support groups. It’s also helpful to plan ahead and have responses ready for situations where you might be offered alcohol.
Exercise is a natural stress reliever due to the release of endorphins. It improves mood, reduces anxiety, and provides a healthy coping mechanism that supports your overall journey toward sobriety.
If you find that work stress is becoming unmanageable and significantly affecting your well-being or sobriety, seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can provide you with strategies and support to manage stress more effectively.
Managing work and stress while maintaining sobriety can be challenging, but it is crucial for anyone striving to build healthier drinking habits. The workplace is often a significant source of stress, and many people may be tempted to use alcohol as a coping mechanism. However, there are effective strategies to manage stress without turning to alcohol.
Workplace stress is a common experience. Tight deadlines, high expectations, and workload pressure can create a stressful environment. For those in recovery, managing this stress without resorting to alcohol is vital. Understanding the sources and dynamics of your stress can be the first step toward effective management.
It’s essential to identify what specifically causes stress at your workplace. Common triggers can include:
Once you identify these triggers, you can begin to develop strategies to cope with them. To understand more about identifying triggers, you can read What Are My Triggers for Drinking?.
Instead of turning to alcohol to manage stress, consider adopting healthier coping strategies. Here are some effective methods:
Mindfulness and meditation are powerful tools for managing stress. These practices help you stay present and can reduce anxiety and stress levels. Simple techniques such as deep breathing exercises and progressive muscle relaxation can be incorporated into your daily routine.
For more insights, check out The Best Meditations To Relieve Stress.
Regular physical activity is one of the most effective ways to combat stress. Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural stress relievers. Even short breaks for a walk or stretching during the workday can make a significant difference.
To learn more, read Green Exercise: What It Is and How To Practice.
Having a support network is crucial in managing work stress while maintaining sobriety. This can include friends, family, or support groups who understand your journey and provide emotional support.
For more on building a support network, see Human Connection: The Science of Support Systems for Well-being and Recovery.
Effective time management can significantly reduce workplace stress.
For more time management tips, check out 10 Benefits of Time Management.
Maintaining a balance between work and personal life is crucial for reducing stress and supporting sobriety.
Setting clear boundaries between work and personal time can help prevent work from taking over your life.
Implementing self-care rituals can ensure you are taking care of your mental and physical health.
If workplace stress becomes overwhelming, seeking professional help can be a wise decision. Therapists and counselors can provide strategies and support to better manage your stress and maintain sobriety.
Managing workplace stress while maintaining sobriety is challenging but entirely possible with the right strategies. Identifying stress triggers, adopting healthy coping mechanisms, maintaining a work-life balance, and seeking support can all contribute to a healthier, alcohol-free lifestyle. By implementing these approaches, you can create a more harmonious and productive work environment and support your journey toward sobriety.
Identifying work stress triggers involves reflecting on your workday and noting moments of heightened anxiety or stress. Keeping a stress diary can help pin down specific situations or interactions that cause stress.
Quick stress-relief techniques include deep breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation, short walks, and stretching at your desk. These methods can help you regain calmness during a stressful day.
Maintaining sobriety in such a culture involves setting personal boundaries, finding non-alcoholic alternatives, and seeking support from like-minded colleagues or support groups. It’s also helpful to plan ahead and have responses ready for situations where you might be offered alcohol.
Exercise is a natural stress reliever due to the release of endorphins. It improves mood, reduces anxiety, and provides a healthy coping mechanism that supports your overall journey toward sobriety.
If you find that work stress is becoming unmanageable and significantly affecting your well-being or sobriety, seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can provide you with strategies and support to manage stress more effectively.
