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2024-01-23 9:00
Alcohol and Mental Health
Strategies for a Healthier Weekend Drinking Experience
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Learn how to develop strategies for drinking responsibly at social gatherings, and how to prepare for and recover from a night of drinking.

18 min read

Develop a Healthier Relationship to Alcohol With the Reframe App

Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions worldwide drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!

The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills to survive drinking less and thrive while navigating the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.

You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also be able to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.

Plus, we’re constantly introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol. 

And that’s not all! We launch fun challenges monthly, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).

The Reframe app is free for seven days, so you have nothing to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!

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Socializing is a core part of being human. Nothing beats getting together with friends, family, or coworkers to enjoy each other’s company, share stories, have some laughs, and enjoy a meal. Whether it’s at a backyard BBQ, a high school reunion, or a birthday party, socializing is a part of everyday life for most people.

Whether we like it or not, alcohol is also a common part of socialization. For those of us trying to maintain a healthy relationship with alcohol, it can be difficult to strike a balance between joining in on the fun and staying true to our drinking goals. But by mindfully cultivating a healthier approach to drinking, we can enjoy ourselves and be present in the moment without overdoing it. Let’s dive into the importance of developing mindful drinking habits and how to prepare for a night of drinking.

How Alcohol Affects Us

Alcohol has profound effects on many parts of the body, but has the most immediate and noticeable effects on the brain. Understanding how alcohol affects this vital organ can help us know how to prepare for drinking.

Let’s consider what aspects of brain health are affected by alcohol:

  • Neurotransmitters. These brain chemicals are responsible for sparking the signals that flow through our nervous system. Alcohol consumption increases the release of dopamine (the “feel-good” chemical), which contributes to alcohol’s rewarding effects.
  • Prefrontal cortex. The prefrontal cortex is the brain region that regulates emotions, thoughts, and actions. Alcohol impairs prefrontal cortex functions, which play a crucial role in decision-making, impulse control, and personality expression. This manifests as poor judgment, decreased inhibitions, mood swings, and impaired ability to plan and prioritize appropriately.
  • Amygdala. The amygdala regulates decision-making, memory, instincts like the “fight or flight” reaction. Alcohol reduces the amygdala’s ability to detect threatening information. This lapse explains why we fail to react to threatening circumstances when we drink excessively.

In simple terms, beginning with our first sip, alcohol goes straight to our heads. Alcohol’s effects begin immediately, and as we drink more, the effects become amplified.

What Goes in Must Come Out

As soon as we take a sip, our body springs into action to start metabolizing alcohol. The liver is the leading player in alcohol metabolism — it breaks it down and starts the process of detoxification. It’s able to process alcohol at a rate of approximately one drink per hour

Remember this guideline when thinking about what to do before drinking at an event. Before we head out, we should consider how long we plan to stay so we can pace the number of drinks we have accordingly. 

Choosing Drinks Wisely

When it comes to serving alcoholic beverages, hosts bear some responsibility to ensure that their guests not only have a good time but that they feel accommodated — and stay safe. When hosting a party, we should plan to include low-alcoholic and non-alcoholic options in our beverage selection. If we’re attending a party where we know there will be drinking, it may be beneficial to bring the non-alcoholic fun with us.

Alcohol-Free Options

  • Mocktails. At one time, there weren’t many options for non-alcoholic cocktails. These days, craft mocktails are becoming increasingly popular and can even be ordered at any bar. Non-alcoholic spirits are indeed thriving, with new products hitting the shelves all the time.
  • Non-alcoholic beer. Non-alcoholic beer has certainly come a long way from its old boring-tasting reputation. Today, there are plenty of options for non-alcoholic beer to suit everyone’s tastes. While non-alcoholic beer may be triggering for some people, others may take comfort in being able to enjoy a drink without the consequences.
  • Wine. Non-alcoholic wine is more than just grape juice! The difference is in how it’s processed, and there are a wide variety of non-alcoholic wines on the shelves (and online). Much like non-alcoholic beer, this drink has positive and negative attributes when it comes to our drinking triggers. 

For hosts and guests, choosing alcohol-free versions of popular drinks can be a healthy game-changer. The wide range of alcohol-free options offers us a way to enjoy any social event or an evening at home without the need for excessive alcohol consumption.

Low-Alcohol Options

If we want to indulge with a drink, there are some smart choices we can make to keep things light. Let’s look at a few.

  • Cocktails. There are creative ways of making cocktails that are lower in alcohol content — but big on taste. Low-alcohol cocktails generally have no more than 10% alcohol content. This is considerably less than traditional cocktails, which have 25% to 37% alcohol content. Be sure to ask for a “single” or stick to just one serving (1.5 ounces) of liquor, and load up on mixers!
  • Beer. Reduced-alcohol beer can be in two categories: light beer typically contains less than 5% alcohol by volume (ABV), and often less. There’s also low-alcohol beers specially crafted to have closer to 1-2% ABV.  
  • Wine. In general, red wines have a 15% alcohol content, higher than their white wine counterpart, which has 12% alcohol. At the same time, there are wine choices with even lower alcohol content, even as low as 6%. When drinking wine, portion control is key.

Even with all the available low-alcohol beverage options, it’s still wise to drink in moderation and alternate with non-alcoholic drink options.

Calories and Nutrition

Beyond its intoxicating effects, alcohol is well-known for packing in the calories. Let’s look at some examples of where calories are hiding in alcoholic beverages.

  • A single cocktail ranges from 150 to 200 calories per glass
  • A 12 ounce bottle of beer is approximately 154 calories
  • A 5 ounce glass of dry red wine is approximately 125 calories
  • A 5 ounce glass of dry white wine is approximately 120 calories

Now, let’s look at their alcohol-free counterparts:

  • Mocktails range between 30 to 35 calories per glass
  • A 12 ounce glass of non-alcoholic beer ranges between 17 to 90 calories
  • A 5 ounce glass of non-alcoholic dry red wine ranges between 30 to 35 calories
  • A 5 ounce glass of non-alcoholic dry white wine is approximately 18 calories 

And the winner is … you guessed it! Setting intoxication issues aside, non-alcoholic drinks are a wise choice for those of us who are counting calories. Alcohol is high in empty calories, which causes us to gain weight without enjoying the nutrition we’d get from a balanced diet. While there are some low-calorie versions of alcoholic beverages, the best bet for strict calorie counters is to stick with alcohol-free options.

Eating Mindfully

The relationship between food and alcohol absorption is often overlooked. When thinking about how to prepare for a night of drinking, we should consider having something to eat before heading out and continuing to eat something while there.

Drinking on an empty stomach is not advisable. According to the McDonald Center at the University of Notre Dame, having food in our stomach helps to slow the processing of alcohol. A person who has not eaten will hit peak intoxication more quickly than those who eat a big meal beforehand. While this may seem like a more efficient way to reach intoxication, it can be dangerous and can even be an indication of an eating disorder.

Beyond eating a balanced meal before drinking, full of lean protein, healthy fats, and plenty of vegetables, smart snacking can ensure a better post-drinking experience. Let’s look at some of the best snack options to consider at drinking events.

  • Fruits. Fruits are high in water content and will help maintain hydration. Apples, in particular, help reduce the inflammation in the intestines that results from alcohol use.
  • Lean proteins. Lean proteins, including chicken, tofu, beans, and Greek yogurt help to line our stomachs and keep us feeling full when consuming alcohol.
  • Starchy foods. Serving starchy foods like crackers helps to absorb alcoholic drinks. However, it’s best to avoid foods high in salt. Salty foods increase thirst and encourage us to drink more. Think about the bowls of peanuts and pretzels at a bar. They are put there for a reason: to motivate customers to order more drinks.

By focusing on these choices and making a plan for our food intake before we start drinking, we can avoid the poor food choices that often accompany a night of overindulgence in alcohol.

The Next Day

A night of drinking can present challenges. The morning after can sometimes be worse. It’s essential to prioritize our well-being and recovery. After we’ve overindulged, it’s important to hydrate to replenish our body’s store of water. Drinks with electrolytes are also important, especially if we have consumed large quantities of alcohol. Electrolytes help us recover from hangovers more quickly.

Eating a balanced meal can help stabilize our blood sugar levels and relieve nausea. That same old nutrition guidance — veggies, whole grains, lean protein — is even more important after drinking. These nutrients give our body the tools it needs to recover and repair.

Rest is also crucial, and the most important factor in recovery is time. Over-the-counter pain relievers like ibuprofen, aspirin, and naproxen may relieve headaches, but avoid Tylenol — it stresses out the liver, which is still recovering from its hard work the day before. On the other hand, many pain relievers are hard on the stomach. Keep within the recommended doses and take it easy if you have a sensitive stomach.

Remember, it's important to learn from a hangover. It’s an opportunity to develop mindful drinking practices or rethink our relationship with alcohol.

Establishing Mindful Drinking Practices

Mindful drinking techniques can help us make better decisions about drinking. Let’s look at some helpful examples. 

  • Savor the experience. We don’t need to race to get to the bottom of the glass. By shifting our focus to savoring each sip, we’ll enjoy our drink more and, equally importantly, slow down our drinking pace. When we savor, we can derive more enjoyment from fewer drinks.
  • Make a plan. By making a plan or setting a limit on our alcohol use, we can avoid peer pressure or mindless drinking.
  • Stay hydrated. Staying hydrated is a crucial aspect of responsible drinking. Water, soda, juice, or any alcohol-free beverage will do. Hydration is important before drinking because alcohol itself has a dehydrating effect — being well-hydrated counteracts some of the negative effects of alcohol.
  • Explore mocktails. Mocktails and non-alcoholic beverages are becoming increasingly fancy, widely available, and socially acceptable. Keeping a mocktail in hand helps us feel part of the group without reflexively indulging.
  • Alternate drinks. Consider alternating between alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. Alternating between the two will accomplish two things: it will ensure we remain hydrated and, once again, help us pace our alcohol intake.

Takeaways

As we navigate the landscape of social gatherings with and without alcohol, it is important to prioritize a healthier and more mindful approach. From understanding alcohol’s effects to making informed choices, savoring the experience, and choosing low- and non-alcoholic beverages, we’ll be better equipped to enjoy social gatherings without compromising our well-being. Remember, a social event can be an enjoyable and health-conscious experience when we are empowered to take control of our drinking. 

Socializing is a core part of being human. Nothing beats getting together with friends, family, or coworkers to enjoy each other’s company, share stories, have some laughs, and enjoy a meal. Whether it’s at a backyard BBQ, a high school reunion, or a birthday party, socializing is a part of everyday life for most people.

Whether we like it or not, alcohol is also a common part of socialization. For those of us trying to maintain a healthy relationship with alcohol, it can be difficult to strike a balance between joining in on the fun and staying true to our drinking goals. But by mindfully cultivating a healthier approach to drinking, we can enjoy ourselves and be present in the moment without overdoing it. Let’s dive into the importance of developing mindful drinking habits and how to prepare for a night of drinking.

How Alcohol Affects Us

Alcohol has profound effects on many parts of the body, but has the most immediate and noticeable effects on the brain. Understanding how alcohol affects this vital organ can help us know how to prepare for drinking.

Let’s consider what aspects of brain health are affected by alcohol:

  • Neurotransmitters. These brain chemicals are responsible for sparking the signals that flow through our nervous system. Alcohol consumption increases the release of dopamine (the “feel-good” chemical), which contributes to alcohol’s rewarding effects.
  • Prefrontal cortex. The prefrontal cortex is the brain region that regulates emotions, thoughts, and actions. Alcohol impairs prefrontal cortex functions, which play a crucial role in decision-making, impulse control, and personality expression. This manifests as poor judgment, decreased inhibitions, mood swings, and impaired ability to plan and prioritize appropriately.
  • Amygdala. The amygdala regulates decision-making, memory, instincts like the “fight or flight” reaction. Alcohol reduces the amygdala’s ability to detect threatening information. This lapse explains why we fail to react to threatening circumstances when we drink excessively.

In simple terms, beginning with our first sip, alcohol goes straight to our heads. Alcohol’s effects begin immediately, and as we drink more, the effects become amplified.

What Goes in Must Come Out

As soon as we take a sip, our body springs into action to start metabolizing alcohol. The liver is the leading player in alcohol metabolism — it breaks it down and starts the process of detoxification. It’s able to process alcohol at a rate of approximately one drink per hour

Remember this guideline when thinking about what to do before drinking at an event. Before we head out, we should consider how long we plan to stay so we can pace the number of drinks we have accordingly. 

Choosing Drinks Wisely

When it comes to serving alcoholic beverages, hosts bear some responsibility to ensure that their guests not only have a good time but that they feel accommodated — and stay safe. When hosting a party, we should plan to include low-alcoholic and non-alcoholic options in our beverage selection. If we’re attending a party where we know there will be drinking, it may be beneficial to bring the non-alcoholic fun with us.

Alcohol-Free Options

  • Mocktails. At one time, there weren’t many options for non-alcoholic cocktails. These days, craft mocktails are becoming increasingly popular and can even be ordered at any bar. Non-alcoholic spirits are indeed thriving, with new products hitting the shelves all the time.
  • Non-alcoholic beer. Non-alcoholic beer has certainly come a long way from its old boring-tasting reputation. Today, there are plenty of options for non-alcoholic beer to suit everyone’s tastes. While non-alcoholic beer may be triggering for some people, others may take comfort in being able to enjoy a drink without the consequences.
  • Wine. Non-alcoholic wine is more than just grape juice! The difference is in how it’s processed, and there are a wide variety of non-alcoholic wines on the shelves (and online). Much like non-alcoholic beer, this drink has positive and negative attributes when it comes to our drinking triggers. 

For hosts and guests, choosing alcohol-free versions of popular drinks can be a healthy game-changer. The wide range of alcohol-free options offers us a way to enjoy any social event or an evening at home without the need for excessive alcohol consumption.

Low-Alcohol Options

If we want to indulge with a drink, there are some smart choices we can make to keep things light. Let’s look at a few.

  • Cocktails. There are creative ways of making cocktails that are lower in alcohol content — but big on taste. Low-alcohol cocktails generally have no more than 10% alcohol content. This is considerably less than traditional cocktails, which have 25% to 37% alcohol content. Be sure to ask for a “single” or stick to just one serving (1.5 ounces) of liquor, and load up on mixers!
  • Beer. Reduced-alcohol beer can be in two categories: light beer typically contains less than 5% alcohol by volume (ABV), and often less. There’s also low-alcohol beers specially crafted to have closer to 1-2% ABV.  
  • Wine. In general, red wines have a 15% alcohol content, higher than their white wine counterpart, which has 12% alcohol. At the same time, there are wine choices with even lower alcohol content, even as low as 6%. When drinking wine, portion control is key.

Even with all the available low-alcohol beverage options, it’s still wise to drink in moderation and alternate with non-alcoholic drink options.

Calories and Nutrition

Beyond its intoxicating effects, alcohol is well-known for packing in the calories. Let’s look at some examples of where calories are hiding in alcoholic beverages.

  • A single cocktail ranges from 150 to 200 calories per glass
  • A 12 ounce bottle of beer is approximately 154 calories
  • A 5 ounce glass of dry red wine is approximately 125 calories
  • A 5 ounce glass of dry white wine is approximately 120 calories

Now, let’s look at their alcohol-free counterparts:

  • Mocktails range between 30 to 35 calories per glass
  • A 12 ounce glass of non-alcoholic beer ranges between 17 to 90 calories
  • A 5 ounce glass of non-alcoholic dry red wine ranges between 30 to 35 calories
  • A 5 ounce glass of non-alcoholic dry white wine is approximately 18 calories 

And the winner is … you guessed it! Setting intoxication issues aside, non-alcoholic drinks are a wise choice for those of us who are counting calories. Alcohol is high in empty calories, which causes us to gain weight without enjoying the nutrition we’d get from a balanced diet. While there are some low-calorie versions of alcoholic beverages, the best bet for strict calorie counters is to stick with alcohol-free options.

Eating Mindfully

The relationship between food and alcohol absorption is often overlooked. When thinking about how to prepare for a night of drinking, we should consider having something to eat before heading out and continuing to eat something while there.

Drinking on an empty stomach is not advisable. According to the McDonald Center at the University of Notre Dame, having food in our stomach helps to slow the processing of alcohol. A person who has not eaten will hit peak intoxication more quickly than those who eat a big meal beforehand. While this may seem like a more efficient way to reach intoxication, it can be dangerous and can even be an indication of an eating disorder.

Beyond eating a balanced meal before drinking, full of lean protein, healthy fats, and plenty of vegetables, smart snacking can ensure a better post-drinking experience. Let’s look at some of the best snack options to consider at drinking events.

  • Fruits. Fruits are high in water content and will help maintain hydration. Apples, in particular, help reduce the inflammation in the intestines that results from alcohol use.
  • Lean proteins. Lean proteins, including chicken, tofu, beans, and Greek yogurt help to line our stomachs and keep us feeling full when consuming alcohol.
  • Starchy foods. Serving starchy foods like crackers helps to absorb alcoholic drinks. However, it’s best to avoid foods high in salt. Salty foods increase thirst and encourage us to drink more. Think about the bowls of peanuts and pretzels at a bar. They are put there for a reason: to motivate customers to order more drinks.

By focusing on these choices and making a plan for our food intake before we start drinking, we can avoid the poor food choices that often accompany a night of overindulgence in alcohol.

The Next Day

A night of drinking can present challenges. The morning after can sometimes be worse. It’s essential to prioritize our well-being and recovery. After we’ve overindulged, it’s important to hydrate to replenish our body’s store of water. Drinks with electrolytes are also important, especially if we have consumed large quantities of alcohol. Electrolytes help us recover from hangovers more quickly.

Eating a balanced meal can help stabilize our blood sugar levels and relieve nausea. That same old nutrition guidance — veggies, whole grains, lean protein — is even more important after drinking. These nutrients give our body the tools it needs to recover and repair.

Rest is also crucial, and the most important factor in recovery is time. Over-the-counter pain relievers like ibuprofen, aspirin, and naproxen may relieve headaches, but avoid Tylenol — it stresses out the liver, which is still recovering from its hard work the day before. On the other hand, many pain relievers are hard on the stomach. Keep within the recommended doses and take it easy if you have a sensitive stomach.

Remember, it's important to learn from a hangover. It’s an opportunity to develop mindful drinking practices or rethink our relationship with alcohol.

Establishing Mindful Drinking Practices

Mindful drinking techniques can help us make better decisions about drinking. Let’s look at some helpful examples. 

  • Savor the experience. We don’t need to race to get to the bottom of the glass. By shifting our focus to savoring each sip, we’ll enjoy our drink more and, equally importantly, slow down our drinking pace. When we savor, we can derive more enjoyment from fewer drinks.
  • Make a plan. By making a plan or setting a limit on our alcohol use, we can avoid peer pressure or mindless drinking.
  • Stay hydrated. Staying hydrated is a crucial aspect of responsible drinking. Water, soda, juice, or any alcohol-free beverage will do. Hydration is important before drinking because alcohol itself has a dehydrating effect — being well-hydrated counteracts some of the negative effects of alcohol.
  • Explore mocktails. Mocktails and non-alcoholic beverages are becoming increasingly fancy, widely available, and socially acceptable. Keeping a mocktail in hand helps us feel part of the group without reflexively indulging.
  • Alternate drinks. Consider alternating between alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. Alternating between the two will accomplish two things: it will ensure we remain hydrated and, once again, help us pace our alcohol intake.

Takeaways

As we navigate the landscape of social gatherings with and without alcohol, it is important to prioritize a healthier and more mindful approach. From understanding alcohol’s effects to making informed choices, savoring the experience, and choosing low- and non-alcoholic beverages, we’ll be better equipped to enjoy social gatherings without compromising our well-being. Remember, a social event can be an enjoyable and health-conscious experience when we are empowered to take control of our drinking. 

Alcohol and Mental Health
2024-01-17 9:00
Alcohol and Mental Health
What Is PAWS? What Is Its Role in Recovery?
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Learn about the science behind PAWS and ways you can ease the symptoms after acute withdrawal is over.

20 min read

Ready To Leave PAWS in the Past and Change Your Relationship With Alcohol? Reframe Can Help!

Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!

The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.

You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.

Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol. 

And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).

The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!

Read Full Article  →

When you first hear the word “PAWS,” the word might make you think of clumsy lion cubs or a big, furry Saint Bernard dog. But that’s where the cuteness ends. Unfortunately, PAWS, or post-acute withdrawal syndrome, refers to the not-so-cute psychological symptoms that often set in after an addictive substance has left our systems. They can persist for months. What are the post-acute withdrawal symptom, and what does PAWS recovery look like? Let’s see what science has to say.

What Is PAWS?

First, let’s clarify the difference between regular withdrawal syndrome and the post-acute withdrawal kind.

Defining Withdrawal

When we use a substance such as alcohol for a long period of time, our body and brain get used to it. Addiction hijacks the brain’s reward system, which relies on the feel-good neurotransmitter dopamine to steer us toward behaviors and substances that make us — yes — “feel good.” While it evolved to keep us alive by encouraging us to look for foods that taste good and to seek out romantic partners, the system is vulnerable to anything that provides instant gratification, such as drugs, gambling, or even excessive shopping. 

All of these activities flood the brain with “free” dopamine, and it starts to expect the constant supply as the new normal. With time, the body also gets used to the new state of things. As a result, if the supply of dopamine suddenly stops, the body and brain stage a revolt, which manifests as withdrawal symptoms.

  • We might get nauseous and have trouble holding down food.
  • Our heart rate might increase, and we might sweat more due to overstimulation of our autonomic nervous system.
  • Our sleep gets disrupted.
  • Our mood changes as the levels of feel-good neurotransmitters are depleted.
  • Anxiety ramps up as dopamine levels plummet, and dynorphin levels ramp up.
  • We might get intense cravings for alcohol (or whatever substance we’ve been using).
  • In severe cases of alcohol withdrawal in particular, we might experience seizures and delirium tremens — the most serious (and potentially life-threatening) withdrawal effect.

How Is PAWS Different?

Unlike “acute” withdrawal symptoms, which set in around 24 hours after our last drink, peak for a couple of days, and dissipate within about a week, PAWS stages what feels like a sneak attack and can linger for months after there are no traces of the substance in our system. It’s not unique to alcohol — in fact, research shows that PAWS is associated with many different substances:

  • Alcohol
  • Opioids (heroin and prescription opioids)
  • Benzodiazepines
  • Stimulants (such as amphetamines) 
  • Marijuana
  • Nicotine
  • Caffeine
  • Antidepressants
  • Antipsychotics

PAWS Symptoms and Causes

While less medically dangerous than the symptoms of acute withdrawal, the mixture of physical, mental, and emotional turmoil that PAWS can bring may be just as (if not more) distressing:

  • Mood fluctuations. We might feel on top of the world one moment, down in the dumps the next, and irritated or angry shortly after. Mood changes are one of the most common symptoms of PAWS,  the direct result of the brain recovering from the neurotransmitter imbalances caused by addiction.
  • Anhedonia. One of the most distressing symptoms of PAWS is the frequent inability to find joy in things that used to bring us pleasure. In the case of alcohol, this symptom tends to be at its worst during the first 30 days of abstinence.

    Like mood swings, this symptom is the result of neurotransmitter imbalances, with dopamine depletion playing a particularly significant role. Our brain needs time to read, and, in the meantime, activities that used to stimulate dopamine release naturally (such as meeting new people, engaging in creative tasks, reading, or spending time with loved ones) can feel unfulfilling. That “something is missing” feeling seems like it will never pass, although it certainly will.
  • Stress sensitivity. Many people weathering PAWS find that their tolerance to stress plummets. A missed bus, a deadline at work — whatever the cause is, we might find ourselves easily going into full-blown panic mode. 
  • Sleep disturbances and fatigue. PAWS can make us feel drained, disrupting our sleep patterns and leaving us feeling like we can never quite catch up. Even if we clock in the right amount of hours, we might feel like we’re running on empty.
  • Difficulty concentrating. Our cognitive abilities might take a hit as well, making it harder to focus and keep our attention on tasks that require concentration. This is normal — it takes the brain some time to recalibrate. Though it might be frustrating to feel like we’re struggling to do tasks that came easily before, be patient. Our focus will return! 
  • Anxiety and depression. We might feel our anxiety or depression ramp up as part of PAWS. It can be frustrating to deal with life without a chemical “crutch” to rely on (even though in reality, alcohol tends to worsen anxiety and depression in the long run). Especially after the acute withdrawal period is over, people might expect us to be “back to normal,” when in reality we still feel miles away from our former selves. It’s important to cut ourselves some slack in this case and be patient — we’ve been through a lot, and we need time to rest and recover.
  • Cravings. Finally, cravings for alcohol (or the substance of choice) are a well-known symptom of PAWS. Even after physical dependence has ended, psychological dependence can persist for weeks, months, or even years. Once again, it’s important to be kind to ourselves when it comes to dealing with this understandably frustrating symptom. We’ll discuss some strategies on how to do so later on, but rest assured — there’s hope!

What Causes PAWS?

The cause of PAWS isn’t entirely clear. The brain is complex, and the simple truth is that it takes it a while to recover from the disarray caused by substance misuse. Certain genetic and environmental factors might also be at play.

But Does the Brain Eventually Recover?

Yes! Rest assured,” to “Yes! Take heart, PAWS isn’t permanent. Research shows that it might take a few weeks to several months, but most people find their way back to their former selves within about a year. As far as alcohol-related PAWS, a recent review in the Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs suggests that symptoms tend to last 4-6 months.

Can PAWS Be Avoided?

The best way to avoid PAWS is to approach the initial withdrawal process with care by going to a detox facility — especially for those of us who’ve been drinking (or using other substances) for a long time. A gradual detox process is much more gentle on the brain and body, and it can get the recovery process off to a good start. The treatment for alcohol usually involves benzodiazepines, which have an effect on the brain similar to alcohol. These medications can be administered in a medical setting and tapered off gradually over a few days, making the recovery process much more comfortable.

How Is PAWS Treated?

In general, treating PAWS calls for a highly individualized approach, and what works for one person might not work for another. Unlike acute withdrawal, PAWS doesn’t come with distinct physical symptoms that can be addressed with medication or specific types of therapy. Basically, there’s no universal protocol for treating PAWS other than providing support and possibly treating such symptoms as anxiety, depression, and insomnia with medications

That said, here are several things that people have found helpful in overcoming PAWS:

  1. Understand where your symptoms are coming from. It seems simple, but it can make a huge difference. Symptoms such as anhedonia, in particular, can be difficult to grapple with and feel as if they’ll last forever. However, as we’ve already mentioned — you won’t feel like this forever! Little by little, you’ll start seeing sparks of excitement and authentic joy reappear in your life. 
  2. Reframe the process as part of the journey. Try to see this as a chapter in your recovery story or as a sign that your body and mind are healing. The process might not always be easy, but look at it as a time of growth, change, and renewal. It will be worth it in the long run! Be kind to yourself and celebrate your recovery, even the parts that feel challenging. You’re moving forward!
  3. Start practicing minfulness. Mindfulness is a science-backed way to rebalance your brain chemistry, and it can work wonders when it comes to getting through psychological challenges like cravings. All it takes is a few minutes a day of simply observing your mind without judgment. There are many different ways to do it — you can try deep breathing exercises, meditation, yoga practice, sound healing, or various brainwave meditations.
  4. Nourish your body. Nutrition, hydration, and sleep — these three elements of healthy living go a long way toward minimizing the impact of PAWS symptoms on your life. When we’re not at our best emotionally, our eating and sleep habits tend to suffer. Keep your fridge stocked with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables. Be sure to include healthy fats (such as salmon or avocados) in your diet to help your brain recover faster. 
  5. Stay active. Exercise is amazing when it comes to restoring the levels of neurotransmitters depleted by alcohol use while releasing endorphins and lowering cortisol levels — all of which helps reduce stress. Pick an activity that you like, and stick with it. If going to the gym isn’t your thing — no problem! There are plenty of workout apps and YouTube channels with exercise videos to choose from. Some great ones to try? Popsugar Fitness and The Fitness Marshall have a little bit of everything. Heather Robertson is terrific for High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT), and The Studio by Jamie Kinkeade is full of fun dance workouts.
  6. Talk to the pros. Connecting a therapist you connect with can make a huge difference in the recovery process as well. If you want to understand your thought patterns better, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can help.
  7. Make sure you have a support team around you. Supportive friends and family members are key to your recovery. It can also be incredibly helpful to join a recovery community to share stories and advice with people who are on the same path. (The Reframe forums are available 24/7 and filled with people ready to cheer you on!)
  8. Find ways to boost dopamine naturally. While time is the best cure for restoring neurotransmitter levels that have been offset by alcohol, there are still ways we can speed this process along. One way is by forming authentic social connections — or reconnecting with old friends. It can be especially helpful to reestablish connections with people who remember the “real” you before alcohol got in the way. But building new bonds can work wonders as well! Now that you have access to your authentic emotions and personality (though it might not always feel like it quite yet), there’s so much to discover. Creative activities — anything that gets you in the so-called “flow” state — are great ways to boost dopamine naturally. Try whatever appeals to you — writing, gardening, learning a programming language, making quilts, making your own homemade granola — it doesn’t matter what it is as long as it gets your creative juices flowing.
  9. Get excited about new opportunities. A big part of what makes the alcohol recovery journey — and PAWS in particular — so difficult is continuing to miss alcohol and its effects. It’s easy (and natural, brain-wise) to forget the bad parts and remember the “fun.” There’s even a name for it: euphoric recall. But you can be sure you’re not missing out on anything. In fact, it’s just the opposite! There’s a whole world of opportunities to discover, people to meet, and skills to learn. Try to look at this part of your life with appreciation and, most importantly, curiosity about the future. Who knows what you’ll discover without alcohol getting in the way?

Life After PAWS

Although it might not seem like it right now, there will be a time when PAWS will be behind you. Right now, you’re getting closer to that point every single day. It’s absolutely worth waiting for! Allow yourself to feel excited about the future and know that you’re on a journey to a more fulfilling, interesting, and meaningful life, and the weight of PAWS will start to lift sooner than you think.

When you first hear the word “PAWS,” the word might make you think of clumsy lion cubs or a big, furry Saint Bernard dog. But that’s where the cuteness ends. Unfortunately, PAWS, or post-acute withdrawal syndrome, refers to the not-so-cute psychological symptoms that often set in after an addictive substance has left our systems. They can persist for months. What are the post-acute withdrawal symptom, and what does PAWS recovery look like? Let’s see what science has to say.

What Is PAWS?

First, let’s clarify the difference between regular withdrawal syndrome and the post-acute withdrawal kind.

Defining Withdrawal

When we use a substance such as alcohol for a long period of time, our body and brain get used to it. Addiction hijacks the brain’s reward system, which relies on the feel-good neurotransmitter dopamine to steer us toward behaviors and substances that make us — yes — “feel good.” While it evolved to keep us alive by encouraging us to look for foods that taste good and to seek out romantic partners, the system is vulnerable to anything that provides instant gratification, such as drugs, gambling, or even excessive shopping. 

All of these activities flood the brain with “free” dopamine, and it starts to expect the constant supply as the new normal. With time, the body also gets used to the new state of things. As a result, if the supply of dopamine suddenly stops, the body and brain stage a revolt, which manifests as withdrawal symptoms.

  • We might get nauseous and have trouble holding down food.
  • Our heart rate might increase, and we might sweat more due to overstimulation of our autonomic nervous system.
  • Our sleep gets disrupted.
  • Our mood changes as the levels of feel-good neurotransmitters are depleted.
  • Anxiety ramps up as dopamine levels plummet, and dynorphin levels ramp up.
  • We might get intense cravings for alcohol (or whatever substance we’ve been using).
  • In severe cases of alcohol withdrawal in particular, we might experience seizures and delirium tremens — the most serious (and potentially life-threatening) withdrawal effect.

How Is PAWS Different?

Unlike “acute” withdrawal symptoms, which set in around 24 hours after our last drink, peak for a couple of days, and dissipate within about a week, PAWS stages what feels like a sneak attack and can linger for months after there are no traces of the substance in our system. It’s not unique to alcohol — in fact, research shows that PAWS is associated with many different substances:

  • Alcohol
  • Opioids (heroin and prescription opioids)
  • Benzodiazepines
  • Stimulants (such as amphetamines) 
  • Marijuana
  • Nicotine
  • Caffeine
  • Antidepressants
  • Antipsychotics

PAWS Symptoms and Causes

While less medically dangerous than the symptoms of acute withdrawal, the mixture of physical, mental, and emotional turmoil that PAWS can bring may be just as (if not more) distressing:

  • Mood fluctuations. We might feel on top of the world one moment, down in the dumps the next, and irritated or angry shortly after. Mood changes are one of the most common symptoms of PAWS,  the direct result of the brain recovering from the neurotransmitter imbalances caused by addiction.
  • Anhedonia. One of the most distressing symptoms of PAWS is the frequent inability to find joy in things that used to bring us pleasure. In the case of alcohol, this symptom tends to be at its worst during the first 30 days of abstinence.

    Like mood swings, this symptom is the result of neurotransmitter imbalances, with dopamine depletion playing a particularly significant role. Our brain needs time to read, and, in the meantime, activities that used to stimulate dopamine release naturally (such as meeting new people, engaging in creative tasks, reading, or spending time with loved ones) can feel unfulfilling. That “something is missing” feeling seems like it will never pass, although it certainly will.
  • Stress sensitivity. Many people weathering PAWS find that their tolerance to stress plummets. A missed bus, a deadline at work — whatever the cause is, we might find ourselves easily going into full-blown panic mode. 
  • Sleep disturbances and fatigue. PAWS can make us feel drained, disrupting our sleep patterns and leaving us feeling like we can never quite catch up. Even if we clock in the right amount of hours, we might feel like we’re running on empty.
  • Difficulty concentrating. Our cognitive abilities might take a hit as well, making it harder to focus and keep our attention on tasks that require concentration. This is normal — it takes the brain some time to recalibrate. Though it might be frustrating to feel like we’re struggling to do tasks that came easily before, be patient. Our focus will return! 
  • Anxiety and depression. We might feel our anxiety or depression ramp up as part of PAWS. It can be frustrating to deal with life without a chemical “crutch” to rely on (even though in reality, alcohol tends to worsen anxiety and depression in the long run). Especially after the acute withdrawal period is over, people might expect us to be “back to normal,” when in reality we still feel miles away from our former selves. It’s important to cut ourselves some slack in this case and be patient — we’ve been through a lot, and we need time to rest and recover.
  • Cravings. Finally, cravings for alcohol (or the substance of choice) are a well-known symptom of PAWS. Even after physical dependence has ended, psychological dependence can persist for weeks, months, or even years. Once again, it’s important to be kind to ourselves when it comes to dealing with this understandably frustrating symptom. We’ll discuss some strategies on how to do so later on, but rest assured — there’s hope!

What Causes PAWS?

The cause of PAWS isn’t entirely clear. The brain is complex, and the simple truth is that it takes it a while to recover from the disarray caused by substance misuse. Certain genetic and environmental factors might also be at play.

But Does the Brain Eventually Recover?

Yes! Rest assured,” to “Yes! Take heart, PAWS isn’t permanent. Research shows that it might take a few weeks to several months, but most people find their way back to their former selves within about a year. As far as alcohol-related PAWS, a recent review in the Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs suggests that symptoms tend to last 4-6 months.

Can PAWS Be Avoided?

The best way to avoid PAWS is to approach the initial withdrawal process with care by going to a detox facility — especially for those of us who’ve been drinking (or using other substances) for a long time. A gradual detox process is much more gentle on the brain and body, and it can get the recovery process off to a good start. The treatment for alcohol usually involves benzodiazepines, which have an effect on the brain similar to alcohol. These medications can be administered in a medical setting and tapered off gradually over a few days, making the recovery process much more comfortable.

How Is PAWS Treated?

In general, treating PAWS calls for a highly individualized approach, and what works for one person might not work for another. Unlike acute withdrawal, PAWS doesn’t come with distinct physical symptoms that can be addressed with medication or specific types of therapy. Basically, there’s no universal protocol for treating PAWS other than providing support and possibly treating such symptoms as anxiety, depression, and insomnia with medications

That said, here are several things that people have found helpful in overcoming PAWS:

  1. Understand where your symptoms are coming from. It seems simple, but it can make a huge difference. Symptoms such as anhedonia, in particular, can be difficult to grapple with and feel as if they’ll last forever. However, as we’ve already mentioned — you won’t feel like this forever! Little by little, you’ll start seeing sparks of excitement and authentic joy reappear in your life. 
  2. Reframe the process as part of the journey. Try to see this as a chapter in your recovery story or as a sign that your body and mind are healing. The process might not always be easy, but look at it as a time of growth, change, and renewal. It will be worth it in the long run! Be kind to yourself and celebrate your recovery, even the parts that feel challenging. You’re moving forward!
  3. Start practicing minfulness. Mindfulness is a science-backed way to rebalance your brain chemistry, and it can work wonders when it comes to getting through psychological challenges like cravings. All it takes is a few minutes a day of simply observing your mind without judgment. There are many different ways to do it — you can try deep breathing exercises, meditation, yoga practice, sound healing, or various brainwave meditations.
  4. Nourish your body. Nutrition, hydration, and sleep — these three elements of healthy living go a long way toward minimizing the impact of PAWS symptoms on your life. When we’re not at our best emotionally, our eating and sleep habits tend to suffer. Keep your fridge stocked with plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables. Be sure to include healthy fats (such as salmon or avocados) in your diet to help your brain recover faster. 
  5. Stay active. Exercise is amazing when it comes to restoring the levels of neurotransmitters depleted by alcohol use while releasing endorphins and lowering cortisol levels — all of which helps reduce stress. Pick an activity that you like, and stick with it. If going to the gym isn’t your thing — no problem! There are plenty of workout apps and YouTube channels with exercise videos to choose from. Some great ones to try? Popsugar Fitness and The Fitness Marshall have a little bit of everything. Heather Robertson is terrific for High Intensity Interval Training (HIIT), and The Studio by Jamie Kinkeade is full of fun dance workouts.
  6. Talk to the pros. Connecting a therapist you connect with can make a huge difference in the recovery process as well. If you want to understand your thought patterns better, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can help.
  7. Make sure you have a support team around you. Supportive friends and family members are key to your recovery. It can also be incredibly helpful to join a recovery community to share stories and advice with people who are on the same path. (The Reframe forums are available 24/7 and filled with people ready to cheer you on!)
  8. Find ways to boost dopamine naturally. While time is the best cure for restoring neurotransmitter levels that have been offset by alcohol, there are still ways we can speed this process along. One way is by forming authentic social connections — or reconnecting with old friends. It can be especially helpful to reestablish connections with people who remember the “real” you before alcohol got in the way. But building new bonds can work wonders as well! Now that you have access to your authentic emotions and personality (though it might not always feel like it quite yet), there’s so much to discover. Creative activities — anything that gets you in the so-called “flow” state — are great ways to boost dopamine naturally. Try whatever appeals to you — writing, gardening, learning a programming language, making quilts, making your own homemade granola — it doesn’t matter what it is as long as it gets your creative juices flowing.
  9. Get excited about new opportunities. A big part of what makes the alcohol recovery journey — and PAWS in particular — so difficult is continuing to miss alcohol and its effects. It’s easy (and natural, brain-wise) to forget the bad parts and remember the “fun.” There’s even a name for it: euphoric recall. But you can be sure you’re not missing out on anything. In fact, it’s just the opposite! There’s a whole world of opportunities to discover, people to meet, and skills to learn. Try to look at this part of your life with appreciation and, most importantly, curiosity about the future. Who knows what you’ll discover without alcohol getting in the way?

Life After PAWS

Although it might not seem like it right now, there will be a time when PAWS will be behind you. Right now, you’re getting closer to that point every single day. It’s absolutely worth waiting for! Allow yourself to feel excited about the future and know that you’re on a journey to a more fulfilling, interesting, and meaningful life, and the weight of PAWS will start to lift sooner than you think.

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2024-01-17 9:00
Alcohol and Mental Health
The Importance of Being in Control While Drinking at Parties
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How To Stay in Control While Drinking at Parties

Parties can take many shapes, but we often picture parties as fun, boisterous events where friends get together to unwind, laugh, celebrate, or blow off steam at the end of the week. A party may be as relaxed as games, conversations, and laughter, or it may be as wild as people showing off their latest dance moves and singing their hearts out to the music.

At many parties, alcohol is one of the main ingredients used to set the tone. Some people might say, “Having a drink is the best way to loosen up!” There’s some truth to that, because alcohol can loosen our inhibitions, but this property of alcohol can quickly take us from relaxed to behaving in ways we don’t want. Let’s look at how to stay in control at a drinking party and walk away without any embarrassing memories.

The Allure of Drinking at Parties

There are many reasons why we may want to drink at a party — and sometimes, we end up drinking even when we don’t want to. Developing a habit of mindfulness around our drinking can help us make the best choices for our health goals.

Most of us have heard that staying sober or drinking responsibly is key to having a good time because it allows us to be fully present in the moment. And excessive alcohol consumption can lead to a host of problems, including impaired judgment and driving while under the influence.

Parties can be fun — until they’re not! Often, excessive alcohol consumption is the culprit when things go off the rails. Hartford and Siebring’s (2015) research concluded that high-risk settings such as parties and bars were associated with heavy drinking. Therefore, it makes sense that creating a plan to avoid or control drinking at an alcohol party is the best way to have a good time and minimize its negative consequences.   

Let’s explore ways to have fun at a drinking party while remaining in control.

What To Do Before Drinking Alcohol

The party is this evening, and we plan to be there to see friends we haven’t seen in a while. What could be better? Good food, good company, and plenty of alcohol. To stay fully present in the moment, be sure to make a plan before party time.

  • Establish a safe drinking limit. Set a limit — and stick to it! This helps us remain in control. Everyone is different: the amount of alcohol that causes intoxication varies based on a person’s gender, weight, metabolism, overall health, tolerance level, hydration, and food intake.
  • Develop a behavior plan. If we’re not sure about how alcohol will affect us, we can try a behavior-based approach. Try alternating drinks between alcohol and a non-alcoholic drink like soda or water to slow down your consumption and give yourself time to mindfully assess your intoxication level.
  • Eat something before drinking. Drinking on an empty stomach causes the alcohol to enter our bloodstream more quickly. As a result, we feel the effects of the alcohol faster. This may affect your ability to manage your drinking.

What To Do During a Drinking Party

As soon as we’re offered a drink or directed to the bar, it’s time to put our plan into action. If we decide to drink, here are some things to consider when making that first drink choice:

  • Be aware of a drink’s alcohol content. Not all alcoholic beverages are created equal. One “standard drink” can be hard to define, as alcohol content of different beverages can vary wildly. For instance, the alcohol content of beers can range anywhere from 3% to upwards of 10% alcohol by volume (ABV). Still, there are averages to keep in mind.
  1. A 12-ounce can of beer has 5% ABV
  2. A 5-ounce glass of wine has 12% ABV
  3. A 1.5-ounce shot of liquor has 40% ABV
  • Portion control. Doubles in one glass are equal to two drinks. We can’t fool our bodies by ordering a double in our cocktail and believing we are only having one drink. A double means just that: twice the alcohol.
  • Time your drinking. How long will we be at the party? How long will it take to process the alcohol we drink? The liver can process approximately one “standard” drink per hour. Anything over that and our blood alcohol content (BAC) begins to rise — and intoxication sets in. That doesn’t mean drinking two drinks over two hours is the same as two drinks quickly followed by a two-hour wait. The latter choice has a bigger impact on us and can leave us feeling more tired for the drive home.
  • Be on alert for top-ups! Top-ups tend to happen when the host is pouring wine. There’s always a friendly someone more than happy and willing to top up our half-filled glass. If we’re not paying attention, our plan to limit or moderate can quickly turn into two, three, or four drinks without noticing.
  • Stay hydrated, but not with alcohol. Alcohol is a diuretic, which means it’s dehydrating. Non-alcoholic drinks such as water, soda, or mocktails are good alternatives to alcohol — they allow us to keep something in our hands and sip safely.
  • Be mindful. Part of maintaining control is paying attention to how we feel. Alcohol slows down our nervous system and reduces our bodily awareness. This means we may become uncoordinated, have slower reflexes, and have trouble thinking clearly. If we’ve set a clear intention for maintaining control throughout the evening, it’s important to check in and make sure we’re honoring that intention.
  • Be aware of snacking. All those delicious party foods? They’re often packed with salt, which can make us more thirsty — and encourage us to drink more. It’s best to avoid salty snacks, but if we decide to nibble, it’s important to have non-alcoholic options available.

How To Slow Down Drinking

Sometimes, we arrive at a party thinking we’ll only be there for an hour. But then we bump into a few people we haven’t seen in ages, and our plans change. Then, our plan to have just one drink sort of shifts. It’s time to switch to plan B, which requires us to pace ourselves to remain safely sober. Here are some tips to slow down drinking.

  • Alternate between alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. Today, we’re fortunate that options like mocktails and alcohol-free drinks are popular, abundant, socially accepted, and great-tasting.
  • Use a smaller glass. Using a smaller glass is a way of tricking ourselves into thinking we’re having more than we really are. We can ask for a smaller portion in a smaller glass to help us moderate. 
  • Avoid highly alcoholic drinks. It’s worth repeating: not all alcoholic beverages are created equal. Especially with cocktails, it’s easy to go overboard. We can always check with the bartender or the person mixing drinks, and develop ways to say “no” to peer pressure.
  • Don't just sit and drink – stay busy. We tend to drink more while sitting, especially while sitting alone. When we get up and mingle, join in conversations, or dance, we distract ourselves from having nothing to do but drink. By moving around, there’s a good chance we will drink less.
  • Push back on peer pressure. When we reach our limit, it’s okay to say “No!” to offers of another drink. It’s okay to let people know “I’m done for the night.” We’re in control of our own life and choices!

Summing Up

Monitoring our alcohol intake or drinking in moderation is essential to ensure a positive and enjoyable party experience. This can be done by striking a balance between the social benefits of alcohol and the potential risks associated with its excessive consumption. Finding this balance fits with Henssler et al.’s (2021) research, concluding that controlled drinking, especially when supported by counseling, provides a viable option for an abstinence-oriented approach to Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD)

For those of us who want to pursue a controlled drinking approach, creating a drinking plan before an event is an important way to meet our goals. Following these strategies makes it possible to remain in control while enjoying ourselves if we choose to drink — and ensure we have great memories that last past the evening!

How To Stay in Control While Drinking at Parties

Parties can take many shapes, but we often picture parties as fun, boisterous events where friends get together to unwind, laugh, celebrate, or blow off steam at the end of the week. A party may be as relaxed as games, conversations, and laughter, or it may be as wild as people showing off their latest dance moves and singing their hearts out to the music.

At many parties, alcohol is one of the main ingredients used to set the tone. Some people might say, “Having a drink is the best way to loosen up!” There’s some truth to that, because alcohol can loosen our inhibitions, but this property of alcohol can quickly take us from relaxed to behaving in ways we don’t want. Let’s look at how to stay in control at a drinking party and walk away without any embarrassing memories.

The Allure of Drinking at Parties

There are many reasons why we may want to drink at a party — and sometimes, we end up drinking even when we don’t want to. Developing a habit of mindfulness around our drinking can help us make the best choices for our health goals.

Most of us have heard that staying sober or drinking responsibly is key to having a good time because it allows us to be fully present in the moment. And excessive alcohol consumption can lead to a host of problems, including impaired judgment and driving while under the influence.

Parties can be fun — until they’re not! Often, excessive alcohol consumption is the culprit when things go off the rails. Hartford and Siebring’s (2015) research concluded that high-risk settings such as parties and bars were associated with heavy drinking. Therefore, it makes sense that creating a plan to avoid or control drinking at an alcohol party is the best way to have a good time and minimize its negative consequences.   

Let’s explore ways to have fun at a drinking party while remaining in control.

What To Do Before Drinking Alcohol

The party is this evening, and we plan to be there to see friends we haven’t seen in a while. What could be better? Good food, good company, and plenty of alcohol. To stay fully present in the moment, be sure to make a plan before party time.

  • Establish a safe drinking limit. Set a limit — and stick to it! This helps us remain in control. Everyone is different: the amount of alcohol that causes intoxication varies based on a person’s gender, weight, metabolism, overall health, tolerance level, hydration, and food intake.
  • Develop a behavior plan. If we’re not sure about how alcohol will affect us, we can try a behavior-based approach. Try alternating drinks between alcohol and a non-alcoholic drink like soda or water to slow down your consumption and give yourself time to mindfully assess your intoxication level.
  • Eat something before drinking. Drinking on an empty stomach causes the alcohol to enter our bloodstream more quickly. As a result, we feel the effects of the alcohol faster. This may affect your ability to manage your drinking.

What To Do During a Drinking Party

As soon as we’re offered a drink or directed to the bar, it’s time to put our plan into action. If we decide to drink, here are some things to consider when making that first drink choice:

  • Be aware of a drink’s alcohol content. Not all alcoholic beverages are created equal. One “standard drink” can be hard to define, as alcohol content of different beverages can vary wildly. For instance, the alcohol content of beers can range anywhere from 3% to upwards of 10% alcohol by volume (ABV). Still, there are averages to keep in mind.
  1. A 12-ounce can of beer has 5% ABV
  2. A 5-ounce glass of wine has 12% ABV
  3. A 1.5-ounce shot of liquor has 40% ABV
  • Portion control. Doubles in one glass are equal to two drinks. We can’t fool our bodies by ordering a double in our cocktail and believing we are only having one drink. A double means just that: twice the alcohol.
  • Time your drinking. How long will we be at the party? How long will it take to process the alcohol we drink? The liver can process approximately one “standard” drink per hour. Anything over that and our blood alcohol content (BAC) begins to rise — and intoxication sets in. That doesn’t mean drinking two drinks over two hours is the same as two drinks quickly followed by a two-hour wait. The latter choice has a bigger impact on us and can leave us feeling more tired for the drive home.
  • Be on alert for top-ups! Top-ups tend to happen when the host is pouring wine. There’s always a friendly someone more than happy and willing to top up our half-filled glass. If we’re not paying attention, our plan to limit or moderate can quickly turn into two, three, or four drinks without noticing.
  • Stay hydrated, but not with alcohol. Alcohol is a diuretic, which means it’s dehydrating. Non-alcoholic drinks such as water, soda, or mocktails are good alternatives to alcohol — they allow us to keep something in our hands and sip safely.
  • Be mindful. Part of maintaining control is paying attention to how we feel. Alcohol slows down our nervous system and reduces our bodily awareness. This means we may become uncoordinated, have slower reflexes, and have trouble thinking clearly. If we’ve set a clear intention for maintaining control throughout the evening, it’s important to check in and make sure we’re honoring that intention.
  • Be aware of snacking. All those delicious party foods? They’re often packed with salt, which can make us more thirsty — and encourage us to drink more. It’s best to avoid salty snacks, but if we decide to nibble, it’s important to have non-alcoholic options available.

How To Slow Down Drinking

Sometimes, we arrive at a party thinking we’ll only be there for an hour. But then we bump into a few people we haven’t seen in ages, and our plans change. Then, our plan to have just one drink sort of shifts. It’s time to switch to plan B, which requires us to pace ourselves to remain safely sober. Here are some tips to slow down drinking.

  • Alternate between alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. Today, we’re fortunate that options like mocktails and alcohol-free drinks are popular, abundant, socially accepted, and great-tasting.
  • Use a smaller glass. Using a smaller glass is a way of tricking ourselves into thinking we’re having more than we really are. We can ask for a smaller portion in a smaller glass to help us moderate. 
  • Avoid highly alcoholic drinks. It’s worth repeating: not all alcoholic beverages are created equal. Especially with cocktails, it’s easy to go overboard. We can always check with the bartender or the person mixing drinks, and develop ways to say “no” to peer pressure.
  • Don't just sit and drink – stay busy. We tend to drink more while sitting, especially while sitting alone. When we get up and mingle, join in conversations, or dance, we distract ourselves from having nothing to do but drink. By moving around, there’s a good chance we will drink less.
  • Push back on peer pressure. When we reach our limit, it’s okay to say “No!” to offers of another drink. It’s okay to let people know “I’m done for the night.” We’re in control of our own life and choices!

Summing Up

Monitoring our alcohol intake or drinking in moderation is essential to ensure a positive and enjoyable party experience. This can be done by striking a balance between the social benefits of alcohol and the potential risks associated with its excessive consumption. Finding this balance fits with Henssler et al.’s (2021) research, concluding that controlled drinking, especially when supported by counseling, provides a viable option for an abstinence-oriented approach to Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD)

For those of us who want to pursue a controlled drinking approach, creating a drinking plan before an event is an important way to meet our goals. Following these strategies makes it possible to remain in control while enjoying ourselves if we choose to drink — and ensure we have great memories that last past the evening!

Alcohol and Mental Health
2024-01-17 9:00
Alcohol and Mental Health
What One Year of Sobriety Has in Store for You
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The benefits of going sober for a year are nothing short of amazing. Find out more about the health improvements and other perks you can expect in our latest blog!

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Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!

The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.

You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.

Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol. 

And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).

The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app today!

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How do you measure a year? It might be enough time to train for a marathon, learn a language, or have a baby. A year can be jam-packed, or it can fly by, and setting goals is a great way to keep our time on track. But most goals — though absolutely worth pursuing — take a lot of extra effort on our part.

What if you could lose weight, look years younger, fix your sleep schedule, lower your resting heart rate, boost your immune system, improve your memory and concentration, save enough money for a vacation, improve the relationships in your life, and possibly get ahead in your career — all simply by not doing one thing? Sounds pretty amazing! To change your life in all those ways all you have to do is avoid alcohol.

While this is not to say that going without booze is effortless — it requires some strategizing and support — it’s absolutely doable, and it might be easier than you think. Let’s see what the amazing benefits of being sober for an entire year can bring!

Part 1: The Physical Benefits

The physical benefits of going sober for a year are nothing short of amazing. Here’s a preview, with a timeline of what to expect.

1. The Liver Gets a Much-Needed Chance To Repair

The liver is a remarkable organ responsible for processing what we eat and separating the nutrients from the waste products. One of its most important jobs is to clear our blood of toxic chemicals, including alcohol — which, as far as the liver is concerned, is a poison. This process is taxing, and although the liver has the remarkable ability to repair itself, there’s a limit to its powers.

Excessive alcohol use is notoriously hard on the liver and can lead to a number of problems ranging from inflammation to fatty liver disease, and eventually to cirrhosis or liver cancer. However, a year can do wonders for this remarkable organ. Here’s a timeline of how the liver heals:


  • The first few weeks. Inflammation reduces starting from the first week.
  • Months 2-3. Liver fat continues to drop and bile flow improves.
  • Months 4-6. Liver enzymes get normalized, and the risk of liver fibrosis goes down by the half-year mark.
  • Months 7-9. Liver fat continues to decrease.
  • Months 10-12. Liver health is stabilized, and our risk of liver disease drops dramatically!

2. The Heart Gets Healthier

In addition to the liver, the heart is another organ that gets overwhelmed by excessive alcohol use. High blood pressure, an increased heart rate, and a risk of serious cardiovascular diseases such as heart attack and stroke have all been linked to having a few too many a few too many times. 

The first week. Right from the get-go, blood pressure decreases and the strain on our heart lifts. Instant relief!

  • The first three months. In the first 12 weeks or so without booze, our heart rate stabilizes, and blood circulation improves. Blood pressure continues to stabilize.
  • Months 4-6. By the half-year point, there’s a noticeable shift — our risk of arrhythmia decreases, and oxygenation levels improve. Another biggie? Lower cholesterol levels and a decreased risk of coronary artery disease.
  • Months 7-9. The benefits keep adding up! By this point, our cardiac fitness has improved, and our blood pressure and cholesterol levels continue to get better.
  • Months 10-12. At this point, we can celebrate the new year with a healthier, more stable heart and a significantly lower risk of heart disease.

3. Improved Digestion, Metabolism, and Weight Loss

Now, this is the one many of us have been waiting for. From the empty calories to midnight pizza runs, alcohol is notoriously bad for our waistline. Get ready for some major changes!

Part of the picture is also the way alcohol affects digestion

  • First week. Metabolic reset begins, and our blood sugar levels stabilize.
  • Weeks 2-4. Our appetite stabilizes, and we start to notice weight loss.
  • Months 4-6. Our energy levels increase as we continue to lose weight. Plus, our insulin sensitivity improves, leading to more efficient nutrient metabolism.
  • Months 7-12. In the second half of the year, our metabolic health continues to improve as our weight finds its way to a healthier point, whatever that may be. Get ready to greet the new year looking and feeling your best!

Part 2: The Brain Benefits

Last but certainly not least, let’s talk about brain health. Alcohol disrupts the balance of neurotransmitters — chemical messengers in our brain. In addition to causing depressant effects by boosting GABA and lowering glutamate, it artificially increases our levels of dopamine, the “reward” neurotransmitter that allows us to find pleasure in certain activities. This is why it can be so hard to stop drinking: by artificially flooding our brain with dopamine, the brain gets used to getting its “reward” from the bottle instead of from other activities.

As a depressant, alcohol is also notorious for slowing down our thinking and clouding our mind in “brain fog.” Over time, our memory suffers and, if we really go overboard, we can even end up with alcohol-induced brain damage. Moreover, by disrupting our gut heath, alcohol interferes with the brain-gut connection, which, in turn, disrupts the levels of serotonin in our brain by affecting the bacteria in the gut, where some of our serotonin is produced. The result? Mood swings and emotional instability.

Luckily, thanks to neuroplasticity — the brain’s ability to rewire itself and form new connections well into adulthood — much of this can be reversed or prevented by setting alcohol aside. And as the gut microbiome recovers, the gut-brain connection improves, and our mood stabilizes. Here’s what to expect:

  • First week. As the alcohol-induced brain fog lifts, our mind begins to clear, and the neurotransmitter levels start to stabilize. 
  • Weeks 2-4. Our concentration sharpens, focus and memory improve, and neuroplasticity really starts taking effect.
  • Months 2-3. Memory and attention get even better, and neuroplasticity continues to work its magic.
  • Months 4-6. Our emotions stabilize and, by the half-year point, our cognitive abilities are clearly on the mend. Our executive functioning improves, and we can see definite changes in how much sharper our thinking has become.
  • Months 7-9. Our cognitive abilities continue to improve and consolidate. This is our new normal!
  • Months 10-12. We feel more stable than ever, and the risk of alcohol-related neurological problems goes way down. Who knew a year could make such a difference?

Part 3: Other Perks

The health benefits of going sober for a year are astounding, but that’s not even all! There is so much more to look forward to.

1. Financial Savings

Without the money spent on cocktails on the weekend or bottles of wine for dinners at home, the savings really add up. Just imagine the possibilities and new opportunities that open up. What will it be? A dream vacation to see the Mayan temples in Mexico? A new Peloton bike to continue the fitness journey that going booze-free has made easier? A romantic weekend getaway? The sky's the limit!

2. More Authentic Relationships

While we sometimes see alcohol as a way to be more “social,” much of that effect is actually an illusion. For one thing, our senses and minds are dulled by its depressant effects, preventing us from truly engaging with others, paying attention to what they are saying, and then remembering the interactions the following day. Without alcohol clouding our true personality, relationships become more authentic and interactions get more rewarding. And conversations are more meaningful if we can remember them the next day!

3. Career Growth

Anyone who has gone to work on Monday after partying a bit too hard on the weekend knows what a drag it can be. But it’s more than that — alcohol can really hold us back when it comes to advancing in our career. It’s the little things: a missed day here and there, an important meeting during which we find ourselves spacing out or (worse) dozing off — it adds up. Without booze in the picture and our full brain power at our disposal, it’s easier to reach our full potential.

Your Sober Year: How To Do It

Now that you know some of the benefits, why not try it for yourself? Here are some tips to start your sober year and keep it going as you watch the amazing changes happen.

  1. Think about your current relationship with alcohol. What would you like to change about it, and why? When do you tend to drink? How can you approach those situations when they come up? Don’t judge your current patterns — just note them and set an intention for the year. Pay special attention to what triggers you to drink and think about realistic ways to get around those triggers. It might mean scheduling alcohol-free activities for weekends when you know you used to drink in the past (such as holidays or specific times of year). The idea is to set yourself up for success from the start as much as possible.

  2. Share your plan with people who support you. Having a “tribe” of people you can lean on can make all the difference. If a lot of your friends or family members currently drink, find an online community (such as Reframe!) of people who are on the same path as you. These days, a support team is just a click away, and it’s right there with you whenever you need it.

  3. Nourish your body. As far as the body is concerned, make sure you’re nourishing it with good food, plenty of water, and regular sleep. All of these elements are essential as it rebuilds itself!

  4. Nourish your mind. At the same time, make sure that you nourish your mind as well. To help the neurotransmitter levels in the brain get back to normal, try some activities that naturally boost dopamine levels. Socialize with authentic, fulfilling connections, heart-to-heart conversations, or even by catching up over Zoom. Engage in activities that get your creative juices flowing — painting, coloring, gardening, creating a dance routine — anything that gets you in that dopamine-boosting “flow state.”

  5. Stay active. Exercise is a powerful tool to have at your side. Exercise will make the changes that are happening even more pronounced and longer-lasting. Plus, exercise releases endorphins and lowers cortisol levels, which helps with any cravings that come up, reduces depression, and lowers stress. Aerobic exercise has been found to be particularly useful in alcohol recovery. 

  6. Develop a mindfulness practice. Mindfulness is all about watching your thoughts without judgment, which works wonders for getting and staying sober. It’s a science-backed way to dismiss cravings effectively, and it can significantly boost your overall emotional and mental stability. There are many types of meditation practices out there, as well as deep breathing exercises, yoga, and sound healing .

  7. Keep track of your progress. It can be incredibly gratifying to see the changes on paper (or on your screen), so keep track of your progress! If you take pictures of yourself at regular intervals (say, every week or month), you’ll be amazed at the difference you’ll see as you transform into a new healthier version of yourself. 

It Doesn’t End There

While a year can bring amazing changes, why stop there? After all, there’s so much to gain and really nothing to lose when you ditch alcohol for good. It might seem like a stretch right now, but leave the door open for the possibility of continuing this journey if you feel like it’s right for you. Rethinking your relationship with alcohol is, in the end, all about adding things to your life — not depriving yourself of anything or taking anything away. Who knows where it can take you in the months or years to come?

How do you measure a year? It might be enough time to train for a marathon, learn a language, or have a baby. A year can be jam-packed, or it can fly by, and setting goals is a great way to keep our time on track. But most goals — though absolutely worth pursuing — take a lot of extra effort on our part.

What if you could lose weight, look years younger, fix your sleep schedule, lower your resting heart rate, boost your immune system, improve your memory and concentration, save enough money for a vacation, improve the relationships in your life, and possibly get ahead in your career — all simply by not doing one thing? Sounds pretty amazing! To change your life in all those ways all you have to do is avoid alcohol.

While this is not to say that going without booze is effortless — it requires some strategizing and support — it’s absolutely doable, and it might be easier than you think. Let’s see what the amazing benefits of being sober for an entire year can bring!

Part 1: The Physical Benefits

The physical benefits of going sober for a year are nothing short of amazing. Here’s a preview, with a timeline of what to expect.

1. The Liver Gets a Much-Needed Chance To Repair

The liver is a remarkable organ responsible for processing what we eat and separating the nutrients from the waste products. One of its most important jobs is to clear our blood of toxic chemicals, including alcohol — which, as far as the liver is concerned, is a poison. This process is taxing, and although the liver has the remarkable ability to repair itself, there’s a limit to its powers.

Excessive alcohol use is notoriously hard on the liver and can lead to a number of problems ranging from inflammation to fatty liver disease, and eventually to cirrhosis or liver cancer. However, a year can do wonders for this remarkable organ. Here’s a timeline of how the liver heals:


  • The first few weeks. Inflammation reduces starting from the first week.
  • Months 2-3. Liver fat continues to drop and bile flow improves.
  • Months 4-6. Liver enzymes get normalized, and the risk of liver fibrosis goes down by the half-year mark.
  • Months 7-9. Liver fat continues to decrease.
  • Months 10-12. Liver health is stabilized, and our risk of liver disease drops dramatically!

2. The Heart Gets Healthier

In addition to the liver, the heart is another organ that gets overwhelmed by excessive alcohol use. High blood pressure, an increased heart rate, and a risk of serious cardiovascular diseases such as heart attack and stroke have all been linked to having a few too many a few too many times. 

The first week. Right from the get-go, blood pressure decreases and the strain on our heart lifts. Instant relief!

  • The first three months. In the first 12 weeks or so without booze, our heart rate stabilizes, and blood circulation improves. Blood pressure continues to stabilize.
  • Months 4-6. By the half-year point, there’s a noticeable shift — our risk of arrhythmia decreases, and oxygenation levels improve. Another biggie? Lower cholesterol levels and a decreased risk of coronary artery disease.
  • Months 7-9. The benefits keep adding up! By this point, our cardiac fitness has improved, and our blood pressure and cholesterol levels continue to get better.
  • Months 10-12. At this point, we can celebrate the new year with a healthier, more stable heart and a significantly lower risk of heart disease.

3. Improved Digestion, Metabolism, and Weight Loss

Now, this is the one many of us have been waiting for. From the empty calories to midnight pizza runs, alcohol is notoriously bad for our waistline. Get ready for some major changes!

Part of the picture is also the way alcohol affects digestion

  • First week. Metabolic reset begins, and our blood sugar levels stabilize.
  • Weeks 2-4. Our appetite stabilizes, and we start to notice weight loss.
  • Months 4-6. Our energy levels increase as we continue to lose weight. Plus, our insulin sensitivity improves, leading to more efficient nutrient metabolism.
  • Months 7-12. In the second half of the year, our metabolic health continues to improve as our weight finds its way to a healthier point, whatever that may be. Get ready to greet the new year looking and feeling your best!

Part 2: The Brain Benefits

Last but certainly not least, let’s talk about brain health. Alcohol disrupts the balance of neurotransmitters — chemical messengers in our brain. In addition to causing depressant effects by boosting GABA and lowering glutamate, it artificially increases our levels of dopamine, the “reward” neurotransmitter that allows us to find pleasure in certain activities. This is why it can be so hard to stop drinking: by artificially flooding our brain with dopamine, the brain gets used to getting its “reward” from the bottle instead of from other activities.

As a depressant, alcohol is also notorious for slowing down our thinking and clouding our mind in “brain fog.” Over time, our memory suffers and, if we really go overboard, we can even end up with alcohol-induced brain damage. Moreover, by disrupting our gut heath, alcohol interferes with the brain-gut connection, which, in turn, disrupts the levels of serotonin in our brain by affecting the bacteria in the gut, where some of our serotonin is produced. The result? Mood swings and emotional instability.

Luckily, thanks to neuroplasticity — the brain’s ability to rewire itself and form new connections well into adulthood — much of this can be reversed or prevented by setting alcohol aside. And as the gut microbiome recovers, the gut-brain connection improves, and our mood stabilizes. Here’s what to expect:

  • First week. As the alcohol-induced brain fog lifts, our mind begins to clear, and the neurotransmitter levels start to stabilize. 
  • Weeks 2-4. Our concentration sharpens, focus and memory improve, and neuroplasticity really starts taking effect.
  • Months 2-3. Memory and attention get even better, and neuroplasticity continues to work its magic.
  • Months 4-6. Our emotions stabilize and, by the half-year point, our cognitive abilities are clearly on the mend. Our executive functioning improves, and we can see definite changes in how much sharper our thinking has become.
  • Months 7-9. Our cognitive abilities continue to improve and consolidate. This is our new normal!
  • Months 10-12. We feel more stable than ever, and the risk of alcohol-related neurological problems goes way down. Who knew a year could make such a difference?

Part 3: Other Perks

The health benefits of going sober for a year are astounding, but that’s not even all! There is so much more to look forward to.

1. Financial Savings

Without the money spent on cocktails on the weekend or bottles of wine for dinners at home, the savings really add up. Just imagine the possibilities and new opportunities that open up. What will it be? A dream vacation to see the Mayan temples in Mexico? A new Peloton bike to continue the fitness journey that going booze-free has made easier? A romantic weekend getaway? The sky's the limit!

2. More Authentic Relationships

While we sometimes see alcohol as a way to be more “social,” much of that effect is actually an illusion. For one thing, our senses and minds are dulled by its depressant effects, preventing us from truly engaging with others, paying attention to what they are saying, and then remembering the interactions the following day. Without alcohol clouding our true personality, relationships become more authentic and interactions get more rewarding. And conversations are more meaningful if we can remember them the next day!

3. Career Growth

Anyone who has gone to work on Monday after partying a bit too hard on the weekend knows what a drag it can be. But it’s more than that — alcohol can really hold us back when it comes to advancing in our career. It’s the little things: a missed day here and there, an important meeting during which we find ourselves spacing out or (worse) dozing off — it adds up. Without booze in the picture and our full brain power at our disposal, it’s easier to reach our full potential.

Your Sober Year: How To Do It

Now that you know some of the benefits, why not try it for yourself? Here are some tips to start your sober year and keep it going as you watch the amazing changes happen.

  1. Think about your current relationship with alcohol. What would you like to change about it, and why? When do you tend to drink? How can you approach those situations when they come up? Don’t judge your current patterns — just note them and set an intention for the year. Pay special attention to what triggers you to drink and think about realistic ways to get around those triggers. It might mean scheduling alcohol-free activities for weekends when you know you used to drink in the past (such as holidays or specific times of year). The idea is to set yourself up for success from the start as much as possible.

  2. Share your plan with people who support you. Having a “tribe” of people you can lean on can make all the difference. If a lot of your friends or family members currently drink, find an online community (such as Reframe!) of people who are on the same path as you. These days, a support team is just a click away, and it’s right there with you whenever you need it.

  3. Nourish your body. As far as the body is concerned, make sure you’re nourishing it with good food, plenty of water, and regular sleep. All of these elements are essential as it rebuilds itself!

  4. Nourish your mind. At the same time, make sure that you nourish your mind as well. To help the neurotransmitter levels in the brain get back to normal, try some activities that naturally boost dopamine levels. Socialize with authentic, fulfilling connections, heart-to-heart conversations, or even by catching up over Zoom. Engage in activities that get your creative juices flowing — painting, coloring, gardening, creating a dance routine — anything that gets you in that dopamine-boosting “flow state.”

  5. Stay active. Exercise is a powerful tool to have at your side. Exercise will make the changes that are happening even more pronounced and longer-lasting. Plus, exercise releases endorphins and lowers cortisol levels, which helps with any cravings that come up, reduces depression, and lowers stress. Aerobic exercise has been found to be particularly useful in alcohol recovery. 

  6. Develop a mindfulness practice. Mindfulness is all about watching your thoughts without judgment, which works wonders for getting and staying sober. It’s a science-backed way to dismiss cravings effectively, and it can significantly boost your overall emotional and mental stability. There are many types of meditation practices out there, as well as deep breathing exercises, yoga, and sound healing .

  7. Keep track of your progress. It can be incredibly gratifying to see the changes on paper (or on your screen), so keep track of your progress! If you take pictures of yourself at regular intervals (say, every week or month), you’ll be amazed at the difference you’ll see as you transform into a new healthier version of yourself. 

It Doesn’t End There

While a year can bring amazing changes, why stop there? After all, there’s so much to gain and really nothing to lose when you ditch alcohol for good. It might seem like a stretch right now, but leave the door open for the possibility of continuing this journey if you feel like it’s right for you. Rethinking your relationship with alcohol is, in the end, all about adding things to your life — not depriving yourself of anything or taking anything away. Who knows where it can take you in the months or years to come?

Alcohol and Mental Health
2024-01-17 9:00
Alcohol and Mental Health
Wine vs Beer: Which Is Healthier?
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Compare the health benefits and risks of wine vs. beer and dive into the facts behind these two popular beverages.

13 min read

Optimize Your Health With Reframe

Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!

The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.

You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.

Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol. 

And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).

The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!

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What Is Wine?

Wine is possibly the world’s oldest fermented beverage. Our earliest ancestors likely purposely fermented fruits for recreational purposes, and by 8,000 BCE, winemaking had become a standardized process and had spread across Europe. Wine has long held an important place in many cultural and religious traditions, often symbolizing life, celebration, and community.

The production of wine usually involves the fermentation of grapes. Each style of wine has a different process, and tastes vary depending on the variety of grape, the soil, the growing temperature, and many other factors. There are many varieties of wine, but they generally fall into a few categories.

  • White wines, such as chardonnay, sauvignon blanc, and pinot grigio.
  • Red wines like cabernet sauvignon, merlot, and pinot noir.
  • Sparkling wines, like Champagne and prosecco.
  • Dessert wines, which are syrupy sweet.
  • Fortified wines like port, sherry, or Madeira, are wines with liquor added.

While the following styles are technically wines, some people do not count them in the “wine” category because they are not made from grapes.

  • Fruit wines, which can be made from just about any fruit, but most commonly cherries, strawberries, plums, or pears.
  • Ciders, which are made from fermented apples.
  • Mead is also called “honey wine” because it’s made from, well, honey.

What Is Beer?

Beer is another one of the world's oldest fermented drinks. Evidence suggests that the beverage we would recognize today as beer emerged around 3,500-3,100 BCE in Iran, though early forms of it likely existed well before this period. Throughout history, beer has played significant roles in various cultural and religious ceremonies.

Ranked as one of the most popular beverages globally (third, behind only water and tea), beer is crafted through the brewing and fermentation of grains, such as wheat and barley. Other ingredients may be added to flavor the beer, like fruit juice, hops, coffee, or spices. Through the ages, many styles of beer have emerged, often as local specialties that get re-interpreted as they spread. Let’s look at a few.

  • Light beers like lagers, pale ales, pilsners, or hefeweizens.
  • Dark beers like porters, stouts, and Belgian quads.
  • Fruity beers like sours, fruit beers, and lambics.
  • Specialty beers made with rice, corn, or oats. 

Nutrition, Calories, and Alcohol Content

Now that we know a little about the wide worlds of beer and wine, we may be wondering how these two compare. Are there more calories in wine vs. beer? Is one more nutritious than the other? How much alcohol is in wine vs. beer? Let’s take a look!

Alcohol Content Clash

The alcohol content of a beverage is measured in a unit called alcohol by volume (ABV). In any alcoholic beverage, ABV represents the percentage of alcohol in the liquid — the rest is water or juice. So how do wine and beer compare?

Wine ABV tends to stay pretty consistent within each style. Winemaking is very dependent on tradition, and different grape varieties have been developed to complement different alcohol levels. For instance, red wines typically range from 12-15% ABV while white wines and dessert wines come in around 9-14% ABV. Fortified wines are usually around 20-25%.

Beers, on the other hand, are more experimental — especially with the rise of the craft beer industry. Light beers can have an ABV as low as 3-4%, while stronger ales and dark beers may range from 6-12% ABV or higher.

Calorie Clash

You usually don’t see calories listed on your alcoholic beverage. Ever wonder why? Part of the reason is that most governments don’t consider alcohol to be food, so it isn’t subject to the same laws requiring labels for ingredients, calorie content, and nutritional values. (Most countries require manufacturers to disclose alcohol content, but that’s not always the case.)

Higher alcohol content generally means higher calories. Because of this, wine usually has more calories than beer, ounce per ounce. Wine also tends to have more residual sugar than beer. Ever heard of “sweet wine” vs “dry wine”? One 5 oz. serving of wine can range from 120 calories in dry varieties to 140 calories in sweet ones. If you’re calorie conscious, opt for dry wines like cabernet sauvignon, pinot noir, pinot grigio, or sauvignon blanc.

Calorie content in beer varies by alcohol content and also by style, but most of the calories in beer come directly from its alcohol content. Low-ABV beers like light beers tend to have 100-120 calories, while high-ABV beers can have as many as 200-300 calories per 12 oz. serving. Fruit beers can be made with artificial flavoring, but if they’re made with real fruit juice they’ll likely be higher in sugar (and calories).

Weighing the Nutrition

Both beer and wine contain marginal amounts of fats and proteins, but they vary in carbohydrate content based on style. Beer, especially beer with higher malt content, typically has more carbohydrates than wine, except sweet wines.

Beer contains trace amounts of a variety of nutrients. It's made from grains like barley and wheat, which contribute small amounts of B vitamins, particularly B12, and minerals like selenium, potassium, and magnesium. But these don’t make beer healthy! These nutrients values typically clock in at less than 2% of their recommended daily intake.

Surely you’ve heard of the supposed health benefits of red wine. That’s because it contains polyphenols, an antioxidant found in grape skins. Polyphenols are associated with heart health benefits and may help in reducing inflammation. So, is wine healthier than beer? Not so fast! You can find these same healthy compounds in grape skins, and experts agree the risks of alcohol outweigh the benefits of polyphenols found in red wine. Red wine also contains small amounts of minerals like potassium and iron. However, the quantities aren’t substantial enough to contribute to our daily nutritional needs.

Comparing Health Effects

While beer and wine are occasionally touted for various health benefits, it's crucial to approach these claims with caution, as the purported benefits have generally been disproven. The benefits tend to be circumstantial or related to byproducts of the fermentation process studied in isolation — the alcohol counteracts any benefit.

Alcohol is known to have negative impacts on every area of our health, including our stomach, kidneys, bones, teeth, gut, liver, skin, and more. Drinking alcohol increases our risk of cancer and can worsen our mental health.

Bottom Line: Which Is Better?

As a 2018 study said, “The safest level of drinking is none.” If we include alcohol in our life, the most important factor in maximizing our health is to exercise mindfulness and moderation. It’s also important to pay attention to other areas of our health that may compound with alcohol’s negative effects. Maintaining a healthy diet, exercising regularly, sleeping enough, and caring for our mental health help us nourish our whole selves so that we can live a long, healthy life.

Quitting or cutting back on alcohol has tons of benefits, and it can be a practice in self-care. The Reframe app offers a variety of resources that can help you change your relationship with alcohol based on your health goals.

What Is Wine?

Wine is possibly the world’s oldest fermented beverage. Our earliest ancestors likely purposely fermented fruits for recreational purposes, and by 8,000 BCE, winemaking had become a standardized process and had spread across Europe. Wine has long held an important place in many cultural and religious traditions, often symbolizing life, celebration, and community.

The production of wine usually involves the fermentation of grapes. Each style of wine has a different process, and tastes vary depending on the variety of grape, the soil, the growing temperature, and many other factors. There are many varieties of wine, but they generally fall into a few categories.

  • White wines, such as chardonnay, sauvignon blanc, and pinot grigio.
  • Red wines like cabernet sauvignon, merlot, and pinot noir.
  • Sparkling wines, like Champagne and prosecco.
  • Dessert wines, which are syrupy sweet.
  • Fortified wines like port, sherry, or Madeira, are wines with liquor added.

While the following styles are technically wines, some people do not count them in the “wine” category because they are not made from grapes.

  • Fruit wines, which can be made from just about any fruit, but most commonly cherries, strawberries, plums, or pears.
  • Ciders, which are made from fermented apples.
  • Mead is also called “honey wine” because it’s made from, well, honey.

What Is Beer?

Beer is another one of the world's oldest fermented drinks. Evidence suggests that the beverage we would recognize today as beer emerged around 3,500-3,100 BCE in Iran, though early forms of it likely existed well before this period. Throughout history, beer has played significant roles in various cultural and religious ceremonies.

Ranked as one of the most popular beverages globally (third, behind only water and tea), beer is crafted through the brewing and fermentation of grains, such as wheat and barley. Other ingredients may be added to flavor the beer, like fruit juice, hops, coffee, or spices. Through the ages, many styles of beer have emerged, often as local specialties that get re-interpreted as they spread. Let’s look at a few.

  • Light beers like lagers, pale ales, pilsners, or hefeweizens.
  • Dark beers like porters, stouts, and Belgian quads.
  • Fruity beers like sours, fruit beers, and lambics.
  • Specialty beers made with rice, corn, or oats. 

Nutrition, Calories, and Alcohol Content

Now that we know a little about the wide worlds of beer and wine, we may be wondering how these two compare. Are there more calories in wine vs. beer? Is one more nutritious than the other? How much alcohol is in wine vs. beer? Let’s take a look!

Alcohol Content Clash

The alcohol content of a beverage is measured in a unit called alcohol by volume (ABV). In any alcoholic beverage, ABV represents the percentage of alcohol in the liquid — the rest is water or juice. So how do wine and beer compare?

Wine ABV tends to stay pretty consistent within each style. Winemaking is very dependent on tradition, and different grape varieties have been developed to complement different alcohol levels. For instance, red wines typically range from 12-15% ABV while white wines and dessert wines come in around 9-14% ABV. Fortified wines are usually around 20-25%.

Beers, on the other hand, are more experimental — especially with the rise of the craft beer industry. Light beers can have an ABV as low as 3-4%, while stronger ales and dark beers may range from 6-12% ABV or higher.

Calorie Clash

You usually don’t see calories listed on your alcoholic beverage. Ever wonder why? Part of the reason is that most governments don’t consider alcohol to be food, so it isn’t subject to the same laws requiring labels for ingredients, calorie content, and nutritional values. (Most countries require manufacturers to disclose alcohol content, but that’s not always the case.)

Higher alcohol content generally means higher calories. Because of this, wine usually has more calories than beer, ounce per ounce. Wine also tends to have more residual sugar than beer. Ever heard of “sweet wine” vs “dry wine”? One 5 oz. serving of wine can range from 120 calories in dry varieties to 140 calories in sweet ones. If you’re calorie conscious, opt for dry wines like cabernet sauvignon, pinot noir, pinot grigio, or sauvignon blanc.

Calorie content in beer varies by alcohol content and also by style, but most of the calories in beer come directly from its alcohol content. Low-ABV beers like light beers tend to have 100-120 calories, while high-ABV beers can have as many as 200-300 calories per 12 oz. serving. Fruit beers can be made with artificial flavoring, but if they’re made with real fruit juice they’ll likely be higher in sugar (and calories).

Weighing the Nutrition

Both beer and wine contain marginal amounts of fats and proteins, but they vary in carbohydrate content based on style. Beer, especially beer with higher malt content, typically has more carbohydrates than wine, except sweet wines.

Beer contains trace amounts of a variety of nutrients. It's made from grains like barley and wheat, which contribute small amounts of B vitamins, particularly B12, and minerals like selenium, potassium, and magnesium. But these don’t make beer healthy! These nutrients values typically clock in at less than 2% of their recommended daily intake.

Surely you’ve heard of the supposed health benefits of red wine. That’s because it contains polyphenols, an antioxidant found in grape skins. Polyphenols are associated with heart health benefits and may help in reducing inflammation. So, is wine healthier than beer? Not so fast! You can find these same healthy compounds in grape skins, and experts agree the risks of alcohol outweigh the benefits of polyphenols found in red wine. Red wine also contains small amounts of minerals like potassium and iron. However, the quantities aren’t substantial enough to contribute to our daily nutritional needs.

Comparing Health Effects

While beer and wine are occasionally touted for various health benefits, it's crucial to approach these claims with caution, as the purported benefits have generally been disproven. The benefits tend to be circumstantial or related to byproducts of the fermentation process studied in isolation — the alcohol counteracts any benefit.

Alcohol is known to have negative impacts on every area of our health, including our stomach, kidneys, bones, teeth, gut, liver, skin, and more. Drinking alcohol increases our risk of cancer and can worsen our mental health.

Bottom Line: Which Is Better?

As a 2018 study said, “The safest level of drinking is none.” If we include alcohol in our life, the most important factor in maximizing our health is to exercise mindfulness and moderation. It’s also important to pay attention to other areas of our health that may compound with alcohol’s negative effects. Maintaining a healthy diet, exercising regularly, sleeping enough, and caring for our mental health help us nourish our whole selves so that we can live a long, healthy life.

Quitting or cutting back on alcohol has tons of benefits, and it can be a practice in self-care. The Reframe app offers a variety of resources that can help you change your relationship with alcohol based on your health goals.

Alcohol and Mental Health
2023-12-31 9:30
Alcohol and Mental Health
Alcoholic Intervention Program: What Is It? How Should You Do It?
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Discover the art of compassionate alcoholic interventions. Learn when, how, and what to do — empowering your loved ones towards recovery.

19 min read

Say Goodbye to Alcohol With Reframe

Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!

The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.

You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.

Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol. 

And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).

The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!

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If you’ve ever wondered whether a loved one has a drinking problem, chances are they probably do. But no matter how obvious it may be, it can be difficult to know what to do about it or how you can help them. Do you just keep ignoring it? Try talking to them? Or stage an intervention? 

Holding an alcohol intervention may seem drastic, but it might be just the thing your loved one needs to get healthier — and happier. 

In this post, we’ll explore what an alcohol intervention is and how to do an intervention for alcohol misuse effectively. We’ll also look at treatment options for those of us struggling with alcohol misuse. Let’s get started!

What Is an Alcoholic Intervention? 

A lady with alcoholism sitting worried, her family and friends intervening to help her

Simply put, an alcoholic intervention is a structured meeting organized by family or friends of a person with alcohol misuse. The goal of the meeting is to encourage the person to seek help or treatment for their alcohol misuse by pointing out concerns related to their current drinking patterns. For instance, family or friends might comment on how drinking seems to have taken a toll on their health or caused them to neglect their daily responsibilities. 

Alcoholic interventions can be effective because they force the drinker to look at how their own behavior and actions have affected those closest to them. In other words, it can help them broaden their perspective. And seeing how many people they’ve affected — and how deeply — can give them the motivation they need to make a change. 

It’s worth noting that while interventions can be planned solely by family members and friends, they can be more effective when organized in conjunction with a doctor or another health care professional, such as a licensed alcohol and drug counselor. In fact, the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence says that 90% of people agree to get help when an intervention is conducted by a trained interventionist. 

How To Do an Alcohol Intervention 

So how do you actually do an alcohol intervention? Typically, an alcohol intervention unfolds in the following 8 steps: 

  • Make a plan. Successful interventions require thoughtful planning. This is why it’s helpful to have the support, resources, and guidance of a counselor, psychologist, social worker or doctor. These qualified professionals can help develop a plan that specifically addresses our loved one’s circumstances and needs.

  • Form the intervention team. It’s important to determine who will be part of the intervention. This often includes 4-6 close friends or family members, people who genuinely care about the person with alcohol misuse. The goal is to have a team of people to support and encourage the individual on their road to recovery. Don’t include anyone your loved one doesn’t like or those who might not be able to follow the agreed upon plan.

  • Decide on consequences. Once you have an intervention team in place, it’s time to think about the specific consequences that you will present to the person struggling with alcohol misuse if they refuse treatment. The consequences should reflect how serious the intervention team is about their loved one getting help. Such consequences could include asking them to move out, losing visitation rights with children, or taking away their car.

  • Determine what will be said. Each member of the intervention team should plan what they’re going to say ahead of time. The goal is to share concerns, feelings or examples about how the person’s drinking has affected them. Try using “I” statements instead of “you” statements. For instance, you might say something like, “It was upsetting for me to see…” or “I’m worried about…” rather than “You have a drinking problem.” When the time of the intervention comes, it’s important to stick to your script.

  • Choose a treatment plan. Part of an intervention includes presenting treatment options for the person to recover. This might include in-patient or out-patient rehab, attending support groups like AA, or going to therapy. A trained professional can help you determine which might be the best course of action for your loved one. It’s important to do your homework here and be specific by having names of rehab centers, AA locations, therapists, etc.

  • Choose a time and place. The intervention team should agree on a time and place, preferably somewhere the individual feels comfortable and safe. Bringing them somewhere unfamiliar can raise their suspicion and immediately put them on the defensive. Once the time and place has been decided, it’s important not to tell the individual. When the day arrives, they will be brought to the location where the intervention team awaits.

  • Schedule and hold the intervention. With all of the above steps completed, it’s time to actually hold the intervention. Every person on the intervention team will have a chance to share their rehearsed message. It’s important to each take a turn and not all speak at once. At the end, the person will be presented with a treatment plan and the predetermined consequences should they reject it.

  • Follow up. This is one of the most overlooked steps, but it’s incredibly important. Once your loved one has agreed to get help, it’s important to walk with them every step of the way so they stay in treatment and don’t slip up. This might include offering to go with them to AA meetings, driving them to rehab, or even attending therapy with them. Knowing they have loved ones’ support and encouragement can make a world of difference.  

The intervention’s success depends on the planning that goes into it. Doing one haphazardly can only make things worse (planning doesn’t guarantee success, but not planning almost guarantees failure). At the end of the day, it’s worth taking the time to plan carefully and use the guidance of a trained professional.  

What To Keep in Mind During an Alcoholic Intervention 

Holding an alcoholic intervention can be a difficult, emotional experience. Here are 3 ways to protect yourself:

  1. Don’t take things personally. Depending on their personality and situation, your loved one might get angry, deny, or push back at what you’re saying. They might even try to blame you for their behavior. Try not to get offended or take things personally. Keep the focus on them, and remember they’re probably not their best self. You’re trying to help them, but they might need time and space to come to terms with what you’re saying and start to see the problem for themselves. 

  2. Don’t criticize or lecture. Try not to lecture or criticize your loved one, as this could cause them to become defensive and much less willing to hear what you’re saying. Avoid stigmatizing words like “addict” or “alcoholic,” as these can make them feel attacked. Again, focus on your concerns using “I” statements, and express them with compassion and love. 

  3. Don’t blame yourself. You’re not to blame for your loved one’s drinking problem. You’re not responsible for their behavior, and you can’t make them change. As much as you may want to, and as hard as it is to watch, you can’t make them stop drinking. The choice is theirs and theirs alone. 
How To Know When To Do an Alcoholic Intervention

How To Know When To Do an Alcoholic Intervention

Sadly, for many people, drinking is an ordinary part of life. Alcohol’s effects vary widely from person to person, so it’s not always easy to tell if someone’s alcohol intake has crossed the line from responsible, social drinking to alcohol misuse. 

While there’s no specific amount of alcohol that indicates someone is struggling with alcohol, certain signs indicate that they might need help. Here are 4 of them: 

  1. Inability to control their drinking. Someone struggling with alcohol misuse cannot control their drinking. Alcohol becomes the center of their world. So if our loved one can’t leave their drink unfinished, or if they seem unable to reduce their alcohol consumption, they most likely are misusing alcohol.

  2. Their drinking has increased. A telltale sign that someone is struggling with alcohol is an increase in the amount they’re consuming. For instance, maybe our loved one started out having one drink a day, but now they’ve increased to several daily drinks. Or perhaps they’re drinking at odd times of the day. Changes in alcohol consumption patterns are also indicators of a larger problem.

  3. Their personal and professional life is suffering. Heavy alcohol consumption can lead to an inability to focus or a loss of interest in activities we previously enjoyed. Our loved one may be misusing alcohol if their drinking impedes their ability to fulfill daily responsibilities at home, work, or school, or if they’ve lost their motivation and productivity. 

  4. They deny or lie about how much they’re drinking. Oftentimes, friends and family members can recognize the signs of alcohol misuse before the person struggling does. If someone has already raised concerns about our loved one’s drinking and they become defensive or deny they have a problem, this likely means they need help. 

The bottom line? Educating ourselves on the warning signs and symptoms of alcohol misuse is an important first step in helping a loved one. The more we know, the easier it is to spot problematic behaviors or patterns. Early intervention can help prevent the further deterioration of our loved one’s health, relationships, and well-being.

Treatment Options for Alcohol Misuse

As we’ve learned, part of the process of intervention is presenting a clear treatment plan with options. With that in mind, here are some of the most common treatment options for those struggling with alcohol misuse: 

  • Attend a 12-step program or other support group. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is one of the most common treatment options for alcohol misuse. Support groups like this are beneficial because they’ll allow your loved one to spend time with others facing similar problems. They also provide advice on staying sober and help reduce any sense of isolation they might be experiencing. Studies show that the social connections provided by these groups can help people build confidence in their ability to avoid alcohol in social situations and to maintain their sobriety. (Reframe’s community forum can be a great place to start!)
  • Behavioral treatments. Individual, group, and/or family therapy can help your loved one identify the root cause of their alcohol misuse, repair damaged relationships, develop skills to stop or reduce their drinking, and learn to deal with the drinking triggers that might cause them to relapse. CBT is a particularly effective tool, and it’s one of the many types of therapy for alcohol misuse
  • Residential treatment or “rehab” facilities. Both inpatient and outpatient treatment centers provide intensive treatment for alcohol misuse. Choosing which one largely depends on the severity of your loved one’s condition. Inpatient facilities are more intensive; they require people to stay at a special facility for 30 to 90 days to receive treatment such as detox, therapy, and medication. During outpatient treatment, your loved one would attend set rehab appointments during the week but still reside at home. 

A trained professional or healthcare provider can help us determine which treatment option is best for our loved one. In severe cases, our loved one might have to go through detox or utilize medications to reduce alcohol cravings under the supervision of a medical provider. 

The Bottom Line

An alcoholic intervention can be a powerful way to help someone struggling with alcohol misuse. But it’s incredibly important to plan diligently and carefully to maximize its effectiveness. It’s best to have the support and guidance of a trained professional, who can help us determine how to approach our loved one, what to say, and what treatment options and consequences we present during the intervention. 

If you want to stop drinking, but don’t know where to start, consider trying Reframe. We’re a science-backed app that has helped millions of people quit alcohol and build healthier, happier lives. 

If you’ve ever wondered whether a loved one has a drinking problem, chances are they probably do. But no matter how obvious it may be, it can be difficult to know what to do about it or how you can help them. Do you just keep ignoring it? Try talking to them? Or stage an intervention? 

Holding an alcohol intervention may seem drastic, but it might be just the thing your loved one needs to get healthier — and happier. 

In this post, we’ll explore what an alcohol intervention is and how to do an intervention for alcohol misuse effectively. We’ll also look at treatment options for those of us struggling with alcohol misuse. Let’s get started!

What Is an Alcoholic Intervention? 

A lady with alcoholism sitting worried, her family and friends intervening to help her

Simply put, an alcoholic intervention is a structured meeting organized by family or friends of a person with alcohol misuse. The goal of the meeting is to encourage the person to seek help or treatment for their alcohol misuse by pointing out concerns related to their current drinking patterns. For instance, family or friends might comment on how drinking seems to have taken a toll on their health or caused them to neglect their daily responsibilities. 

Alcoholic interventions can be effective because they force the drinker to look at how their own behavior and actions have affected those closest to them. In other words, it can help them broaden their perspective. And seeing how many people they’ve affected — and how deeply — can give them the motivation they need to make a change. 

It’s worth noting that while interventions can be planned solely by family members and friends, they can be more effective when organized in conjunction with a doctor or another health care professional, such as a licensed alcohol and drug counselor. In fact, the National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence says that 90% of people agree to get help when an intervention is conducted by a trained interventionist. 

How To Do an Alcohol Intervention 

So how do you actually do an alcohol intervention? Typically, an alcohol intervention unfolds in the following 8 steps: 

  • Make a plan. Successful interventions require thoughtful planning. This is why it’s helpful to have the support, resources, and guidance of a counselor, psychologist, social worker or doctor. These qualified professionals can help develop a plan that specifically addresses our loved one’s circumstances and needs.

  • Form the intervention team. It’s important to determine who will be part of the intervention. This often includes 4-6 close friends or family members, people who genuinely care about the person with alcohol misuse. The goal is to have a team of people to support and encourage the individual on their road to recovery. Don’t include anyone your loved one doesn’t like or those who might not be able to follow the agreed upon plan.

  • Decide on consequences. Once you have an intervention team in place, it’s time to think about the specific consequences that you will present to the person struggling with alcohol misuse if they refuse treatment. The consequences should reflect how serious the intervention team is about their loved one getting help. Such consequences could include asking them to move out, losing visitation rights with children, or taking away their car.

  • Determine what will be said. Each member of the intervention team should plan what they’re going to say ahead of time. The goal is to share concerns, feelings or examples about how the person’s drinking has affected them. Try using “I” statements instead of “you” statements. For instance, you might say something like, “It was upsetting for me to see…” or “I’m worried about…” rather than “You have a drinking problem.” When the time of the intervention comes, it’s important to stick to your script.

  • Choose a treatment plan. Part of an intervention includes presenting treatment options for the person to recover. This might include in-patient or out-patient rehab, attending support groups like AA, or going to therapy. A trained professional can help you determine which might be the best course of action for your loved one. It’s important to do your homework here and be specific by having names of rehab centers, AA locations, therapists, etc.

  • Choose a time and place. The intervention team should agree on a time and place, preferably somewhere the individual feels comfortable and safe. Bringing them somewhere unfamiliar can raise their suspicion and immediately put them on the defensive. Once the time and place has been decided, it’s important not to tell the individual. When the day arrives, they will be brought to the location where the intervention team awaits.

  • Schedule and hold the intervention. With all of the above steps completed, it’s time to actually hold the intervention. Every person on the intervention team will have a chance to share their rehearsed message. It’s important to each take a turn and not all speak at once. At the end, the person will be presented with a treatment plan and the predetermined consequences should they reject it.

  • Follow up. This is one of the most overlooked steps, but it’s incredibly important. Once your loved one has agreed to get help, it’s important to walk with them every step of the way so they stay in treatment and don’t slip up. This might include offering to go with them to AA meetings, driving them to rehab, or even attending therapy with them. Knowing they have loved ones’ support and encouragement can make a world of difference.  

The intervention’s success depends on the planning that goes into it. Doing one haphazardly can only make things worse (planning doesn’t guarantee success, but not planning almost guarantees failure). At the end of the day, it’s worth taking the time to plan carefully and use the guidance of a trained professional.  

What To Keep in Mind During an Alcoholic Intervention 

Holding an alcoholic intervention can be a difficult, emotional experience. Here are 3 ways to protect yourself:

  1. Don’t take things personally. Depending on their personality and situation, your loved one might get angry, deny, or push back at what you’re saying. They might even try to blame you for their behavior. Try not to get offended or take things personally. Keep the focus on them, and remember they’re probably not their best self. You’re trying to help them, but they might need time and space to come to terms with what you’re saying and start to see the problem for themselves. 

  2. Don’t criticize or lecture. Try not to lecture or criticize your loved one, as this could cause them to become defensive and much less willing to hear what you’re saying. Avoid stigmatizing words like “addict” or “alcoholic,” as these can make them feel attacked. Again, focus on your concerns using “I” statements, and express them with compassion and love. 

  3. Don’t blame yourself. You’re not to blame for your loved one’s drinking problem. You’re not responsible for their behavior, and you can’t make them change. As much as you may want to, and as hard as it is to watch, you can’t make them stop drinking. The choice is theirs and theirs alone. 
How To Know When To Do an Alcoholic Intervention

How To Know When To Do an Alcoholic Intervention

Sadly, for many people, drinking is an ordinary part of life. Alcohol’s effects vary widely from person to person, so it’s not always easy to tell if someone’s alcohol intake has crossed the line from responsible, social drinking to alcohol misuse. 

While there’s no specific amount of alcohol that indicates someone is struggling with alcohol, certain signs indicate that they might need help. Here are 4 of them: 

  1. Inability to control their drinking. Someone struggling with alcohol misuse cannot control their drinking. Alcohol becomes the center of their world. So if our loved one can’t leave their drink unfinished, or if they seem unable to reduce their alcohol consumption, they most likely are misusing alcohol.

  2. Their drinking has increased. A telltale sign that someone is struggling with alcohol is an increase in the amount they’re consuming. For instance, maybe our loved one started out having one drink a day, but now they’ve increased to several daily drinks. Or perhaps they’re drinking at odd times of the day. Changes in alcohol consumption patterns are also indicators of a larger problem.

  3. Their personal and professional life is suffering. Heavy alcohol consumption can lead to an inability to focus or a loss of interest in activities we previously enjoyed. Our loved one may be misusing alcohol if their drinking impedes their ability to fulfill daily responsibilities at home, work, or school, or if they’ve lost their motivation and productivity. 

  4. They deny or lie about how much they’re drinking. Oftentimes, friends and family members can recognize the signs of alcohol misuse before the person struggling does. If someone has already raised concerns about our loved one’s drinking and they become defensive or deny they have a problem, this likely means they need help. 

The bottom line? Educating ourselves on the warning signs and symptoms of alcohol misuse is an important first step in helping a loved one. The more we know, the easier it is to spot problematic behaviors or patterns. Early intervention can help prevent the further deterioration of our loved one’s health, relationships, and well-being.

Treatment Options for Alcohol Misuse

As we’ve learned, part of the process of intervention is presenting a clear treatment plan with options. With that in mind, here are some of the most common treatment options for those struggling with alcohol misuse: 

  • Attend a 12-step program or other support group. Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) is one of the most common treatment options for alcohol misuse. Support groups like this are beneficial because they’ll allow your loved one to spend time with others facing similar problems. They also provide advice on staying sober and help reduce any sense of isolation they might be experiencing. Studies show that the social connections provided by these groups can help people build confidence in their ability to avoid alcohol in social situations and to maintain their sobriety. (Reframe’s community forum can be a great place to start!)
  • Behavioral treatments. Individual, group, and/or family therapy can help your loved one identify the root cause of their alcohol misuse, repair damaged relationships, develop skills to stop or reduce their drinking, and learn to deal with the drinking triggers that might cause them to relapse. CBT is a particularly effective tool, and it’s one of the many types of therapy for alcohol misuse
  • Residential treatment or “rehab” facilities. Both inpatient and outpatient treatment centers provide intensive treatment for alcohol misuse. Choosing which one largely depends on the severity of your loved one’s condition. Inpatient facilities are more intensive; they require people to stay at a special facility for 30 to 90 days to receive treatment such as detox, therapy, and medication. During outpatient treatment, your loved one would attend set rehab appointments during the week but still reside at home. 

A trained professional or healthcare provider can help us determine which treatment option is best for our loved one. In severe cases, our loved one might have to go through detox or utilize medications to reduce alcohol cravings under the supervision of a medical provider. 

The Bottom Line

An alcoholic intervention can be a powerful way to help someone struggling with alcohol misuse. But it’s incredibly important to plan diligently and carefully to maximize its effectiveness. It’s best to have the support and guidance of a trained professional, who can help us determine how to approach our loved one, what to say, and what treatment options and consequences we present during the intervention. 

If you want to stop drinking, but don’t know where to start, consider trying Reframe. We’re a science-backed app that has helped millions of people quit alcohol and build healthier, happier lives. 

Alcohol and Mental Health
2023-12-25 9:30
Alcohol and Mental Health
Social Norms: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly
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Ever wondered why we behave the way we do? Unpack the science behind social norms, their history, and their surprising impact on our choices in our latest blog!

18 min read

Ready To Follow Your Own Path When It Comes to Alcohol? Reframe Can Help!

Although it isn’t a treatment for alcohol use disorder (AUD), the Reframe app can help you cut back on drinking gradually, with the science-backed knowledge to empower you 100% of the way. Our proven program has helped millions of people around the world drink less and live more. And we want to help you get there, too!

The Reframe app equips you with the knowledge and skills you need to not only survive drinking less, but to thrive while you navigate the journey. Our daily research-backed readings teach you the neuroscience of alcohol, and our in-app Toolkit provides the resources and activities you need to navigate each challenge.

You’ll meet millions of fellow Reframers in our 24/7 Forum chat and daily Zoom check-in meetings. Receive encouragement from people worldwide who know exactly what you’re going through! You’ll also have the opportunity to connect with our licensed Reframe coaches for more personalized guidance.

Plus, we’re always introducing new features to optimize your in-app experience. We recently launched our in-app chatbot, Melody, powered by the world’s most powerful AI technology. Melody is here to help as you adjust to a life with less (or no) alcohol. 

And that’s not all! Every month, we launch fun challenges, like Dry/Damp January, Mental Health May, and Outdoorsy June. You won’t want to miss out on the chance to participate alongside fellow Reframers (or solo if that’s more your thing!).

The Reframe app is free for 7 days, so you don’t have anything to lose by trying it. Are you ready to feel empowered and discover life beyond alcohol? Then download our app through the App Store or Google Play today!

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If you've ever felt the invisible tug of society telling you how to act or what to say, you've felt the influence of social norms, the unwritten rules of behavior that are considered acceptable in a group or society. They help us know what’s expected of us in various situations, from the simple — such as saying "please" and "thank you" or knowing what attire is acceptable for different occasions — to the more complex, such as navigating workplace dynamics or managing dinner with your future in-laws. 

Social norms affect virtually every part of our lives and influence our confidence level and success. They also play into our drinking patterns and can be a major factor in our cutting back or quitting journeys. Let’s unpack social norms and explore their impact on our lives!

The History of Social Norms

While social norms feel very “now,” they've actually been around since, well, forever. Let’s take a brief stroll through history to see how they've shaped cultures, societies, and behaviors throughout the ages. Needless to say, they’ve changed pretty significantly over time!

  • The Stone Age and early tribes. In the earliest days of humanity, norms were closely tied to survival. Communities quickly learned that certain behaviors increased the odds of staying alive: sharing food within the tribe, cooperating during hunts, and protecting each other from wild animals or other tribes. The norms back then were all about sharing, cooperating, and watching each other's back! And behaving in socially unacceptable ways (hoarding food, for example) could cause someone to be cast out.
  • Ancient civilizations. As societies grew more complex, so did their norms. In Ancient Egypt, elaborate rituals around death and the afterlife became standard. The Greeks, passionate about philosophy and democracy, cultivated norms around discourse and governance. Meanwhile, in ancient India, the caste system influenced societal roles and behaviors.
  • Middle Ages. Norms were heavily influenced by the church and feudal system. Knights followed chivalric codes, while peasants had their own set of rules (often imposed by nobility). Clothing, too, was a significant indicator of one's status and role in society.
  • Renaissance and Enlightenment. With a renewed interest in art, science, and individual potential, social norms began to shift. Ideas about personal freedoms and rights emerged, challenging established norms and leading to significant societal changes that emphasized individual agency and responsibilities toward other members of the community.
  • Industrial Age to today. The rapid urbanization and technological advancements of the last couple of centuries have dramatically reshaped societal norms. Think about it: a hundred years ago, who could've imagined norms around smartphone etiquette? Yet, here we are!

The last few decades have also witnessed some profound changes related to civil rights and liberties. From the Civil Rights Movement in the United States fighting against racial segregation and discrimination, to the global push for LGBTQ+ rights and women's marches demanding gender equality, social norms have been both challenged and redefined. These movements have challenged the status quo, showing that while norms might shape society, society can reshape norms. 

Throughout history, social norms have both reflected and shaped the zeitgeist of the times. They provide fascinating insights into what societies value, fear, and aspire to. And as history has shown, while norms may be deeply entrenched, they're not set in stone. They evolve, just as we do. Who knows what the norms of tomorrow will look like? One thing's for sure: we'll play a part in shaping them!

The Science Behind the Influence

Now let’s shift gears a bit and explore the biological underpinnings of social norms. Our brains are wired to fit in. Research has shown that our brain's dopamine-driven reward centers light up when we conform to social norms, giving us a literal feel-good sensation when we fit in.

Understanding the science behind social norms isn't just about knowing the "what," but the "why." Let's deep dive into the neural pathways, evolutionary reasons, and the psychology that play a role in how we conform and respond to social norms.

  • Evolutionary perspective. Humans are inherently social creatures. From an evolutionary standpoint, being accepted by our tribe was a matter of survival. Those who didn't adhere to group norms could be ostracized, which could be a question of life or death. So there's a good reason why we evolved to feel uneasy when we go against the grain! 



    From our earliest days as hunter-gatherers, sticking together was a strategy for survival. Being part of a group meant better protection from predators and more access to food. Over time, this advantage translated into a genetic predisposition towards group harmony. Following social norms was one of the easiest ways to avoid missing out on the crucial benefits that came with being part of a group. The evolutionary mantra was simple: conform or face potential isolation.
  • Neural connections. Recent studies have used advanced neuroimaging techniques to provide insights into how our brains react to social norms. The brain's reward system, particularly regions like the ventral striatum, lights up when we act in accordance with social expectations. It's a dopamine-driven pat on the back for fitting in. Conversely, when we go against the grain, the anterior insula, which is associated with negative feelings and discomfort, becomes more active. Our brain is wired to reward conformity and "punish" deviation.
  • The role of mirror neurons. Discovered in the 1990s, mirror neurons are cells in the brain that fire both when a person acts and when a person observes an action performed by another. This mirroring mechanism can lead us to subconsciously imitate the behaviors of those around us, further reinforcing societal norms. If everyone in a room stands up when a certain song begins, even if you don't know why, your initial impulse might be to stand as well. Thank mirror neurons for that!
  • Psychological safety and belonging. Humans have an inherent need to belong, as proposed by Abraham Maslow in his hierarchy of needs. Social norms create an environment where individuals can predict and understand group behaviors, leading to a sense of psychological safety. Knowing what's expected and seeing others conforming reduces our anxiety and fear of social rejection.
  • Cultural and generational shifts. It's also worth noting that while our brains have certain hardwired tendencies, the specifics of social norms are malleable; they change over time. The same behavior that gets the dopamine flowing in one culture or era might trigger the anterior insula in another.

The science of social norms paints a vivid picture: our brains are designed to promote conformity, both for our literal survival and our social well-being. However, as with all things in life, balance is key. Blind conformity stifles individuality, so it's essential to find that sweet spot between fitting in and being true to oneself.

Social Norms: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Social norms are nuanced, and not all are ultimately helpful. They can be a double-edged sword: they offer structure and predictability but also limits, stereotypes, and sometimes harm. Recognizing the multifaceted nature of norms is the first step in navigating them mindfully, ensuring they serve as helpful guides rather than restrictive chains.

Let’s examine these facets in more detail.

1. “The Good” — When Social Norms Help Us Communicate and Work Together

Social norms can provide safety and understanding. Imagine if there were no standards for driving on the road — chaos would ensue!

  • Maintaining social order. In many ways, social norms are the glue that holds society together. They provide a predictable framework that helps avoid chaos. Think about the simple norm of standing in line at the grocery store — it ensures that everyone gets what they need to make dinner, even if it takes a bit longer during rush hour.
  • Facilitating communication. Norms around language, gestures, and non-verbal cues help us communicate more effectively. In many cultures, for example, maintaining eye contact during a conversation indicates attentiveness and respect.
  • Encouraging positive behaviors. Many norms reinforce behaviors that are beneficial for the wider community. Recycling, for instance, is now a societal norm in many regions, promoting environmental responsibility.

2. “The Bad” — When Social Norms Get Restrictive or Prevent Progress

Sometimes, social norms can perpetuate limiting stereotypes or beliefs. Ever felt the pressure to look a certain way because "it's the norm"? That's a downside right there.

  • Perpetuating stereotypes. Some social norms can pigeonhole individuals based on gender, race, or background. For example, the belief that certain roles are “best suited” for men or women can limit opportunities and reinforce stereotypes.
  • Pressure to conform. The overwhelming desire to fit in can sometimes lead people to suppress their true selves. This can result in mental and emotional strain as we struggle to align our personal beliefs with societal expectations.
  • Resisting positive change. If a societal norm is deeply ingrained, it can be resistant to change — even if the change is positive. People might cling to “the way things have always been,” hindering progress.

3. “The Ugly” — When Social Norms Bring Out Our Dark Side

Unfortunately, not all widely accepted behaviors are benign. In some cases, social norms encourage behaviors that are downright detrimental to individual or societal well-being and bring out the worst of human nature. 

  • Supporting harmful practices. Sometimes, traditions that are harmful physically or mentally can persist because they're normalized and have been part of the culture for generations. Think about cultures that prioritize work to the point of burnout — that's an unhealthy norm we might want to reconsider.
  • Creating in-groups and out-groups. Strong norms can sometimes lead to the exclusion of those who don't or can't conform. This can result in discrimination, bias, ostracization, or even persecution of the “out-group.”
  • Suppressing individual growth. Over time, the pressure to conform to the norm can stifle creativity, innovation, and personal growth. If everyone is striving to fit a particular mold, there’s no room for individuality.

Into the Abyss: Stanford and Milgram Experiments

Some of the darkest facets of our inclination to follow social norms came about as a result of two of the most chilling studies in the realm of social psychology — the Stanford Prison Experiment and Milgram's Obedience Studies. Each starkly illuminates the extent to which humans might go under the weight of perceived norms and authority.

1. The Stanford Prison Experiment

In 1971, psychologist Philip Zimbardo conducted an experiment at Stanford University that involved turning a basement into a makeshift prison. He randomly assigned college students to roles of prisoners or guards. The goal? To study the effects of perceived power in a simulated prison environment.

The results were harrowing:

  • Rapid descent into tyranny. The “guards” began displaying aggressive and abusive behaviors towards the “prisoners” without being instructed to do so.
  • Loss of individual identity. The “prisoners” began to show signs of severe stress and emotional trauma. They started accepting the abusive behavior, and some even turned against fellow inmates.

The study, initially intended to last two weeks, was terminated after just six days due to the extreme psychological effects that were observed right off the bat. This experiment highlighted how quickly social roles and norms can influence behavior, pushing people to act in ways they'd never have imagined they would have.

2. Milgram’s Obedience Studies

In the 1960s, in an effort to understand the events of World War II, psychologist Stanley Milgram set out to explore the factors that drove people to commit atrocious acts simply because they were ordered to.

Participants were led to believe they were part of a learning experiment that involved administering electric shocks to another participant (who was actually an actor) every time he or she answered a question incorrectly. As the questions progressed, participants were prompted to administer increasingly severe shocks, despite hearing the painful screams of the actors.

To everyone’s horror and surprise, a significant number of participants went on to administer what they believed to be fatal electric shocks just because an authoritative figure (the experimenter wearing a lab coat) told them it was necessary — and, if the subjects resisted, the authority figure pressured them by saying that not doing so would sabotage the experiment. In this way, Milgram’s study unveiled a disconcerting truth about human nature: many people are willing to go against their moral compass under pressure from an authority figure.

Both experiments demonstrate the profound influence of social norms and authority on human behavior. While they serve as extreme examples, they are stark reminders that societal pressures and blind obedience to perceived norms can lead us astray. They also underscore the importance of critical thinking, self-awareness, and moral integrity in the face of societal and authoritative pressures.

Social Norms and the Alcohol Journey

Violence toward others isn’t the only potentially problematic aspect of social norms. Sometimes social pressures lead us to make choices that jeopardize our own health — such as the pressure brought about by drinking culture.

Alcohol plays a major role in social interactions worldwide. As a result, when someone decides to quit or cut back on alcohol, they often confront the mighty force of social norms. Let’s explore this challenging intersection.

  • The societal cheers. Many societies use alcohol as a symbol of relaxation, festivity, and camaraderie. It’s a staple at weddings, parties, and even casual get-togethers. This widespread acceptance and promotion can make it seem like alcohol is an indispensable part of social life (though it certainly doesn’t have to be!).
  • Celebrations and traditions. Many events are traditionally associated with alcohol: Champagne for anniversaries, wine for dinners, or beers at a barbecue. Skipping the drink in such settings can make us feel out of place or even attract unwanted attention.
  • Peer pressure. “Come on, just one drink!” is a phrase many hear when they're trying to cut back. Friends, even if well-intentioned, can sometimes push because they don't want to drink alone or because they believe the experience won’t be complete without it.
  • Professional settings. In some industries, deals are sealed and bonds are forged over rounds of drinks. Declining can sometimes feel like missing out on networking or bonding opportunities.

These are just some of the challenges on the path to alcohol reduction or abstinence:

  • Feeling isolated. Social norms around drinking can make those who abstain feel isolated. The fear of missing out (FOMO) on gatherings or being labeled “the sober one” can be daunting.
  • Misunderstandings. People might make assumptions or misinterpret our decision to not drink. They might think it’s for medical reasons or believe there’s a hidden “problem” (not that there’s any shame in that, especially if we’re addressing it) when it might simply be a personal choice.
  • Internal struggles. Fighting a societal norm can lead to internal conflict. There might be moments of doubt when we question our decision, wondering if we’re overreacting or missing out.

Changing Tides 

Fortunately, the narrative is slowly shifting. With increasing awareness of mental health and the benefits of a sober or reduced-alcohol lifestyle, the stigma is lessening. While social norms regarding alcohol can still pose challenges for those looking to quit or cut back, the landscape is evolving. The key is to stay true to our convictions, seek supportive environments, and remember that everyone’s journey is unique.

  • Sober curious movement. More people are exploring sobriety out of curiosity and health consciousness, making it a lifestyle choice rather than a response to addiction.
  • Alternative gatherings. Events centered around activities that don’t involve alcohol, like morning dance parties or group meditations, are on the rise.
  • Supportive communities. Online forums, support groups, and sober communities are flourishing, havens for those looking to share their journey, struggles, and successes.

Action Steps To Navigate Social Norms Mindfully

  • Self-awareness is key. Regularly check in with yourself. Are you doing something because you truly believe in it or because it's just "what people do"?
  • Educate yourself. Knowledge is power. The more you understand why certain norms exist, the better equipped you'll be to decide if they align with your values.
  • Foster safe spaces. Create environments where friends and family can be themselves. When people feel accepted, they're less likely to blindly follow norms that don't serve them.
  • Challenge with compassion. If you feel a norm is outdated or harmful, speak up! But remember to approach conversations with understanding and empathy.
  • Focus on personal growth. The more secure you are in your values and beliefs, the less likely you'll be swayed by societal pressures. Cultivate self-love and acceptance.
  • Seek like-minded communities. Surround yourself with people who share your values. Whether it's an online group or a local club, find your tribe.
  • Practice regular reflection. Taking time to reflect on your actions and decisions can help you understand if you're acting out of personal conviction or societal pressure.

Charting Our Own Course

Social norms are part and parcel of our daily lives. Understanding their origins and impact helps us navigate them in a way that aligns with our individual values and promotes overall well-being. So the next time you feel that societal tug, take a moment to pause, reflect, and choose the path that's truly right for you. 

Moreover, understanding the dynamics of social norms around alcohol can empower us on our journeys of quitting or cutting back. Seeing norms from an outside perspective and without judgment lets us decide what course of action is right for us. And as more and more people have started to do that in recent years, leading to a noticeable shift in the drinking culture, we’re in great company!

If you've ever felt the invisible tug of society telling you how to act or what to say, you've felt the influence of social norms, the unwritten rules of behavior that are considered acceptable in a group or society. They help us know what’s expected of us in various situations, from the simple — such as saying "please" and "thank you" or knowing what attire is acceptable for different occasions — to the more complex, such as navigating workplace dynamics or managing dinner with your future in-laws. 

Social norms affect virtually every part of our lives and influence our confidence level and success. They also play into our drinking patterns and can be a major factor in our cutting back or quitting journeys. Let’s unpack social norms and explore their impact on our lives!

The History of Social Norms

While social norms feel very “now,” they've actually been around since, well, forever. Let’s take a brief stroll through history to see how they've shaped cultures, societies, and behaviors throughout the ages. Needless to say, they’ve changed pretty significantly over time!

  • The Stone Age and early tribes. In the earliest days of humanity, norms were closely tied to survival. Communities quickly learned that certain behaviors increased the odds of staying alive: sharing food within the tribe, cooperating during hunts, and protecting each other from wild animals or other tribes. The norms back then were all about sharing, cooperating, and watching each other's back! And behaving in socially unacceptable ways (hoarding food, for example) could cause someone to be cast out.
  • Ancient civilizations. As societies grew more complex, so did their norms. In Ancient Egypt, elaborate rituals around death and the afterlife became standard. The Greeks, passionate about philosophy and democracy, cultivated norms around discourse and governance. Meanwhile, in ancient India, the caste system influenced societal roles and behaviors.
  • Middle Ages. Norms were heavily influenced by the church and feudal system. Knights followed chivalric codes, while peasants had their own set of rules (often imposed by nobility). Clothing, too, was a significant indicator of one's status and role in society.
  • Renaissance and Enlightenment. With a renewed interest in art, science, and individual potential, social norms began to shift. Ideas about personal freedoms and rights emerged, challenging established norms and leading to significant societal changes that emphasized individual agency and responsibilities toward other members of the community.
  • Industrial Age to today. The rapid urbanization and technological advancements of the last couple of centuries have dramatically reshaped societal norms. Think about it: a hundred years ago, who could've imagined norms around smartphone etiquette? Yet, here we are!

The last few decades have also witnessed some profound changes related to civil rights and liberties. From the Civil Rights Movement in the United States fighting against racial segregation and discrimination, to the global push for LGBTQ+ rights and women's marches demanding gender equality, social norms have been both challenged and redefined. These movements have challenged the status quo, showing that while norms might shape society, society can reshape norms. 

Throughout history, social norms have both reflected and shaped the zeitgeist of the times. They provide fascinating insights into what societies value, fear, and aspire to. And as history has shown, while norms may be deeply entrenched, they're not set in stone. They evolve, just as we do. Who knows what the norms of tomorrow will look like? One thing's for sure: we'll play a part in shaping them!

The Science Behind the Influence

Now let’s shift gears a bit and explore the biological underpinnings of social norms. Our brains are wired to fit in. Research has shown that our brain's dopamine-driven reward centers light up when we conform to social norms, giving us a literal feel-good sensation when we fit in.

Understanding the science behind social norms isn't just about knowing the "what," but the "why." Let's deep dive into the neural pathways, evolutionary reasons, and the psychology that play a role in how we conform and respond to social norms.

  • Evolutionary perspective. Humans are inherently social creatures. From an evolutionary standpoint, being accepted by our tribe was a matter of survival. Those who didn't adhere to group norms could be ostracized, which could be a question of life or death. So there's a good reason why we evolved to feel uneasy when we go against the grain! 



    From our earliest days as hunter-gatherers, sticking together was a strategy for survival. Being part of a group meant better protection from predators and more access to food. Over time, this advantage translated into a genetic predisposition towards group harmony. Following social norms was one of the easiest ways to avoid missing out on the crucial benefits that came with being part of a group. The evolutionary mantra was simple: conform or face potential isolation.
  • Neural connections. Recent studies have used advanced neuroimaging techniques to provide insights into how our brains react to social norms. The brain's reward system, particularly regions like the ventral striatum, lights up when we act in accordance with social expectations. It's a dopamine-driven pat on the back for fitting in. Conversely, when we go against the grain, the anterior insula, which is associated with negative feelings and discomfort, becomes more active. Our brain is wired to reward conformity and "punish" deviation.
  • The role of mirror neurons. Discovered in the 1990s, mirror neurons are cells in the brain that fire both when a person acts and when a person observes an action performed by another. This mirroring mechanism can lead us to subconsciously imitate the behaviors of those around us, further reinforcing societal norms. If everyone in a room stands up when a certain song begins, even if you don't know why, your initial impulse might be to stand as well. Thank mirror neurons for that!
  • Psychological safety and belonging. Humans have an inherent need to belong, as proposed by Abraham Maslow in his hierarchy of needs. Social norms create an environment where individuals can predict and understand group behaviors, leading to a sense of psychological safety. Knowing what's expected and seeing others conforming reduces our anxiety and fear of social rejection.
  • Cultural and generational shifts. It's also worth noting that while our brains have certain hardwired tendencies, the specifics of social norms are malleable; they change over time. The same behavior that gets the dopamine flowing in one culture or era might trigger the anterior insula in another.

The science of social norms paints a vivid picture: our brains are designed to promote conformity, both for our literal survival and our social well-being. However, as with all things in life, balance is key. Blind conformity stifles individuality, so it's essential to find that sweet spot between fitting in and being true to oneself.

Social Norms: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Social norms are nuanced, and not all are ultimately helpful. They can be a double-edged sword: they offer structure and predictability but also limits, stereotypes, and sometimes harm. Recognizing the multifaceted nature of norms is the first step in navigating them mindfully, ensuring they serve as helpful guides rather than restrictive chains.

Let’s examine these facets in more detail.

1. “The Good” — When Social Norms Help Us Communicate and Work Together

Social norms can provide safety and understanding. Imagine if there were no standards for driving on the road — chaos would ensue!

  • Maintaining social order. In many ways, social norms are the glue that holds society together. They provide a predictable framework that helps avoid chaos. Think about the simple norm of standing in line at the grocery store — it ensures that everyone gets what they need to make dinner, even if it takes a bit longer during rush hour.
  • Facilitating communication. Norms around language, gestures, and non-verbal cues help us communicate more effectively. In many cultures, for example, maintaining eye contact during a conversation indicates attentiveness and respect.
  • Encouraging positive behaviors. Many norms reinforce behaviors that are beneficial for the wider community. Recycling, for instance, is now a societal norm in many regions, promoting environmental responsibility.

2. “The Bad” — When Social Norms Get Restrictive or Prevent Progress

Sometimes, social norms can perpetuate limiting stereotypes or beliefs. Ever felt the pressure to look a certain way because "it's the norm"? That's a downside right there.

  • Perpetuating stereotypes. Some social norms can pigeonhole individuals based on gender, race, or background. For example, the belief that certain roles are “best suited” for men or women can limit opportunities and reinforce stereotypes.
  • Pressure to conform. The overwhelming desire to fit in can sometimes lead people to suppress their true selves. This can result in mental and emotional strain as we struggle to align our personal beliefs with societal expectations.
  • Resisting positive change. If a societal norm is deeply ingrained, it can be resistant to change — even if the change is positive. People might cling to “the way things have always been,” hindering progress.

3. “The Ugly” — When Social Norms Bring Out Our Dark Side

Unfortunately, not all widely accepted behaviors are benign. In some cases, social norms encourage behaviors that are downright detrimental to individual or societal well-being and bring out the worst of human nature. 

  • Supporting harmful practices. Sometimes, traditions that are harmful physically or mentally can persist because they're normalized and have been part of the culture for generations. Think about cultures that prioritize work to the point of burnout — that's an unhealthy norm we might want to reconsider.
  • Creating in-groups and out-groups. Strong norms can sometimes lead to the exclusion of those who don't or can't conform. This can result in discrimination, bias, ostracization, or even persecution of the “out-group.”
  • Suppressing individual growth. Over time, the pressure to conform to the norm can stifle creativity, innovation, and personal growth. If everyone is striving to fit a particular mold, there’s no room for individuality.

Into the Abyss: Stanford and Milgram Experiments

Some of the darkest facets of our inclination to follow social norms came about as a result of two of the most chilling studies in the realm of social psychology — the Stanford Prison Experiment and Milgram's Obedience Studies. Each starkly illuminates the extent to which humans might go under the weight of perceived norms and authority.

1. The Stanford Prison Experiment

In 1971, psychologist Philip Zimbardo conducted an experiment at Stanford University that involved turning a basement into a makeshift prison. He randomly assigned college students to roles of prisoners or guards. The goal? To study the effects of perceived power in a simulated prison environment.

The results were harrowing:

  • Rapid descent into tyranny. The “guards” began displaying aggressive and abusive behaviors towards the “prisoners” without being instructed to do so.
  • Loss of individual identity. The “prisoners” began to show signs of severe stress and emotional trauma. They started accepting the abusive behavior, and some even turned against fellow inmates.

The study, initially intended to last two weeks, was terminated after just six days due to the extreme psychological effects that were observed right off the bat. This experiment highlighted how quickly social roles and norms can influence behavior, pushing people to act in ways they'd never have imagined they would have.

2. Milgram’s Obedience Studies

In the 1960s, in an effort to understand the events of World War II, psychologist Stanley Milgram set out to explore the factors that drove people to commit atrocious acts simply because they were ordered to.

Participants were led to believe they were part of a learning experiment that involved administering electric shocks to another participant (who was actually an actor) every time he or she answered a question incorrectly. As the questions progressed, participants were prompted to administer increasingly severe shocks, despite hearing the painful screams of the actors.

To everyone’s horror and surprise, a significant number of participants went on to administer what they believed to be fatal electric shocks just because an authoritative figure (the experimenter wearing a lab coat) told them it was necessary — and, if the subjects resisted, the authority figure pressured them by saying that not doing so would sabotage the experiment. In this way, Milgram’s study unveiled a disconcerting truth about human nature: many people are willing to go against their moral compass under pressure from an authority figure.

Both experiments demonstrate the profound influence of social norms and authority on human behavior. While they serve as extreme examples, they are stark reminders that societal pressures and blind obedience to perceived norms can lead us astray. They also underscore the importance of critical thinking, self-awareness, and moral integrity in the face of societal and authoritative pressures.

Social Norms and the Alcohol Journey

Violence toward others isn’t the only potentially problematic aspect of social norms. Sometimes social pressures lead us to make choices that jeopardize our own health — such as the pressure brought about by drinking culture.

Alcohol plays a major role in social interactions worldwide. As a result, when someone decides to quit or cut back on alcohol, they often confront the mighty force of social norms. Let’s explore this challenging intersection.

  • The societal cheers. Many societies use alcohol as a symbol of relaxation, festivity, and camaraderie. It’s a staple at weddings, parties, and even casual get-togethers. This widespread acceptance and promotion can make it seem like alcohol is an indispensable part of social life (though it certainly doesn’t have to be!).
  • Celebrations and traditions. Many events are traditionally associated with alcohol: Champagne for anniversaries, wine for dinners, or beers at a barbecue. Skipping the drink in such settings can make us feel out of place or even attract unwanted attention.
  • Peer pressure. “Come on, just one drink!” is a phrase many hear when they're trying to cut back. Friends, even if well-intentioned, can sometimes push because they don't want to drink alone or because they believe the experience won’t be complete without it.
  • Professional settings. In some industries, deals are sealed and bonds are forged over rounds of drinks. Declining can sometimes feel like missing out on networking or bonding opportunities.

These are just some of the challenges on the path to alcohol reduction or abstinence:

  • Feeling isolated. Social norms around drinking can make those who abstain feel isolated. The fear of missing out (FOMO) on gatherings or being labeled “the sober one” can be daunting.
  • Misunderstandings. People might make assumptions or misinterpret our decision to not drink. They might think it’s for medical reasons or believe there’s a hidden “problem” (not that there’s any shame in that, especially if we’re addressing it) when it might simply be a personal choice.
  • Internal struggles. Fighting a societal norm can lead to internal conflict. There might be moments of doubt when we question our decision, wondering if we’re overreacting or missing out.

Changing Tides 

Fortunately, the narrative is slowly shifting. With increasing awareness of mental health and the benefits of a sober or reduced-alcohol lifestyle, the stigma is lessening. While social norms regarding alcohol can still pose challenges for those looking to quit or cut back, the landscape is evolving. The key is to stay true to our convictions, seek supportive environments, and remember that everyone’s journey is unique.

  • Sober curious movement. More people are exploring sobriety out of curiosity and health consciousness, making it a lifestyle choice rather than a response to addiction.
  • Alternative gatherings. Events centered around activities that don’t involve alcohol, like morning dance parties or group meditations, are on the rise.
  • Supportive communities. Online forums, support groups, and sober communities are flourishing, havens for those looking to share their journey, struggles, and successes.

Action Steps To Navigate Social Norms Mindfully

  • Self-awareness is key. Regularly check in with yourself. Are you doing something because you truly believe in it or because it's just "what people do"?
  • Educate yourself. Knowledge is power. The more you understand why certain norms exist, the better equipped you'll be to decide if they align with your values.
  • Foster safe spaces. Create environments where friends and family can be themselves. When people feel accepted, they're less likely to blindly follow norms that don't serve them.
  • Challenge with compassion. If you feel a norm is outdated or harmful, speak up! But remember to approach conversations with understanding and empathy.
  • Focus on personal growth. The more secure you are in your values and beliefs, the less likely you'll be swayed by societal pressures. Cultivate self-love and acceptance.
  • Seek like-minded communities. Surround yourself with people who share your values. Whether it's an online group or a local club, find your tribe.
  • Practice regular reflection. Taking time to reflect on your actions and decisions can help you understand if you're acting out of personal conviction or societal pressure.

Charting Our Own Course

Social norms are part and parcel of our daily lives. Understanding their origins and impact helps us navigate them in a way that aligns with our individual values and promotes overall well-being. So the next time you feel that societal tug, take a moment to pause, reflect, and choose the path that's truly right for you. 

Moreover, understanding the dynamics of social norms around alcohol can empower us on our journeys of quitting or cutting back. Seeing norms from an outside perspective and without judgment lets us decide what course of action is right for us. And as more and more people have started to do that in recent years, leading to a noticeable shift in the drinking culture, we’re in great company!

Alcohol and Mental Health
2023-12-22 9:30
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You’ve been feeling on edge for the past several weeks, but can’t exactly pinpoint what’s bothering you. You find yourself contemplating the meaning of your life, your purpose, and even your identity. What’s going on — have you completely lost it, or is this normal? 

In this post, we'll explore the concept of an existential crisis: what it is, what causes it, and most importantly, how you can overcome it. Let’s get started!

What Is an Existential Crisis?

The term existential crisis often refers to a form of inner conflict that stems from profound self-examination and the pondering of fundamental aspects of our life, identity, and purpose. It can cause us to look at our life and question our mere existence — hence the term existential. 

Going through an existential crisis can be very unsettling, as it forces us to confront questions that we don’t necessarily have answers to. In many ways, it’s like a wake-up call from our inner self, trying to get our attention and urging us to examine our life on a deeper level. It often emerges during significant life events or transitions, but it can also creep in during quieter moments of self-reflection. 

But, the most important thing to remember if we have an existential crisis — or are currently in the middle of one — is that they’re not uncommon. Everyone may experience an existential crisis at some point in their life. 

Signs and Symptoms of an Existential Crisis

Like many other crises, existential crises can be complex and convoluted. They vary from person to person and can manifest in various ways. However, there are some commonalities among people in the midst of one. Here’s a closer look at five of the most common symptoms and signs to watch out for: 

  1. Feelings of emptiness. A sense of emptiness is one of the hallmarks of an existential crisis. It almost feels like we’re staring into an abyss that we can’t fully grasp. This feeling can be deeply unsettling and accompanied by a profound dissatisfaction with our current circumstances. It can also cause us to crave deeper meaning and purpose, and yearn for something more than we’ve currently experienced in life.
  2. Anxiety and dread. Another major sign that we’re knee-deep in an existential crisis is being consumed by worry and anxiety. We may even find ourselves experiencing existential dread — a pervasive anxiety about our purpose, mortality, and the ultimate meaning of life itself. Continually questioning who we are and our place in the world can take a toll on our health, not just mentally, but physically, too. It may cause us to suffer from insomnia, restlessness, or perpetual unease. 
  3. Questioning life choices. An existential crisis often triggers a reevaluation of our life choices, both major and minor. We may question the decisions we’ve made thus far, including our career, relationships, and even our values. We’re examining your life under a magnifying glass, searching for the alignment between our choices and true self. This introspection can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can lead to valuable insights and personal growth. On the other hand, it may bring to light decisions that don't resonate with our authentic self, creating inner turmoil and doubt.
  4. Desire for meaning. Another indication we’re having an existential crisis is the deep-seated desire for meaning and purpose. We may find ourselves yearning to uncover the grander narrative of our life, to answer profound questions like, "What is the point of it all?" and "What am I meant to do?" This desire is a testament to our innate human curiosity and longing for significance. This quest for meaning can lead us on a journey of self-discovery, as we seek to align our actions and choices with our core values and aspirations.
  5. Disconnection from self. During an existential crisis, we may feel a profound disconnection from our true self. It's as if we’ve been living a life that doesn't align with our core values, beliefs, or aspirations. This disconnect can manifest as a sense of alienation, leaving us feeling estranged from our own identity. This inner turmoil can be deeply unsettling, prompting us to question who we’ve become and whether we’ve been living inauthentically. The disconnection from self serves as a catalyst for self-reflection and, ultimately, transformation.

Given the intensity of emotions, some people might find themselves turning to alcohol or other substances to help them cope with an existential crisis. However, doing so only exacerbates anxiety or depression

While these signs can be distressing, it's important to recognize that an existential crisis is a natural part of personal growth. It can usher in a new season of life that helps us live authentically and purposefully. 

What Are the Root Causes of an Existential Crisis?

Existential crises don’t just come out of nowhere. They are often triggered by various factors and life events. These crises are deeply personal experiences that often emerge when people are confronted with profound questions about the nature of existence, meaning, and purpose. Here’s a closer look at four common causes:

  • Major life changes. Change is never easy. And it can sometimes cause us to start questioning things around us. Oftentimes, an existential crisis will emerge from a major life event, such as switching careers, losing a loved one, suffering an illness, or reaching a significant age milestone. These life transitions can serve as a catalyst for self-reflection, disrupting our usual routine and forcing us to reevaluate our priorities and values. 
  • Awareness of mortality. Nobody wants to think about the end of their life — or confront the possibility of their own death. But as we traverse down the road of life, we inevitably become more aware of our own mortality and the finite nature of human existence. This heightened awareness can be a potent trigger for existential crises. It's a realization that life is fleeting, and the time we have on this planet is finite.
  • Misalignment with values. A significant cause of existential crises is the realization that our life choices and circumstances don't align with our deeply held values and beliefs. This misalignment can be a source of inner conflict and existential doubt. For example, if we’ve been pursuing a career solely for financial gain but value creative expression and personal fulfillment more deeply, we may experience a crisis of purpose.
  • Societal expectations. Society often imposes certain expectations on individuals, prescribing what constitutes a successful and fulfilling life. These expectations can include pursuing a particular career path, adhering to a specific lifestyle, or achieving certain milestones by a certain age. Questioning these societal norms and expectations can trigger existential doubts.

Keep in mind that, while these are some of the most common triggers for an existential crisis, triggers can vary from person to person depending on our life, circumstances, and unique situation.

7 Tips for Overcoming an Existential Crisis

There’s no doubt about it: existential crises can be challenging and uncomfortable. But we don’t have to let them overwhelm us. We can learn how to navigate an existential crisis in a healthy way so that we emerge stronger and wiser. With that in mind, here are seven practical steps to overcome an existential crisis: 

  1. Engage in self-reflection. A big part of an existential crisis is engaging in self-reflection. This can be helpful for exploring our thoughts, emotions, and observations. Try using a journal to help you process what you’re experiencing. Consider asking yourself questions such as, “What matters most to me?" and, "What are my long-term goals and dreams?” Writing these down can help us gain clarity and direction. 
  2. Shift your perspective. Change is often scary to us, but it doesn’t have to be. We also can’t avoid change, so we’re better off embracing it rather than resisting it. Try to view change as an opportunity for personal growth. Ask yourself what you can learn from what you’re experiencing and the challenges you’re facing. This can be a powerful mindset shift, but it requires a willingness to embrace change. As the saying goes, the more we resist, the more it persists. 
  3. Seek support. One of the worst things we can do when experiencing an existential crisis is to isolate ourselves. We’re meant for connection — particularly when we’re going through a hard time. Try reaching out to friends and loved ones to share your thoughts and feelings. We can also consider joining social or community groups that align with your interests and values. Connecting with like-minded individuals can provide a sense of belonging and shared purpose, which can be comforting during periods of distress. 
  4. Find joy in small moments. Existential crises can be heavy and overwhelming. As such, we might have a harder time looking on the bright side. But it’s important to find joy in the little things. Try being fully engaged in your daily experiences, whether you’re savoring a cup of tea, taking a leisurely walk, or appreciating the beauty of nature. Plus, taking a moment to express gratitude and appreciation can boost our level of happiness and well-being. 
  5. Set realistic goals. During an existential crisis, it's natural to question your life goals and aspirations. Take time to reevaluate your goals in light of your newfound insights and values. What goals align with your authentic self? Once you’ve identified them, try breaking them into actionable steps. For example, if your goal is to improve your physical fitness, specific objectives might include running a certain distance, lifting a specific weight, or achieving a particular level of health.
  6. Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness meditation techniques can help us become more aware of our thoughts and feelings without judgment. Regular mindfulness practice can enhance our ability to stay present and find meaning in everyday experiences. A key aspect of mindfulness is observation without judgment. This means refraining from criticizing or analyzing our thoughts and emotions. Instead, acknowledge and accept them as you would a dear friend. 
  7. Seek professional help. Finally, sometimes we need extra help to get through a crisis — and there’s nothing wrong with that! In fact, reaching out for help is a sign of great strength, not weakness. Consider seeking the guidance of a trained therapist or counselor. They can provide valuable insights into the root causes of our existential crisis and help us develop coping strategies, tools, and techniques for managing difficult emotions.

Taken together, these steps can help us navigate an existential crisis in a healthy, constructive manner. Existential crises can be greatly distressing, but with time, we can come out the other side! It’s possible we may even look back one day and be grateful for the personal growth and transformation it initiated. 

The Bottom Line

While existential crises can be unsettling, they also offer an opportunity for profound personal growth and transformation. They are moments when you question the status quo and embark on a journey to find deeper meaning and purpose in your life. By recognizing the triggers and causes of these crises, you can navigate them with greater awareness and emerge from the experience with a clearer sense of self and purpose. Remember, it's okay to question and explore; it's all part of the journey toward a more authentic and fulfilling existence.

If you’re turning to alcohol to help manage uncomfortable feelings, consider trying Reframe. We’re a neuroscience-backed app that has helped millions of people reduce their alcohol consumption and develop healthier lifestyle habits.

You’ve been feeling on edge for the past several weeks, but can’t exactly pinpoint what’s bothering you. You find yourself contemplating the meaning of your life, your purpose, and even your identity. What’s going on — have you completely lost it, or is this normal? 

In this post, we'll explore the concept of an existential crisis: what it is, what causes it, and most importantly, how you can overcome it. Let’s get started!

What Is an Existential Crisis?

The term existential crisis often refers to a form of inner conflict that stems from profound self-examination and the pondering of fundamental aspects of our life, identity, and purpose. It can cause us to look at our life and question our mere existence — hence the term existential. 

Going through an existential crisis can be very unsettling, as it forces us to confront questions that we don’t necessarily have answers to. In many ways, it’s like a wake-up call from our inner self, trying to get our attention and urging us to examine our life on a deeper level. It often emerges during significant life events or transitions, but it can also creep in during quieter moments of self-reflection. 

But, the most important thing to remember if we have an existential crisis — or are currently in the middle of one — is that they’re not uncommon. Everyone may experience an existential crisis at some point in their life. 

Signs and Symptoms of an Existential Crisis

Like many other crises, existential crises can be complex and convoluted. They vary from person to person and can manifest in various ways. However, there are some commonalities among people in the midst of one. Here’s a closer look at five of the most common symptoms and signs to watch out for: 

  1. Feelings of emptiness. A sense of emptiness is one of the hallmarks of an existential crisis. It almost feels like we’re staring into an abyss that we can’t fully grasp. This feeling can be deeply unsettling and accompanied by a profound dissatisfaction with our current circumstances. It can also cause us to crave deeper meaning and purpose, and yearn for something more than we’ve currently experienced in life.
  2. Anxiety and dread. Another major sign that we’re knee-deep in an existential crisis is being consumed by worry and anxiety. We may even find ourselves experiencing existential dread — a pervasive anxiety about our purpose, mortality, and the ultimate meaning of life itself. Continually questioning who we are and our place in the world can take a toll on our health, not just mentally, but physically, too. It may cause us to suffer from insomnia, restlessness, or perpetual unease. 
  3. Questioning life choices. An existential crisis often triggers a reevaluation of our life choices, both major and minor. We may question the decisions we’ve made thus far, including our career, relationships, and even our values. We’re examining your life under a magnifying glass, searching for the alignment between our choices and true self. This introspection can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can lead to valuable insights and personal growth. On the other hand, it may bring to light decisions that don't resonate with our authentic self, creating inner turmoil and doubt.
  4. Desire for meaning. Another indication we’re having an existential crisis is the deep-seated desire for meaning and purpose. We may find ourselves yearning to uncover the grander narrative of our life, to answer profound questions like, "What is the point of it all?" and "What am I meant to do?" This desire is a testament to our innate human curiosity and longing for significance. This quest for meaning can lead us on a journey of self-discovery, as we seek to align our actions and choices with our core values and aspirations.
  5. Disconnection from self. During an existential crisis, we may feel a profound disconnection from our true self. It's as if we’ve been living a life that doesn't align with our core values, beliefs, or aspirations. This disconnect can manifest as a sense of alienation, leaving us feeling estranged from our own identity. This inner turmoil can be deeply unsettling, prompting us to question who we’ve become and whether we’ve been living inauthentically. The disconnection from self serves as a catalyst for self-reflection and, ultimately, transformation.

Given the intensity of emotions, some people might find themselves turning to alcohol or other substances to help them cope with an existential crisis. However, doing so only exacerbates anxiety or depression

While these signs can be distressing, it's important to recognize that an existential crisis is a natural part of personal growth. It can usher in a new season of life that helps us live authentically and purposefully. 

What Are the Root Causes of an Existential Crisis?

Existential crises don’t just come out of nowhere. They are often triggered by various factors and life events. These crises are deeply personal experiences that often emerge when people are confronted with profound questions about the nature of existence, meaning, and purpose. Here’s a closer look at four common causes:

  • Major life changes. Change is never easy. And it can sometimes cause us to start questioning things around us. Oftentimes, an existential crisis will emerge from a major life event, such as switching careers, losing a loved one, suffering an illness, or reaching a significant age milestone. These life transitions can serve as a catalyst for self-reflection, disrupting our usual routine and forcing us to reevaluate our priorities and values. 
  • Awareness of mortality. Nobody wants to think about the end of their life — or confront the possibility of their own death. But as we traverse down the road of life, we inevitably become more aware of our own mortality and the finite nature of human existence. This heightened awareness can be a potent trigger for existential crises. It's a realization that life is fleeting, and the time we have on this planet is finite.
  • Misalignment with values. A significant cause of existential crises is the realization that our life choices and circumstances don't align with our deeply held values and beliefs. This misalignment can be a source of inner conflict and existential doubt. For example, if we’ve been pursuing a career solely for financial gain but value creative expression and personal fulfillment more deeply, we may experience a crisis of purpose.
  • Societal expectations. Society often imposes certain expectations on individuals, prescribing what constitutes a successful and fulfilling life. These expectations can include pursuing a particular career path, adhering to a specific lifestyle, or achieving certain milestones by a certain age. Questioning these societal norms and expectations can trigger existential doubts.

Keep in mind that, while these are some of the most common triggers for an existential crisis, triggers can vary from person to person depending on our life, circumstances, and unique situation.

7 Tips for Overcoming an Existential Crisis

There’s no doubt about it: existential crises can be challenging and uncomfortable. But we don’t have to let them overwhelm us. We can learn how to navigate an existential crisis in a healthy way so that we emerge stronger and wiser. With that in mind, here are seven practical steps to overcome an existential crisis: 

  1. Engage in self-reflection. A big part of an existential crisis is engaging in self-reflection. This can be helpful for exploring our thoughts, emotions, and observations. Try using a journal to help you process what you’re experiencing. Consider asking yourself questions such as, “What matters most to me?" and, "What are my long-term goals and dreams?” Writing these down can help us gain clarity and direction. 
  2. Shift your perspective. Change is often scary to us, but it doesn’t have to be. We also can’t avoid change, so we’re better off embracing it rather than resisting it. Try to view change as an opportunity for personal growth. Ask yourself what you can learn from what you’re experiencing and the challenges you’re facing. This can be a powerful mindset shift, but it requires a willingness to embrace change. As the saying goes, the more we resist, the more it persists. 
  3. Seek support. One of the worst things we can do when experiencing an existential crisis is to isolate ourselves. We’re meant for connection — particularly when we’re going through a hard time. Try reaching out to friends and loved ones to share your thoughts and feelings. We can also consider joining social or community groups that align with your interests and values. Connecting with like-minded individuals can provide a sense of belonging and shared purpose, which can be comforting during periods of distress. 
  4. Find joy in small moments. Existential crises can be heavy and overwhelming. As such, we might have a harder time looking on the bright side. But it’s important to find joy in the little things. Try being fully engaged in your daily experiences, whether you’re savoring a cup of tea, taking a leisurely walk, or appreciating the beauty of nature. Plus, taking a moment to express gratitude and appreciation can boost our level of happiness and well-being. 
  5. Set realistic goals. During an existential crisis, it's natural to question your life goals and aspirations. Take time to reevaluate your goals in light of your newfound insights and values. What goals align with your authentic self? Once you’ve identified them, try breaking them into actionable steps. For example, if your goal is to improve your physical fitness, specific objectives might include running a certain distance, lifting a specific weight, or achieving a particular level of health.
  6. Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness meditation techniques can help us become more aware of our thoughts and feelings without judgment. Regular mindfulness practice can enhance our ability to stay present and find meaning in everyday experiences. A key aspect of mindfulness is observation without judgment. This means refraining from criticizing or analyzing our thoughts and emotions. Instead, acknowledge and accept them as you would a dear friend. 
  7. Seek professional help. Finally, sometimes we need extra help to get through a crisis — and there’s nothing wrong with that! In fact, reaching out for help is a sign of great strength, not weakness. Consider seeking the guidance of a trained therapist or counselor. They can provide valuable insights into the root causes of our existential crisis and help us develop coping strategies, tools, and techniques for managing difficult emotions.

Taken together, these steps can help us navigate an existential crisis in a healthy, constructive manner. Existential crises can be greatly distressing, but with time, we can come out the other side! It’s possible we may even look back one day and be grateful for the personal growth and transformation it initiated. 

The Bottom Line

While existential crises can be unsettling, they also offer an opportunity for profound personal growth and transformation. They are moments when you question the status quo and embark on a journey to find deeper meaning and purpose in your life. By recognizing the triggers and causes of these crises, you can navigate them with greater awareness and emerge from the experience with a clearer sense of self and purpose. Remember, it's okay to question and explore; it's all part of the journey toward a more authentic and fulfilling existence.

If you’re turning to alcohol to help manage uncomfortable feelings, consider trying Reframe. We’re a neuroscience-backed app that has helped millions of people reduce their alcohol consumption and develop healthier lifestyle habits.

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Cheers Without Beers: Sober Bachelor Party Ideas To Remember
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Bachelor parties are often synonymous with alcohol, but these 10 sober bachelor party ideas prove that booze-free fun is more than possible. Check them out to determine which is a best fit for your group!

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Woo hoo! Your wedding is only a few months away, and as a final hurrah before the big day, you’re planning a bachelor party with your closest buds. If this were a few years ago, you all would be hitting the nightclubs and throwing back tequila shots like there’s no tomorrow. Now, you and many of your friends are now sober or sober curious, and you need a completely different pre-wedding celebration altogether.

Alcohol-fueled bachelor parties, while presented as fun and exciting in the moment, can actually result in alcohol poisoning, brushes with the law, broken phones, crashed vehicles, and an array of other potential regrets. Given that most bachelor party ideas are pretty boozy, how can you celebrate your upcoming marriage sans alcohol and its repercussions? In this blog post, we’ll be sharing several sober bachelor party ideas, so you can have a great time and stick to your health goals. Because who said you need alcohol to have a great time?!

Bachelor Parties: Backstory and Alcohol’s Role

Bachelor parties, commonly referred to as “stag nights” in certain cultures, have a rich history, dating back to ancient times. This pre-wedding celebration is said to have originated with the Spartans in the 5th century BCE During this era, military comrades would hold a dinner in the groom's honor and make toasts on his behalf, celebrating his last night as a single man. This practice marked the beginning of what we now know as bachelor parties.

Over time, the concept evolved and spread across different cultures. The basic premise remained the same: a celebration for the groom-to-be before his wedding. However, the nature of these celebrations varied greatly depending on cultural norms and societal expectations.

Alcohol became a key element of bachelor parties in many Western cultures during the 20th century. This shift can be attributed to a combination of factors. First, the relaxation of social norms around drinking played a significant role. The post-World War era, particularly in the United States and Europe, saw a significant shift in attitudes towards alcohol consumption. This period was marked by a rise in leisure activities and partying, with alcohol being a central feature.

Moreover, the commercialization of bachelor parties also contributed to the prominence of alcohol. As the event became more of a pre-wedding ritual, the hospitality and entertainment industries capitalized on it, promoting alcohol-heavy celebrations as a lucrative business.

10 Sober Bachelor Party Ideas

What does a bachelor party without alcohol look like? For starters, there won’t be any hangovers or hangxiety to worry about! But aside from that, you’ll be able to make precious memories with your closest friends without alcohol’s effects on your short-term or long-term well-being. 

Here are ten non-drinking bachelor party ideas.

  1. Outdoor adventuring. Who doesn’t love a little reset in nature?! Plan a trip that involves hiking, camping, and/or backpacking in a picturesque location. This outdoor-centric trip can also include activities such as rock climbing, white water rafting, or mountain biking. Of course, it’s important to be mindful of skill and ability levels, so if an outdoor trip is involved, ensure that everyone's unique needs are accounted for. 
  2. Sports day. Organize a day filled with various sports activities such as bowling, paintball, golf, laser tag, or go-kart racing. You can even rent a private venue for playing team sports such as volleyball, basketball, or soccer. This is a great way to bond and foster camaraderie among attendees while also getting some exercise in. Make sure to have plenty of alcohol-free drink options available to hydrate between games, such as a nutritious mocktail or fruit-infused water. 
  3. Gaming marathon. For all the gaming enthusiasts, set up a gaming marathon with favorite video games, virtual reality experiences, or classic board games and card games. Consider breaking up the time indoors with outings to nearby restaurants or parks. 
  4. Cooking class or culinary tour. Book a private cooking class if the group loves to cook or consists of many food enthusiasts. Alternatively, you could go on a culinary tour, sampling different types of cuisines. These activities can expand everyone’s culinary horizons and promote a better understanding of the local area if it’s a destination bachelor party. Always be sure to ask about allergies or dietary restrictions beforehand to make the event accessible to all guests. 
  5. Spa and relaxation weekend. For a more relaxed alcohol-free experience, plan a day at a spa for massages, saunas, and tranquility. This can be a great way to unwind and rejuvenate, especially with the many demands of work and wedding planning to return to post-event. You might consider unique experiences such as mud baths, European-style bath houses, or even specialty facials. Treat yourselves! 
  6. Adventure sports experiences. If the group thrives on adrenaline, consider activities such as skydiving, bungee jumping, or zip-lining. These high-octane experiences can promote an even deeper bond among group members. 
  7. Group road trip. Plan a road trip to a destination that the groom has always wanted to visit and that is accessible to all guests. This can include stops at various attractions, scenic spots, and trying out local eateries. Road trips allow you to experience places in greater depth, and can lead to experiences you otherwise wouldn’t have had. 
  8. Beachside or lakeside retreat. Spend a day or a weekend at a beach or lakeside. Activities for these getaways can include swimming, boating, fishing, or simply relaxing by the water. Bring plenty of alcohol-free beverages to sip on as you relax, or consider choosing a location where nearby bars and restaurants serve mocktails
  9. Enlightening cultural experiences. Visit museums, art galleries, or historical sites, or attend a theater performance or concert. This can be particularly enriching if the bachelor party takes place in a major city. 
  10. Escape room challenge. Participate in an escape room adventure in which the group has to solve puzzles and work together to "escape" within a set time limit. This can be a fun and engaging team-building activity. Be sure to make reservations beforehand, especially if your group is larger, as many popular escape rooms fill up fast. 

Each of these bachelor party ideas for non-drinkers can ensure a memorable and enjoyable experience without booze.

How To Plan a Sober Bachelor Party


Planning a sober bachelor party can be both fun and memorable, but it also requires plenty of time to ensure things run smoothly. Here are a few ways to plan a successful alcohol-free bachelor party celebration.


  • Understand the groom's interests. If you’re a best man or groomsman in charge of planning the bachelor party, the most important aspect is to focus on what the groom enjoys. Whether it's outdoor adventures, gaming, sporting events, or something more laid back, tailor the party to his preferences.

  • Set a budget and guest list. Determine how much you can spend and who should be invited. This will determine the scale of the party and which activities are within budget. Remember to consider the preferences and budgets of the guests, as well. It can be helpful to send out a survey beforehand to capture everyone’s needs and make planning easier. You can also consider starting a group chat so that everyone can communicate beforehand. 

  • Choose a unique venue. Instead of traditional party locations, opt for a venue that’s under-the-radar and likely to be more memorable. This could be a private cinema, a sports facility, an escape room, an arcade, or even a rented cabin in the woods. The more unique and exclusive to your group, the better!

  • Plan engaging activities. Focus on activities that everyone can enjoy. These may include go-kart racing, a day of paintball, a group cooking class, an NBA game, hiking off the beaten path, or a board game marathon.

  • Incorporate good food. Tasty food is the cornerstone of any party! Make dinner reservations at a highly rated restaurant or arrange for catering at your venue. Consider having a variety of foods to cater to different tastes and dietary preferences. Furthermore, you can also give the venue a heads up to remove traditional drink menus (which tend to be largely alcohol-centric) and offer a mocktail menu if possible. 

  • Consider a theme or special element. Adding a theme can make the party more exciting. You might consider a dress code or something as elaborate as a full-blown themed event. You could also include a special element such as a professional photographer or a live band, depending on budget and preferences. It can be fun to incorporate memorabilia, such as T-shirts, glasses (for non-alcoholic beverages, of course!), or even sunglasses, with the bachelor party name and dates.  

  • Send invitations and communicate clearly. Send out invitations well in advance so that attendees can plan for time off, budget for expenses, and book flights. Make sure to clearly communicate that the party is alcohol-free so guests know what to expect. This can help set the tone and ensure everyone is on the same page.

Sober Bachelor Parties: Here’s to a Fun One! 


Whatever your pre-wedding bachelor's party looks like, we hope it’ll allow you to celebrate with your closest companions while staying true to your goals. 

Let’s raise a mocktail together as we eagerly anticipate the friendship and nuptials ahead!  


Woo hoo! Your wedding is only a few months away, and as a final hurrah before the big day, you’re planning a bachelor party with your closest buds. If this were a few years ago, you all would be hitting the nightclubs and throwing back tequila shots like there’s no tomorrow. Now, you and many of your friends are now sober or sober curious, and you need a completely different pre-wedding celebration altogether.

Alcohol-fueled bachelor parties, while presented as fun and exciting in the moment, can actually result in alcohol poisoning, brushes with the law, broken phones, crashed vehicles, and an array of other potential regrets. Given that most bachelor party ideas are pretty boozy, how can you celebrate your upcoming marriage sans alcohol and its repercussions? In this blog post, we’ll be sharing several sober bachelor party ideas, so you can have a great time and stick to your health goals. Because who said you need alcohol to have a great time?!

Bachelor Parties: Backstory and Alcohol’s Role

Bachelor parties, commonly referred to as “stag nights” in certain cultures, have a rich history, dating back to ancient times. This pre-wedding celebration is said to have originated with the Spartans in the 5th century BCE During this era, military comrades would hold a dinner in the groom's honor and make toasts on his behalf, celebrating his last night as a single man. This practice marked the beginning of what we now know as bachelor parties.

Over time, the concept evolved and spread across different cultures. The basic premise remained the same: a celebration for the groom-to-be before his wedding. However, the nature of these celebrations varied greatly depending on cultural norms and societal expectations.

Alcohol became a key element of bachelor parties in many Western cultures during the 20th century. This shift can be attributed to a combination of factors. First, the relaxation of social norms around drinking played a significant role. The post-World War era, particularly in the United States and Europe, saw a significant shift in attitudes towards alcohol consumption. This period was marked by a rise in leisure activities and partying, with alcohol being a central feature.

Moreover, the commercialization of bachelor parties also contributed to the prominence of alcohol. As the event became more of a pre-wedding ritual, the hospitality and entertainment industries capitalized on it, promoting alcohol-heavy celebrations as a lucrative business.

10 Sober Bachelor Party Ideas

What does a bachelor party without alcohol look like? For starters, there won’t be any hangovers or hangxiety to worry about! But aside from that, you’ll be able to make precious memories with your closest friends without alcohol’s effects on your short-term or long-term well-being. 

Here are ten non-drinking bachelor party ideas.

  1. Outdoor adventuring. Who doesn’t love a little reset in nature?! Plan a trip that involves hiking, camping, and/or backpacking in a picturesque location. This outdoor-centric trip can also include activities such as rock climbing, white water rafting, or mountain biking. Of course, it’s important to be mindful of skill and ability levels, so if an outdoor trip is involved, ensure that everyone's unique needs are accounted for. 
  2. Sports day. Organize a day filled with various sports activities such as bowling, paintball, golf, laser tag, or go-kart racing. You can even rent a private venue for playing team sports such as volleyball, basketball, or soccer. This is a great way to bond and foster camaraderie among attendees while also getting some exercise in. Make sure to have plenty of alcohol-free drink options available to hydrate between games, such as a nutritious mocktail or fruit-infused water. 
  3. Gaming marathon. For all the gaming enthusiasts, set up a gaming marathon with favorite video games, virtual reality experiences, or classic board games and card games. Consider breaking up the time indoors with outings to nearby restaurants or parks. 
  4. Cooking class or culinary tour. Book a private cooking class if the group loves to cook or consists of many food enthusiasts. Alternatively, you could go on a culinary tour, sampling different types of cuisines. These activities can expand everyone’s culinary horizons and promote a better understanding of the local area if it’s a destination bachelor party. Always be sure to ask about allergies or dietary restrictions beforehand to make the event accessible to all guests. 
  5. Spa and relaxation weekend. For a more relaxed alcohol-free experience, plan a day at a spa for massages, saunas, and tranquility. This can be a great way to unwind and rejuvenate, especially with the many demands of work and wedding planning to return to post-event. You might consider unique experiences such as mud baths, European-style bath houses, or even specialty facials. Treat yourselves! 
  6. Adventure sports experiences. If the group thrives on adrenaline, consider activities such as skydiving, bungee jumping, or zip-lining. These high-octane experiences can promote an even deeper bond among group members. 
  7. Group road trip. Plan a road trip to a destination that the groom has always wanted to visit and that is accessible to all guests. This can include stops at various attractions, scenic spots, and trying out local eateries. Road trips allow you to experience places in greater depth, and can lead to experiences you otherwise wouldn’t have had. 
  8. Beachside or lakeside retreat. Spend a day or a weekend at a beach or lakeside. Activities for these getaways can include swimming, boating, fishing, or simply relaxing by the water. Bring plenty of alcohol-free beverages to sip on as you relax, or consider choosing a location where nearby bars and restaurants serve mocktails
  9. Enlightening cultural experiences. Visit museums, art galleries, or historical sites, or attend a theater performance or concert. This can be particularly enriching if the bachelor party takes place in a major city. 
  10. Escape room challenge. Participate in an escape room adventure in which the group has to solve puzzles and work together to "escape" within a set time limit. This can be a fun and engaging team-building activity. Be sure to make reservations beforehand, especially if your group is larger, as many popular escape rooms fill up fast. 

Each of these bachelor party ideas for non-drinkers can ensure a memorable and enjoyable experience without booze.

How To Plan a Sober Bachelor Party


Planning a sober bachelor party can be both fun and memorable, but it also requires plenty of time to ensure things run smoothly. Here are a few ways to plan a successful alcohol-free bachelor party celebration.


  • Understand the groom's interests. If you’re a best man or groomsman in charge of planning the bachelor party, the most important aspect is to focus on what the groom enjoys. Whether it's outdoor adventures, gaming, sporting events, or something more laid back, tailor the party to his preferences.

  • Set a budget and guest list. Determine how much you can spend and who should be invited. This will determine the scale of the party and which activities are within budget. Remember to consider the preferences and budgets of the guests, as well. It can be helpful to send out a survey beforehand to capture everyone’s needs and make planning easier. You can also consider starting a group chat so that everyone can communicate beforehand. 

  • Choose a unique venue. Instead of traditional party locations, opt for a venue that’s under-the-radar and likely to be more memorable. This could be a private cinema, a sports facility, an escape room, an arcade, or even a rented cabin in the woods. The more unique and exclusive to your group, the better!

  • Plan engaging activities. Focus on activities that everyone can enjoy. These may include go-kart racing, a day of paintball, a group cooking class, an NBA game, hiking off the beaten path, or a board game marathon.

  • Incorporate good food. Tasty food is the cornerstone of any party! Make dinner reservations at a highly rated restaurant or arrange for catering at your venue. Consider having a variety of foods to cater to different tastes and dietary preferences. Furthermore, you can also give the venue a heads up to remove traditional drink menus (which tend to be largely alcohol-centric) and offer a mocktail menu if possible. 

  • Consider a theme or special element. Adding a theme can make the party more exciting. You might consider a dress code or something as elaborate as a full-blown themed event. You could also include a special element such as a professional photographer or a live band, depending on budget and preferences. It can be fun to incorporate memorabilia, such as T-shirts, glasses (for non-alcoholic beverages, of course!), or even sunglasses, with the bachelor party name and dates.  

  • Send invitations and communicate clearly. Send out invitations well in advance so that attendees can plan for time off, budget for expenses, and book flights. Make sure to clearly communicate that the party is alcohol-free so guests know what to expect. This can help set the tone and ensure everyone is on the same page.

Sober Bachelor Parties: Here’s to a Fun One! 


Whatever your pre-wedding bachelor's party looks like, we hope it’ll allow you to celebrate with your closest companions while staying true to your goals. 

Let’s raise a mocktail together as we eagerly anticipate the friendship and nuptials ahead!  


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